6 months.
Here's the story. I just broke up with someone about a month ago. He's not totally moved out yet. This new guy, I've been friends with for more than 10 years. I know that he's always liked me. But I didn't realize how much until about a week ago. I did date him about 3 years ago, but I chose someone else.(the guy that's moving out) So, although, I am beginning to fall in love with him, I think I should wait... It has nothing to do with Making HIM wait, it's me... Am I just being ridiculous? I am "playing for keeps" so I really don't want to confuse the situation.
2006-09-15 06:54:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get over yourself, its sex, not the end of the world, just do it already.....hey its Friday night, pencil him in for NOW!!!!
2006-09-15 07:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by StephNLee2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you're not being ridiculous at all.
By all means, continue being friends with the guy. See more of him. Go out on dates. Tell him you're interested, but you really don't feel comfortable with doing all the physical stuff until the other guy has totally moved out, and you've had a little time to sort out your emotions. Let him know that there's better stuff to come, he just needs to be patient a while.
If he's known you for ten years already, he'll totally respect that.
2006-09-15 14:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the problem is that you are "playing"...stop playing and start treating relationships like the real life issue they are...not a game...
When you feel you are 100% over your previous relationship...the baggage is stored away or discarded, and you are emotionally ready to start building something with someone new...then proceed...
Putting a time limit on it is rather silly...rarely can we accurately guess how we'll feel in a few months time...when you feels it's the right time to move forward with the new guy, then do so...but don't do it until you are ready and the old relationship isn't going to be an issue between you and 'new guy'...
Remember...it's not a game...real hearts and lives are involved here...
2006-09-15 13:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YES!!! It's short & sweet here....YOU made the decision, not him. If YOU change your mind in 6 more days instead of 6 months, isn't he the lucky one? But don't EVEN let him make you feel even a little guilty so you don't wait just because of HIM. It is YOUR decision and you make him wait as long as you damned well please!!! Stay true to yourself and whatever decisions YOU make, regardless of what the situation is. If, after serious consideration and YOU change your mind, THAN but only THEN go for it!!!
Just remember, you are the WOMAN and you will ALWAYS make the decisions in any relationship!!!!
:)
2006-09-15 14:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by raquelha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No darlin, you're being realistic. There is nothing wrong with giving yourself a break between guys. matter of fact, its recommended by most professionals.
Take the time to be you for a while, w/o a man so deeply involved in your life. You're going to discover things about yourself you didn't know were there and that is very important.
This will also help you to know when you're ready to let this other man share your life totally.
2006-09-15 13:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think waiting is a good idea.
Sex sometimes confuses the relationship. Wait awhile and see what developes.
Now to be clear I am not saying to deprive yourself but it definitely keeps your head clear.
You really should make sure that this is not a rebound relationship situation.
2006-09-15 14:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by goldenlifev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being ridiculous. If he really likes you and wants to be with for you a long time then he should understand. Just be honest with yourself and him. And tell him that the reason you want to wait is that you want the timing to be right. He should understand that. I would hope so expesualy since you have been friends for so long! Hope everything gose well!
2006-09-15 14:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by Myastar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And that is why relationship don't last because of silly thoughts,,, like yours,,,
And that is why marriages end up in divorce,,, because of people who cannot make up their minds from the start to finish..
And you think,, changing bf is just like changing clothes,, and that is why morality is breaking up in your country,..
And that is not the case here with us..
Better make up your mind.. what do you want, who do you want,, what do you want.???
You don't just play for keeps,, you must play for the whole of your life and your future..
2006-09-15 14:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait, if you are just looking for someone to mend your broken heart, but if you truley want to be with this guy and don't at all want to be with the one moving out then you have nothing to worry about. just don't lie to yourself about how you are feeling. be careful with that,you could end up in a big mess. and hurt all of you!
2006-09-15 13:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are playing for keeps and want to keep this guy, then dont wait.
It will also show the guy that hasnt moved out that you have moved on.
2006-09-15 13:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋