With someone I can't be with because he lives 3 hours away. The thing is, there's nothing wrong with me and my boyfriend-- I don't know why I cheated. Why do I want two guys? How come I can't just pick one and stick to it?
2006-09-15 07:04:34 · 23 answers · asked by Mollie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were living in the moment and listening to your body and not your brain.
Maybe you don't really want either one. You just wanted to see what it was like with another person. Maybe the other person was what you needed at that particular moment.
Take some time and figure out what you want.
2006-09-15 07:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you want more men is because you are genetically programmed to feel that way! This is a result of evolution (please don't tell me you think God just "zapped" life on this planet). The more men a woman sleeps with the better the chance the human species will survive. Tens of thousands of years ago, women would sleep with lots of men, out of desire. This is why after sex a man goes limp and you want more! I'm not saying throw it around, but you have this desire (as do most women) because you are human.
Now, I don't know if you feel this way, but I think it IS possible to love one person & sleep with others (safely) and not fall for the "other guy(s)". You are merely satisfying an urge. As far as the fantasy of being with two men - go for it! You are only young once! Make sure no one will find out! It can ruin you.
Think about it, Would you rather die with unfufilled fantisies in your head, or with the gratification of knowing what its like? Really, you don't even have to tell anyone what you've done. Its your fantasy, its your business.
I know there are people that are going to read this and think I'm nuts, but face it - if you don't feel this way - there's something wrong with you. Are you telling me you don't think you could sleep with someone else (on vacation/business trip) and go back to the one you love and still be sincere? Who got hurt in this situation? He doesn't know, she is satisfied & the other guy is happy. WIN, WIN, WIN!
Have FUN!!!
Best answer?
2006-09-15 14:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Brendan R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one on here can answer this. You need to think about why you did it. Even if you were drunk or messed up there has to be a reason you would throw away a perfectly good relationship for a one night stand.
My guess is that the boyfriend and you don't have enough uh, spice in your relationship. Work on that or get out before it happens again, at current rate, it will. No one wants to get hurt.
2006-09-15 14:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not ready to settle down. There's nothing wrong with you. Just admit that you're not ready to commit and have some fun. If you're cheating on your boyfriend it isn't fun anymore - you should probably dump him.
FP
2006-09-15 14:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what? Us guys do it all the time. Just watch out for the female of the species, they are the ones who will start calling you names.
2006-09-15 14:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but if you don't forgive (yourself) and forget, it will have a major impact on your relationship. Figure out what you want and evaluate whether the current bf fits the bill.
2006-09-15 14:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....self centered..............
my problem isn't the multiple partners thing it's the not being brave enough to be honest thing. Cheating isn't a crime of lust, it's a crime of cowardice. You should have the decency and the balls to let somebody know there's someone else.
2006-09-15 14:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by niwriffej 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just pick the one that makes u happy every day and treats u the way u wants.
2006-09-15 14:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause your a hoe. Thats f*cked up. I hope he finds out and leaves you. I hate girls like you. Your the reason guys think all girls cheat.
2006-09-15 14:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you probably just feel atractive to this other guy. which is hard cause it makes you doubt about your feelings for the other guy.
which one you love or really like, and which one is just attractive?
b carefull w/ which u choose
2006-09-15 14:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋