Why do women get attracted to men that treat them bad and, take it out on nice guys like me?

Answer 1

Nice guys finish last. See the source below. Being nice is about being agreeable, not causing offence, putting others way before you. (By the way, there is a difference between being nice and being good. Being good can include being courageous, standing up for what you believe in, even when it's not convenient to. Are you those things? I bet you're not. Those are things women go for).

When you prioritise a woman you've just met before yourself, and agree with everything a woman says, women won't find you attractive because they will think you are doing it because they think you think you are worth less than them, and they will lose respect for you (and attraction) as a result. They might become your friend, or you might become someone for them to treat badly, but they won't think of you as a lover.

Also, nice guys tend not to have many of the qualities women go for most, e.g. mystery and self-confidence and 'protector' quality, that bad guys appear to have.

Yes, in a relationship it will also turn out that bad guys have negative qualities, such as insecurity, jealousy, cowardice (although they are expressed in different ways to how nice guys express them) but these are also qualities that nice guys have too, and with nice guys, these negative characteristics are much easier for a woman to detect before entering a relationship.

Your solution isn't to become a bad guy. It's to develop truly into someone with all the best qualities of a nice guy (reflective, kind, loyal) and all the best qualities of a bad guy (self-confident, strong, mysterious). This takes time, can't be faked, but it's the direction you need to go in to get da ladies.

Hope this helps

Answer 2

First of all the abbreviation of etcetera is spelled "etc.," not "ect." Second, women love men who treat women like crap for three reasons. 1) Men who have the audacity to treat a women, especially a good women, like crap is because they themselves are most likely good looking. Not too many homely or mediocre looking men can get away with treating a hot woman like crap. Thus, they try the other method which never works either, being nice. Oh, the being nice thing might work for a very short while, you know, just prior to any intimacy entering into the picture, but ultimately the homely guy will lose out to a good looking asshole. 2) Men who have the strength to treat a woman like crap usually have money. The more money, the more crap the woman will put up with. That's because most women, not all, but most women are materialistic and like things. Problem is, they'd get more material things from a homely guy with money than they would a good looking asshole with money, but, the looks mixed with the prospect of material things is a breading ground for bad decision making. 3) Women, like men, are sinful and as such have imperfect reasoning skills. Thus, they see the asshole as a challenge, a place where they think they can come in and finally be the one that fixes the guy. They are instead playing right into the game plan set before them. Guys know that their asshole ways works in the guys favor until a better looking, wealthier, total asshole comes along and the woman leaves the first asshole for the second asshole. And that's the way it is.

Answer 3

I don't know the answer to that. I only know that women like to be treated good and they find someone that treats them good for awhile and then things go wrong. I don't think women are purposely attracted to men that treat them bad. From experience i would rather be treated like a queen. I've gone through men cheating on me and i'm married. He doesn't treat me right but i wasn't attracted to that. For the longest time he was good to me. It's hard to answer because i've been trying to find the truth about him and nobody seems to help. I do pray and god has said that he's doing some wrong things. I would like to know so I can confront him with proof. He's the type that denies everything and blames me. I really think that a lot of women need real love because real love doesn't hurt.

Answer 4

I think it has something to do with them not believing that you are a nice guy. If you treat them too well, sometimes they get suspicious that you might be hiding a deep dark side that will only come out once you are involved in a relationship with them. Being too nice is definitely a problem. I think that is has something to do with yourself too. A lot of 'nice guys' (and I am one of them), try too hard and it comes through when you're with someone. When you try too hard, it is a turn off to the woman, even if you mean really mean it. The world is a distrustful place and most people play their hand very closely. Many times the worst people come across as the nicest.

Answer 5

Not all women are attracted to bad boys, but those that are seem to think bad boys are "Alpha Males" (they are not actually) and they can change the bad boy by making him be so "in love" with her that he will do anything to keep her. Try not to catch a woman on the rebound from a bad boy. If you find yourself in that position, let the woman know you are not a bad guy but also not a wimp or a sensitive girlie man and you that you will not tolerate being shat upon, abused, or have anything "taken out on you" by her or any woman for that matter. Life is too short to put up with shite from anyone.........
BTW I speak from being a former bad boy that became a "Mr. Sensitive" girlie man. Neither worked in the long term. Women called me an a5shole when I was the bad boy and didn't respect me when I was a girlie man. Decent well adjusted mature women like a balanced guy that has his life and his act together

Good Luck on finding Ms. Right

Answer 6

Not ALL women are attracted to men like that, and not ALL of those women take it out on other men. Get that part straight first.

Usually however the women were attracted to these men BEFORE they were treated badly, and discovered it later. Not surprising is it, that they would mistrust men after a bad experience?

Answer 7

Because you let them. You need to stand up for yourself. Also, don't be too nice too soon. It is nice to take a girl flowers, but save the 2 dozen long stemmed roses delivered to her office for your six month anniversary at the earliest.

Some women who are attracted to bad boys will eventually mature and be interested in you, but others are doomed for a life of unhappy relationships.

Answer 8

because the bad guys look just like the nice guys, and a person doesn't even know a person well even if they live with them for years. They merely take it out on the next guy or guys that come along because they ae trying to teach themselves a lesson to not get involved.

Answer 9

When we first start dating those guys that treat us bad, they treat us like a queen. After we fall in love with them, and they know they aren't going to lose us, they start to treat us like sh*t. Unfortunatly many women stay in these relationships and deal with the treatment b/c they feel like they are in love with that man

Answer 10

DUDE IM WONDERING WHY IM ATTRACTED TO ASSHOLE GUYS BUT A SWEET GUY COULD BE RIGHT THERE BUT I DONT SEE IT. WELL PRETTY MUCH ITS LIKE THIS GIRLS WANT A BAD BOY SOMETIMES GIRLS SEE NICE GUYS AS LIKE A BROTHER TYPE AND ARE NOT INTRESTED IN THEM SO THATS PRETTY MUCH WHY HELL CURRENTLY I HAVE THE BEST BOYFRIEND EVER HE TREATS ME GOOD AND HE IS A NICE GUY AD I REALLY LIKE HIM AND THE REASON WHY IM SO HAPPY IS BECAUSE I GOT SICK OF BEING TREATED LIKE **** SO HOPE THIS HELPS