lately i have been confused me and my bf have been together for 7 yrs yet i still think about my ex boyfriend everyday i miss him yet i can't imagine my life without my current bf however sometimes i feel like we are better friends than lovers i do not want to make another mistake (i was the one that broke up with my last bf) please help me
2006-09-15 07:00:22 · 14 answers · asked by JENNY1936 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no real answer to this question but what I have learned of what love is to me and that is the word LOVE itself holds the answer.......
(L)isten: and validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.
2006-09-15 16:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your stuff together.
No one can tell you what you should do with any clarity, but I will venture that you are looking for some kind of emotional charge - something that will tell you 'this is the guy.'
I don't think that will happen.
Get past the emotions and what's there - do you enjoy being together? Do you do things together? Does he make you smile? How is the sex?
In a long-term relationship, after a while, all you have left is friendship and warm love. That's a good thing.
What is it that makes you still think of the first guy you dumped? Would your life be better if you were dating him?
Seven years???????? You've been dating for seven years?????
FP
2006-09-15 07:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love generally includes an emotion of intense attraction to either another person, a place, or thing; and may also include the aspect of caring for or finding identification with those objects, including self-love. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience usually felt by a person for another person. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.
The concept of love, however, is subject to debate. Some deny the existence of love. Others call it a recently invented abstraction, sometimes dating the "invention" to courtly Europe during or after the middle ages (though this is contradicted by the sizable body of ancient love poetry). Others maintain that love really exists, is not an abstraction, but is indefinable; being a quantity which is spiritual, metaphysical, or philosophical in nature. Some psychologists maintain that love is the action of lending one's "boundary" or "self esteem" to another. And others attempt to define love and apply the definition to everyday life.
2006-09-16 05:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIrst think of the reasons why you broke up with the first one .Remember the bad times.
There was a reason why you seperated and ussually the same reason why it will not work a second time.
Thinking about someone constantly. Not being able to get them out of your mind . Smilling for no particular reason and getting the butterflies in your stomach in anticipation of seeing a person. Then when nothing else matters in the world . You will know when your in Love but it is only complete if the same is returned to you. Move on . It is a huge world . Spend less time looking for it.. It will find you.
2006-09-15 07:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by grainy33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long were you with your ex...if you spent as much time with him as you have your current bf, you probably will think about him from time to time...you don't spend that much time with someone and completely forget about them...the question is what do you think about him? do you hope he is doing well and leave it at that, or do you have fantasies about calling or meeting up with him? if you answer the latter, I would say you are still in love with him, but I imagine too much time has past and he probably has a girlfriend or is married...I would stick with your current guy and let the past die. you will only torture yourself needlessly if you don't
2006-09-15 07:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by violet1656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if 7 yrs on you still dont know if ur current one is right for you, then i dont think he is!!
Maybe you both need a lil more excitement in your relationship... maybe things have just got a bit too routine for you? And its the excitement you probably want hence your thinking about your ex so much.
2006-09-15 07:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i did the same thing, except i left a good one for the bad one. but me a the good one are best friends and he is married but he knows that we both really love one another. and he comes single one day he may come back. my bad ex we stayed together for six yrs it didnt work cuz it turned out that i knew i had love for him but i was still inlove with the good guy and still am. but i have to respect the fact the he is married and appreciate that we are good friends and maybe oneday he will come back
2006-09-15 07:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by LiL MaMa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loving each other as 1, unconditionally, threw thick and thin whatever it may be,caring for one another,helping, sharing You will know when it happens, you have been together 7 yrs. and still not married..... Are u sure it's not lust instead of love.... and that thinking about your ex everyday...... what's that all about !!
2006-09-15 07:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true love is for me to know for you to find out lol.. but you have to listen to your heart. maybe be alone for a couple of days (no contact with your bf or ex bf) and see who you think about more.
2006-09-15 07:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your having a "love hangover". Just get over it. Everybody gets tempteds at some point in a relationship. It is the way you handle your temptations that matters the most.
2006-09-15 07:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by blaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 7 yrs and your still questioning if u love him! it's time to let him go and follow your heart
2006-09-15 07:03:27 · answer #11 · answered by Ultimate Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋