a couple of weeks ago, seeing that sth is wrong with my relationship, i asked my bf if he wanted some time off. he was thinking about it (!) and then said like i can go whenever i want, without even telling you. i can go when i'm fed up.....well, after that he talked to my friends behind my back about things he would like to change about me. i called him and told him to finish some things that he has to do in his life anyways (getting a degree) and i'll think about changing these things related to me. he was like:ok. then, 2 days later he called and i was not at home. he said he would call back, but didn;t. i sent him a message, no reply. called him, no reply. sent a message, no reply. i really hate this undefined situation... should i wait or accept that the relationship ended? i'd rather have a proper argument with him and then know when it's over. i simply don't know how to act.i'm hurt, but he doesn't realize it.
2006-09-15 07:03:57 · 21 answers · asked by LadyPandora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is all this stress worth it? I'm guessing you'll be happier without him. It'll be sad that a relationship ended, but believe me, anyone who causes you this much stress isn't worth it.
2006-09-15 07:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all i think you should give him a space... after a while let him wonder why you had called him or why you stoped calling.... so don't panic, dont call him, don't do anything!!! let him call you let him chase you...if there was something strong he will find you. If there wasn't then apperantly the crowd will let you know soon enough... the point is you need to let him miss you. If he does call act like you are busy exactly at the time he is calling, and then let him know you could meet him some where, but you need to set the time and place. I suggest this because then depending on what he wants to speak to about then you can take it as an opportunity to let him know how he hurt you and that you won't tolorate it if he plans to stay with you and if he is serious then he will make the propper changes.
Good luck!
2006-09-15 14:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by missme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuck, i relate. Lack of closure is awful and anxiety provoking. But unless something is wrong and he lacks access to means of communication, it sounds as if you have tried to reach out, he has given you his answer through his actions, or lack thereof. some people are not able to communicate well when angry or hurt. I would be quite angry and upset in your shoes...ive been there. perhaps some time away from the situation, not trying to talk w/ him, is the route to take temporily, to focus on yourself,moving forward, figure out what you want, what makes you content, what is important for you right now. the here and now is all we have anyway...tough decision, but focus perhaps on getting few the next few days with out trying to talk w. him. he knows how to get to youif he chooses to do so, right?
2006-09-15 14:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he likes the new freedom that you gave him, if you love him you should try talking to him.( that is if he returns you call or message) You may feel hurt now but if it is not the right relationship for you then why waste any more time in it. Do what makes you happy. You may feel hurt but that doesn't mean you love him.
2006-09-15 14:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by ann.natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write him a letter explaining to him why it is over. That way you have closure, regardless of what he does. If he is talking behind your back and wanting to change you, you will only be in for misery if you try to stay with him. Get on with your life and only change the things YOU want to change. you will find someone who appreciates you for who you are!
2006-09-15 14:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys play lil Na Na boo boo fits if you play it takes a lot longer if just sit back and have a good time and wait for him to be over it he'll see your alight and want you back badder than ever
2006-09-15 14:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by confused j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person once asked me, "whose happiness are you responsible for?"
I said "mine, and _____(wifes name)"
He said "no", you are responsible for YOUR OWN.
You may be able to INFLUENCE someone elses happiness, but you are not responsible for it.
This guy sounds like a guy with no backbone. It is easier for him to justify in his mind if you do the leaving. He is weak. How do I know? 25 years ago, that was me.
Do yourself a big favor, go and live your life. You will meet the right guy in it's time.
2006-09-15 14:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by David S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing just happened to me, do not kiss his a&&, fluck him and his feelings that's the way I see it and we will never talk unless he calls me and I love him and miss him but I won't belittle myself and chase him, men come a dime a dozen replace him.
2006-09-15 14:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey. DUMP HIM! hes playing you girl and believe me! as a man myself he is stringing you along, i bet you hes at a pub right now bragging how hes got you on a leash!! GIRL GET SOME SENSE! u can do better than him! trust me.. if you want to know whether it is over or not! TELL HIM ITS OVER! dont wait for his answer!
2006-09-15 14:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by x!LilJamesie!x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend went through a similiar situation just move on your better off,whenever and if ever he calls back tell him whats up and move along
2006-09-15 14:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by cookiesssssssssss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋