theres a guy i really like and i've liked him for some time but i dont think he will go out with me -even though he likes me and we get on great- so i want to forget him and move on.
But i just CANT i dont even know if i WANT to move on every time i'm flirting with someone else i think of him,i cant sleep at night cos of him and i've turned down a few other boys cos of him
he just has to smile at me to get me high and if he doesnt answer my emails i get depressed
i just cant get him of mind!!!!
its torture i just want his attention and i'm not to clingy
i know i should move on but it feels like the hardest thing in my life
he makes me so happy and so miserable
can anyone help??
2006-09-15 07:43:37 · 23 answers · asked by Smile-for-me :) 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
youre never gonna know exactly what he thinks until you ask him. guys appreciate a girl whos honest and are flattered if the girl asks the question. ask him what he thinks of you and if theres any possibility of things going further than friendship. that will answer your question which will take away that annoying curiosity. if he doesnt like you in that way, you know hes not meant to be the one, but you can still remain good friends
hope it goes well for you!!
2006-09-16 09:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by supersam82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go out with the guy that has you thinking about first. Yes, this may sound odd, but you have some unfinished stuff with him. And you have lots of questions too still with him. Maybe you truly love him and have just realized it now.
Moving on is actually pretty easy too. After you have part 1 from above done and everything is finally settled , then you have to find new interests that you have and join a new group that will encourage you to do that. You'll always meet new and interesting people that way and that will help you to move ahead instead of stagnating alone.
2006-09-15 07:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't work like that!
For example, imagine someone really close to you died and you were suffering with grief, you can't suddenly speed the process up to get it over and done with.
It's a natural feeling and it just takes time, some people get over things quicker than others, depends how close you were, etc etc.
It will eventually dissapear from your thoughts and become just a distant memory, how long it takes is down to you.
2006-09-15 08:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it helps, this feeling does pass, if left untended. It's only when it is tended to that it swells and becomes this monstrous pain you're feeling right now.
All you can really do is to push yourself to doing something that distracts you, something you need to do, and let that occupy your mind for a time. Then do something else that absorbs you, until you can't do that, and so on.
In time, you'll feel the pain lifting, and you'll be able to move on from there.
2006-09-15 07:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try writing him a letter (that he will never see). In the letter list all of the reasons you like him, and then list the things that aren't so good about him, and the reasons why you know you need to move on. Then take the letter and tie it to a helium balloon and release it into the sky and wave goodbye to your broken heart. You can do it, you are stronger than you think. Good luck :)
2006-09-15 07:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin,
You need to stay away from him totally, when u find yourself thinking of him you need to make yourself go do something totally opposite.
If you don't get over this person, you're not living y our life and it will pass you by! You could even end up not even seeing the perfect guy right in front of u bcuz of this!
Stop being stupid and lead the life you were blessed with
2006-09-15 07:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by koleebear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a great story of love....Let me know what you think!!!
A farmer had some puppies he needed to sell.
He painted a Sign advertising the 20 pups. And set about nailing it to a post on the edge of his yard. As he was driving the last nail into the post, he felt a tug on his overalls. He looked down into the eyes of a little boy.
"Mister," he said, "I want to buy one of your puppies."
"Well," said the farmer, as he rubbed the sweat of the back of his neck, "These puppies come from fine parents and cost a good deal of money."
The boy dropped his head for a moment. Then reaching deep into his pocket, he pulled out a handful of change and held it up to the farmer. "I've got thirty-nine cents. Is that enough to take a look?" "Sure," said the farmer. And with that he let out a whistle "Here, Dolly!" he called. Out from the doghouse and down the ramp ran Dolly followed by four little balls of fur.
The little boy pressed his face against the chain link fence. His eyes danced with delight. As the dogs made their way to the fence, the little boy noticed something else stirring inside the doghouse. Slowly another little ball appeared, this one noticeably smaller. Down the ramp it slid. Then in a somewhat awkward manner, the little pup began hobbling toward the others, doing its best to catch up.
"I want that one," the little boy said, pointing to the runt. The farmer knelt down at the boy's side and said, "Son, you don't want that puppy. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other dogs would."
With that the little boy stepped back from the fence, reached down, and began rolling up one leg of his trousers. In doing so he revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe. Looking back up at the farmer, he said, "You see sir, I don't run too well myself, and he will need someone who understands."
Huggs and Kisses,,,,
Lonnie
2006-09-15 07:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by lonnie_m_d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there It's a difficult time But eventually you will move on You will never stop thinking of him but you will put it in prospective. So sorry I can't give you a easy way to get him out your mind because I haven't found one myself but I do understand your situation. If you believe in God, PRAY
2006-09-15 07:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by tricia5661 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you are into him? If so, maybe he doesnt want to ruin the friendship you have. Or maybe he isnt into you like you are into him. In that case, I would tell myself if he isnt into me then why should I be into him? There are other guys out there that would love to be with you and you should give yourself a chance to get to know them before you blow them off. The best things come when you least expect them to.
2006-09-15 07:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by jenn87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he likes you, then why not ask him out. If he says No, then you will have a springboard to move on. I think the "Not knowing" is torturing you. You may be surprised if you ask him out and he says Yes. Guys are cowardly. When I was single, I would have LOVED for a girl to ask me out.
2006-09-15 07:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by Shyguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋