doesn't tell me he loves me, caresses me as if I was his dog, in a rough manner, demands to split expenses, shows no distress when I can't see him, which I do only on weekends cause we live hours away, and when we're at his home he'd rather be on the computer playing or downloading stuff, when we're at my place he'd rather spend time with my little brother than with me. I practically have to beg for him to kiss me and caress me and on top of things, he gets extremely angry when I recriminate any of this, or when I refuse to have sex as a way of punishing him for all this crap he does to me. So the question is, why does he treat me like this and why do I stand him at all? Anyone out there in a relationship like this one? how damaged is my self-esteem that I let this happen and how can I put and end to all this stuff? well, too many questions in one.
2006-09-15 07:01:14 · 23 answers · asked by Mossespa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't really sound like he's your boyfriend. He obviously has lots of problems. The fact that you sleep with him at all is probably just bad. Because that seems to be all he's using you for.
But hey, you know, that could just be the guys your attracted to. Nice guys don't do it for you, you've got to get some asshole.
Then again, there could be something wrong with you you're not telling us.
If it's really that bad just leave him. I've watched many a people stay in bad relationships and it's pathetic. They stay because they are shy and don't think they'll ever meet anyone else. They just give up on life and lock themself in this sad relationship.
Maybe he wants you to break up with him, but he figures why miss out on the sex. You come up. You sleep with him, and hang out a little bit. Then you leave. With no obligation in his mind to do anything.
Why don't you just disappear for about a month, and if in a month if you still want him, ask yourself, how many times did he call? Allow yourself to be free'd from the strong emotional grip you feel. You should especially stop sleeping with him. This is why sex can be bad. Because it makes people confused. It makes you feel more emotion/attachment that might not otherwise be there.
It sounds to me like he's with you not by choice, but by circumstance. I've got a circumstantial relationship. I don't really want to be with this girl. Yet we hang out. She takes me out and buys me things. I don't even try to sleep with her, and I barely ever call her. When I tried to call her and still had an interest she wasn't. Then she came around like 2 months later. I gave her a shot, but she's absolutely self-involved and selfish. Even if she does buy me dinner or whatever. Money can't buy you love. She doesn't even unlock the car door for me when I walk around the car. She's usually looking in the mirror or playing with her cell phone....selfish *****.
2006-09-15 07:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by nathancarson23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well maybe he isnt into you and is only with you because he feels bad becuase if a guy truly liked you he would pay attn to you and would not have to be told or he would call just to say hey trust me lose him you can get way better because there are better guys than that. and yes i was in quiet a few relationships like that but i got away because i wanted attn but if you leave him and if he truly loves you then he will come back! also maybe have you tried talking to him and a way you can end it is this you can simply say look you dont treat me like i mean to much to you and im sick of it, so i think we should just be friends and then if he truly cares he will come back but remember a leppard never changes his spots and basicly meaning he wont change if he does not care for you then he will never change also its a possiblity he could be cheating and getting what he wants else where so but either way loose the guy he isnt worth your time
2006-09-15 14:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Moose1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you work all this into a conversation without incriminating him somehow? Do you like this guy enough to bother? Something tells me that if you stopped contact he would start it up and want to know what was wrong...then you tell him frankly. OR....you stop contacting him and he doesn't bother to get in touch with you. Win win situation here. You need to gain the upper hand one way or another. Don't bother with him until he gives you a reason for doing so.
2006-09-15 14:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foolish is the heart of the young ones. He doesn't love you, and he only wants to use you. We all see it why can't you? You best part ways or you self esteem will get so low, it may lead into depression.
2006-09-15 14:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems as thought he doesn't really care about you at all. Except for the expenses thing.
Get him out of your life and find someone who will treat you with the love, care, and honesty that you rightfully deserve. Leave him and life will get better.
2006-09-15 14:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but he doesn't sound like much of a boyfriend. I think it's time to move on and find someone who will treat you with love and respect. You deserve better than that.
2006-09-15 14:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey this isnt a relationship...its a joke. Move on for your own sanity and self esteem!
2006-09-15 14:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by christine a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..instead of blaming/punishing him..just leave. Typical-you stay in a crappy relationship and then cry about stuff. just find someone else. OH..i give great backrubs if you're mn
2006-09-15 14:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm Seriously. Break up with this guy! He sounds like a real jerk. Find someone that will treat you better!
2006-09-15 14:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by rhodes727 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, but do it cooly. You are the only one interested in the relationship. He is not going to care when you do, so don't expect a reaction.
2006-09-15 14:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋