Why is it so hard for a bigger girl - not huge... just healthy... with kids to get a date?
2006-09-15 07:29:21 · 28 answers · asked by bubbles_n_ar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HONESTLY , I THINK IT IS BECAUSE OF THE WOMENS LOW SELF ESTEEM MOST OF THE TIME...WHETHER YOU REALIZE IT OR NOT YOU GIVE OFF THIS VIBE WHEN YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH THE WAY YOU LOOK , AND GUYS TEND TO VEER AWAY FROM THAT LOW SELF ESTEEM IMAGE , AS IT USUALLY COMES WITH BAGGAGE...MYSELF I ENJOY WOMEN WITH SOMETHING TO HOLD ONTO , NOT THESE ANOREXIC (WANNABE FASHION MODELS) THAT EVERYONE SEEMS TO BE TRYING TO BE , OR GET WITH...I'LL TAKE A GOOD HEALTHY CURVY WOMAN ANYTIME ! DONT GET INTO TOOTHPICKS AT ALL !.....ALL I CAN GIVE YOU IN WAY OF ADVICE IS , TO TRY TO PUT OUT A HAPPIER VIBE WHEN YOU'RE IN PUBLIC , AND YOU WILL FIND WHO YOU'RE LOOKING FOR , GOOD LUCK !...............ADDENDUM ...AFTER READING SOME OF THESE , I GOTTA TELL YA , DONT LISTEN TO THE NAY SAYERS , ALL GUYS ARE NOT LIKE THAT , I AM CURRENTLY WITHA VERY BEAUTIFUL "HEAVY SET " WOMAN AND SHE HAS TWO KIDS AND THAT STUFF DONT BOTHER ME , THE KIDS AND I GET ALONG , AND SHE MAKES ME HAPPIER THAN ANY WOMAN I HAVE EVER BEEN WITH ....I LOVE HER , AND SHE LOVES ME , AND LIFE JUST COULDNT BE BETTER ...IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH FAT OR SKINNY IN THE LONG RUN ..ITS ALL IN HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT SOMEONE , AND THEY DO ABOUT YOU.....AND YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL TO SOMEONE OUT THERE ! THEY JUST HAVENT FOUND YA YET !.....TAKE CARE.......OH ! AND FOR THAT 2X4 COMMENT ! WHATS THE MATTER MAN ! ? IF YOU NEED A 2X4 STRAPPED TO YOUR SKINNY @SS , THEN YOU JUST DONT HAVE THE RIGHT EQUIPMENT FOR A REAL JOB BOY !...PERHAPS WHEN YOU GROW UP , IT WILL MAKE IT TO MAN SIZE , HUH PENCIL D*CK !?...DONT FAULT THE WOMAN , FOR YOUR (SHORT) COMINGS !........GR1M
2006-09-15 07:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by (\ G®1M R34|Dê® /) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are not looking for kids, however there is the "Right person" for everyone. Some men like bigger girls. And some also do not mind kids. Try going to places where single dads hang out. (They already have kids so it is not really an issue) Many larger ladies are really hot. If this is an issue with you try to loose some weight. Not by diet - but sensible exercise and change of diet.
Hope this answers your question.
2006-09-15 07:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Duane L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To most people "bigger girls" means fat girls. There's no way around it. As for the kids--well that's more mouths to feed and bodies to clothe. And then when it comes to disciplining the "brats", their mother will tell the boyfriend to mind his p's and q's, and remind him that he's not their dad. When the kids hear their mother say this often enough, they will show gross disrespect to the boyfriend. The guy just can't win. And then the guy's family will call the "big girl" a golddigger.
You get the picture.
2006-09-15 07:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
'with kids' - lots of valid reasons, check out my previous answers for a comprehensive answer. (reminder of previous banging sessions/emotional baggage/ what if father returns?/ break up and kid gets hurt too/ real father avoiding responsibilities / friends & family ask 'why cant he get a girl of his own'? etc etc.
'bigger girls' - why have someone out of shape when you can have someone in proportion? Women would take a healthy athletic guy over a potato couch anyday, men are the same.
2006-09-15 07:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I find that men usually don't want to deal with someone elses kids. If they wanted kids, they would have some of their own.
I am not huge either, but healthy. I am 5'10" tall, 175lbs, and a bust size of 40DD. This same thing happened to me, and not until my kids were grown and gone, did I find a boyfriend. It had nothing to do with my "size" most men just do not want to raise kids.
2006-09-15 07:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by shewolf 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dating men are usually looking for someone to have fun with or to start a life with. If you have children it can be difficult to fit into that program. You have to specifically seek out men who would be interested in picking up someone elses "beenies". They are out there, just not in the typical dating field. Just keep in mind that these guys will most likely be "healthy" too.
Best of luck.
2006-09-15 07:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Billy! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you just have not found the right man. I am a bigger girl with a child and people hit on me all the time. The only thing with me is, I have a man. I hope that you find the right man to respect you and your children.
2006-09-15 07:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by sweethonesty1699 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
umm thats not always right you just need to find the right person that will love you and love ur kids. But a lot of men do not like bigger girls cuz people are so rude i hate men like that cuz it does not metter how you look its whats inside
2006-09-15 07:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because men are far more immature than women, and they think with there d1cks. Most are kids themselves no matter what their age, and they don't want to share their toys. As far as dating bigger women, it isn't the "cool" thing to do. Most of them don't know how to feel with emotion. That's why most of them will grow to be old lonely single men with std's.
Just my opinion.
2006-09-15 07:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by suchaprettyface11 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the ones who are scared of kids or think they cant havea gf that is biggerthan a size 3 ae self ish any why keep looking there r goood men out there maybe your looking in the wrong place i have a friend who a really large lady w/4kids she met a man at church got married and thatwas over 20 yrs ago try looking at your church
2006-09-15 07:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋