Wouldn't you rather take all that money and buy a house or go on a long vacation.?? What is the big deal it's one day. All I need is my fiance and our parents.
2006-09-15 07:17:23 · 40 answers · asked by Raineybaby 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hey SPIT where did you get married???
2006-09-15 07:24:57 · update #1
Trust me I am not poor but I don't see throwing away thousands to impress people. I don't need that obviously some women do.
2006-09-15 07:39:13 · update #2
I agree with you totally! We had a small, inexpensive wedding. It was perfect and it didn't cost much money at all.
We considered eloping, but when it came down to it, I really wanted my closest family and friends with me on that very important day. It was so great to have my dad walk me down the isle, and have my sister by my side as my maid of honor.
But, I agree--I'd rather sink 10 grand into a house rather than pay for a wedding! I have friends who went into some serious debt for their huge wedding, only to divorce a couple of years later (with wedding debt still hanging over them). Silly, if you ask me...
2006-09-15 09:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by lucybelle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, not only women are obsessed with big wedding, men are too sometime, the thing is, it is a very special time in your life and it's a memorable moment who suppose to be forever, the fact is you want something simple but everything is so expensive that you end up with a big $$$, but eh, you have to admit, when you are in Love, you want to share it with all the people you know in the world. It is hard to keep it small.
I'm in love and my wedding next year will be something and I will share it with as much people that I can possibly invite + a website so others can enjoy it.
LOVE is the answer.
2006-09-15 07:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by chantal c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, I don't know about a BIG wedding. But I have several friends and a huge family that I don't feel I can leave out. Also, a lot of girls dream of their weddings since age 5. As I get older, I'm starting to not care so much about the big wedding, and really just focusing on what is important to me.
2006-09-15 07:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that everyone woman is...just probably those that had those 'princess' fantasies growing up. I think, too, the kind that do are the 'me me me' kind...more in love with the idea of the wedding than the man they are marrying. I always envisioned having a simple little deal...preferring a small intimate thing on the beach or perhaps elope to Vegas or even the courthouse...something along those lines...now it appears I may be having a church wedding afterall. And then I think it's possible that some brides bow to the pressure of others. I'm not even engaged yet but one of my best friends is begging to plan my wedding, another begging to plan the bachelorette party, etc. I know of one couple that's been married for 14 years and still paying for their's.
2006-09-15 07:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%. I'm a girl, but I've never really dreamed of a big wedding or anything like that. If I were to ever get married I'd do it in Vegas or somewhere like that. I don't need a $5,000 wedding dress. Some women just need a day to be all about them, so they do up the big wedding. All you have to do is watch any episode of Bridezillas to be scared off from doing that.
2006-09-15 07:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by stuckinamoment 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You've polled every single woman and found out that they are all "obsessed" with big weddings? I'm impressed.
If someone wants to throw a big party, who am I to tell them it's wrong? Who am I to tell them they spent too much? If they can afford it and it makes them happy, who am I to rain on their parade?
However, I do have a major problem with people that get stuck in this "It's all about me" mode for a wedding. It's not. If you can't afford to treat your guests as guests, then you shouldn't be having a big wedding.
Simply because you don't see the need to have a party celebrating your friends, family, and marriage doesn't mean those who do are any "less" than you. Why do you care so much? The lady doth protest too much.
2006-09-15 12:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am very much a woman and I was far from obsessed with a big wedding. That was the absolute last thing I wanted. We actually decide to go to Gatlinburg and get married in a beautiful little white chapel. It was just me, the groom, and our immediate families. We loved it and if we had it to do all over again, we would most definitely go back to Chapel at the Park.
2006-09-15 18:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We're having a wedding of only 60 people or so and it's still going to cost between 10-15,000.
Why spend that on one day? Well, because we're only going to do this once, and we want to do it right. We want it to be the special day that we will remember forever.
Now given the divorce rates and statistics, maybe saying we'll be doing this once is naive. But I'm not going into this marriage planning for it to fail. I'm going to treat it like it's the only one and live full out.
Money is a renewable resource anyway.
2006-09-15 07:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by tharrison13 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nope, not here. We spent about $4000 two years ago for our wedding with 35 guests.
We didn't have doves to fly away, big chunks of ice to melt or lots of flowers to die the next day. We made our own music (on CD) for both the ceremony and reception. We spend our money on a video photographer to record the event, a great sit down meal for our guests at a 4-star Michelin restaurant, and a dress I could wear to other formal events.
2006-09-15 07:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by JQT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way you do. In our local newspaper, there are always as many marriage license records as there are divorce records. So in a society that can easily get rid of an unwanted marriage, it's ridiculous to spend $20,000 on a wedding and not have it paid off before you divorce. I got married in Las Vegas last year and had THE best time and I would reccomend it to anyone else. I have a video, pictures and had an actual ceremony, but it maybe cost $500 or less with tipping. So much better than stressing out over "who gives a crap" details!
2006-09-15 07:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by spitonapit 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋