I started a new job and my new boss is a female from Glendale, CA. She is Hispanic and grew up in L.A. She is new to KS and I told her that I have a great dentist. I wanted her to know that the hygenist is hispanic too without coming out and saying just that, so I said, "The hygenist's name is Ana." I know she picked up on this clue because she said, "You really like you're dentist, huh." Do you think she took offense at my obvious attempt to let her know the hygenist was hispanic like her or do you think that she might appriciate my attempt at diplomacy by not coming right out and saying it?
What's the right way to communicate to a minority that he or she would be comfortable at my dentist/doctor because they are a diverse doctor in a midwest city?
2006-09-15 07:26:56 · 20 answers · asked by icu812 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
it wasnt racist. but just kinda weird. im hispanic n honestly, i really dont give a damn if ur denist is hispanic, or there were any other hispanics where u live. i dont think ur boss really cared. do u care when people say their dentist is great?
but wit the last part of ur question....r u kiddin me? the rite way to communicate to a minority? wats that supposed to mean? u gotta treat us differently from u white people? n i think ur boss is fine wit the dentist she has now. u know, NOT ALL hispanics are racist. i know for a fact that i dont care if my dentist is white, black, or watever. geez....
2006-09-15 08:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't mention whether your dentist is hispanic, in fact you only mentioned the hygenist is hispanic, so why should your boss be comfortable with that?
You're attitude seems to state that a hispanic woman would only be comfortable with other hispanics. You assume along racial lines and were stereotyping her. You also go further in assuming that, Ana is a hispanic name. Unless you wrote it out, she might have only decided you said Anna. It sounds to me like you came across as weird. And mentioning it again will only cuase problems. I wouldn't worry about your boss or her abilities to make herself comfortable. I'm sure she's capable.
2006-09-15 11:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by SnakEve 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 00:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by owsley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're boss said that because you probably came off looking foolish talking about your dentist all the time. She probably could give two shits about the dentist you go to.
You shouldn't treat you hispanic boss as a "minority" (that means you're putting yourself above her) just treat her like you would anyone else, and things will be much easier, and a lot less uncomfortable for all.
2006-09-15 07:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I feel it just depends on the tone of voice-the mannerisms that were used. I know when people have said remarks to me like that I was just like "so, whats your point?"-I really don't give a shiit if they are my race or not, I am comfortable with any-as long as they don't attack me-eeesh!! I know you tired to not offend her, but maybe she thought otherwise, just make a comment about it discreetly-like "oh, the other day, when I said that comment about my dentist, I just stated that her name was Ana, because I know of a lot of Hispanics who always are interested in meeting their own race, in a new environment in which they don't know anyone-I didn't mean to offend"-or something along the lines.
2006-09-15 07:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she knew. I'm Hispanic and I wouldn't be offended at all.
Was she looking for a dentist or were you just trying to let her know she wasn't the only Hispanic you know?
They don't have many Hispanics up there do they?
2006-09-15 08:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by Prissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would a minority person care whether or not her dentist or doctor is the same race (as long as they are a reputable dentist or doctor)? Would you care if your dentist was white (or whatever race you happen to be)? Does it matter?
Yes, I think she did take offense. Race should not matter and you should never bring that up. Shame on you!
2006-09-15 08:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably took offense at the fact that you thought she should go to a dentist that employs Hispanics and not because he's a great dentist.
2006-09-15 07:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by Alison 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Know you were trying to be nice but in this situation you really just shouldnt have said anything at all. Sometimes even though you mean well, people may take offense to things, thats just the way some people are. I know where you are coming from but sometimes people don't care about race when it pertains to things like that, it would probably be best to just let her imply it on her own. Sometimes you just have to play it by ear with people. What offends one person may not offend another! : )
2006-09-15 07:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by cjfox18 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's the right way to communicate to a minority.......
There's your problem... You're seeing her as a minority instead of as a person...
If my boss were hispanic and my hygeniest were also hispanic it would never occur to me that she might be more comfortable with my dentist because of that... Maybe because it makes no difference to me...
2006-09-15 07:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋