I work with this guy in a small office environment. I have a boyfriend who I live with, its my house and he simply lives with me.
I met this guy almost a year ago and we get on well at work, talking every now and again.
Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years but im not sure where its going.
I am really interested but not sure if he is.
He hasnt got a girlfriend at the moment.
We have been friends at work now for almost a year.
What should I do, do I drop hints to him and see whats happens?.
Should I tell him what I think, or do I wait for him to say something to me?.
I care about my boyfriend and dont want to be on my own, I dont know if I want to leave him if this guy at work isnt interested.
Do I say something or wait for him to say something?
2006-09-15 08:25:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously you don't really care about your boyfriend and are using him as a security blanket. That's just not right after four years. Whatever happens with the other guy,you should have a talk with the bf. It may be time to go your separate ways for his sake if not for yours.
2006-09-15 08:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't you deal with the live in boyfriend before you start looking to replace him? I mean, really. Here's what I think I hear from you. I have a live in boyfriend but I'm not sure about him and there's this guy at work that may or may not be interested but if he is interested then I'll dump my live in boyfriend and give the work guy a go because I don't want to be alone. That's messed up.
Here's some honesty. Be alone for a bit, It ain't bad. Discover who you are as a person by not defining yourself by the current relationship your in.
You don't really care all that much about your boyfriend if your ready to leave him if this guy in the office is interested. He's become a crutch. He's a "better then nothing" relationship.
The guy at work is your way out of the relationship. He's someone you talk to "now and again" which means you don't really know him. Is it possible you idealizing this guy all out of proportion because you want him to be "the guy".
If you really want to get to know the guy at work then out the current live in boyfriend and take a chance. Maybe it works. Maybe it doesn't, but at least you're being fair to all involved including yourself.
2006-09-15 15:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you have a perfectly good guy waiting for you at home, and I promise you that showing interest in this work guy will ruin the good thing that you have. Now I have a question to ask you: will you leave your boyfriend if the guy at work is interested, but stay with your boyfriend if he is not? Cuz if so, then I don't think you really want to be with this boy. You should break up with him or resolve any problems with your boyfriend BEFORE you dive into a new relationship.
2006-09-15 15:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are that confused then you need to take time to figure out exactly what YOU want.
Write it down, the pros and cons of each guy.
Remembe tho, its too easy to build up a fantasy about a new person! Most times the excitement of something new will end up being a disappointment once it becomes a reality.
Think of this; Do u need reassurance that you are still attractive to men? this is a common thing with us girls
2006-09-15 15:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you know what you have you've been together for 4 years. But you don't know what you'll be getting with this other guy. Every one seem great in the beginning but how do you know that won't change when he gets what he wants. If your guy at home is good to you doesn't abuse you and loves you what more do you want.
2006-09-15 15:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've had a boyfriend for 4 yrs... your living with him? but you want the guy from work...
Depends if ur serious with ur bf.. talk to him... see where he's planning on going. From there u'd have a better chance of making the right decision.
Good luck
2006-09-15 15:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by yassem1ne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say youu care about your boy friend then why should you care about that guy? Even if you ask him or he asks you, it is going to create a problem between your BF and you.If you are prepared not to care him if this guy says ok, then you drop a hint and see his reactions.
2006-09-15 15:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by JILMAAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop some hints, see what happens. If it progresses, then that is when you really need to decide how much you love your boyfriend...
2006-09-15 15:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't do anything until you figure things out with your boyfriend. it's not fair to either of them to pursue someone else while you're taken
2006-09-15 15:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋