I recently went out with this gorgeous girl and took her back to my place and we started kissing a bit but then she slowed down when I tried to get to her breasts area and she said "you wouldn't want a girl that's too fast do you?" So I said "you're right" and we didn't go any further from there but the truth is, if I like a girl and either she goes a little further or not it wouldn't make me disrespect her any less. So I'm wondering if I had told her that I respect her either way that she would've gone further with me or not? So girls put yourself in her shoes and would you have gone further with me if I told you I wouldn't think any less of you because we go beyond kissing?
2006-09-15 06:46:16 · 20 answers · asked by Believe me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you everyone for answering my question. Guys included :=)
2006-09-15 06:59:53 · update #1
no... its not about YOU respecting her... maybe its about HER respecting HERSELF....
2006-09-15 06:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Delete System32 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, we would think you were lying just to get some, but if you really like her then you will wait even if you dont plan on breaking her heart. Maybe she is afraid to put her heart on the line and let you go further because she had a bad experince. Perhaps it could be she was just brought up that way.What ever the reason is resepcet her wishes no matter if you would or would not disrespect her. Because you not resepcting those wishes pretty much would mean you are disrespecting her. So take it slow and see where things go!
Hope this helped
2006-09-15 06:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Moose1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because how many guys on the first date will tell a girl anything they want to hear in order to continue? Plus my ex always said this "if a girl gives it up on the first date, it makes a guy wonder how many other guys she's done it with on the first date". If a guy was a respectable woman, then women know this statement to be true. If he wants a f*ck., he could care less. At least I know this. So I really don't think it would've mattered if you said it or not.
2006-09-15 06:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a little old fashioned and don't believe in heavy petting on the first date and you and I both know that if she had of gone further you would not have respected her any more afterward than you did before. Most girls know that's just a line guys use to get them to give in. On the other hand...if she had any self-respect she would not have been into the heavy petting in the first place on the first date.
2006-09-15 06:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women are used to guys telling them anything, to get in their pants...and then dumping them...if a chick you go out with, wants to take it a little slow then respect that...women are used to being burned by going with their desires (apparently it's okay for a guy to do it, but not a woman...that old double standard).
Don't even make a sexual move (beyond kissing) on a woman on the first date, unless you just want to score and really don't care if you see her again...
For women: Going too far on a first date can kill your chances with a guy...but waiting a few dates is never a bad call...if he's interested he'll be kewl with waiting a bit...if he's just after sex and dumps her, then he wasn't the one for her anyway (unless she also just wanted sex)...
2006-09-15 06:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, most guys will say anything to go further w/a girl, but like someone else said, kudos to you if you are indeed different.
And no, I don't think she would have gone father. She wasn't comfortable w/it and it's not just about you having respect for her, it her having respect for herself. Give her time, for that shows real respect, which is truly a desirable quality when looking for a man.
2006-09-15 06:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by blue_eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be she would not respect herself if she went to fast. We also need to have SOMETHING to say to make you stop when we want to. By the way, if you had said you would respect her anyways, she would proably slapped you, thinking you were just saying anything to get into her pants.
2006-09-15 06:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by Juniper C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, you could desire to furnish up attempting to down play the indisputable fact which you cheated, merely to no longer the worst degree. sure, you kissed yet another lady--yet you probably did no longer f*ck her--whether it sounds like it extremely is a extensive deal to her. you could desire to correctly known the fee of what you probably did to her; attempting to make it sound like a small act makes it look as in case you are attempting to obligate her to forgive certainly one of these minor transgression. Acknowledging that the act itself, however no longer the worst, substitute into nevertheless a grave blunders reflects your remorseful approximately much better than something you could say. 2, know that notwithstanding happens is her determination. whether she needs to stay with you or smash issues off, it relatively is her determination and you owe her the time and area to handle her emotions.
2016-10-01 00:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, clearly she isnt ready to go any further just yet, its more about self respect than your respect, you did the right thing in not pushing her, and im sure you will be rewarded for you partience when she is ready
2006-09-15 06:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um.....Guys can say that but I think most girls wouldn't believe them. It's this huge double standard crap and it really bugs me. If you actually like this girl, just wait until she's ready. She might have said that because she wasn't ready. Give it time.
2006-09-15 06:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's it tell her you respect her either way....it's like a humble man saying he's humble....for some reason it no longer becomes believable.
Next you'll tell her no honey it's not you it's me or I'm sorry that premature thingie rarely happens but you got me so hot.
2006-09-15 06:49:54 · answer #11 · answered by Paul M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋