I'm with my bf for a year and eight months, he cheated on me three times and I broke up with him, however, he kept calling me and crying so I decided to try work things out and see if it's going to be different. Now, he really seems to be different, I can see that he's trying to win me over. However, I met this guy, my neighboor and I kind of like him. He knows I have a bf but I'm wondering if I should give him a chance, I know it's going to break my bf heart if I break up with him, and still I don't know if it would work out with my neighboor. It's all complicated I just don;'t know if I can trust my bf again, maybe my neigboor would be much better for me, but still it might not work out and maybe what I have with my bf is the real deal. I'm 21 if that matters.
2006-09-15 06:43:23 · 17 answers · asked by maya 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are young, but you should still do what your heart tells you, don't let us decide for you, you need to be able to listen to yourself and know what you really want. even your bf deserves that.
2006-09-15 06:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by puppy love 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell you what to do. If you can't trust your boyfriend, then there isn't a relationship. Trust is number one. What is gonna stop him from cheating again? I'm not telling you to chose one of the other. I just want to help make your decision easier. When you said "maybe what I have with my bf is the real deal"...I don't know if I can belive that because he's cheated on you more than once. Respect yourself and chose what makes you feel good about yourself.
2006-09-15 13:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you decided to give you b/f a chance again then that is what you should do. You need to talk to him and tell him where you stand and that you need him to prove his trust. And if he cheats again then hey you always have your neighbor... Besides just b/c you like your neighbor doesn't mean it will become anything...you could break it off with your b/f for a fling for all you know.
2006-09-15 13:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by rhodes727 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend has cheated on you thee times, he is going to cheat on you again. Are you willing to stay with him knowing that he will continue to cheat. What about the diseases you might get from his fooling around? Find out more about the neighbor before hooking with him. But for right now go with the neighbor.
2006-09-15 13:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think the fact that he called up crying all those times is.... Just sad. However, do you REALLY want to date your neighbor? You'll have no space whatsoever.
You say your 21. Why be commited. Date lots of people. Just don't sleep around.
2006-09-15 13:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by nathancarson23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get with your neighbor honey as long as he is a decent guy and doesn't cheat on u. men that cheat on there bf aren't real men if u ask me ...... DUMP the loser bf, sorry to say that but it's true...
2006-09-15 13:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to be kidding me,what would you want with someone who has cheated on you?You should first work on becoming less insecure,then make up your own mind about your life and where it takes you,then do what make you happy.
2006-09-15 13:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave ur ex behind .. if he cheated once hes gonna do it again its a pattern .. hes trying to play a pity party .. my ex did it before he cried many times .. but he hasnt changed .. leave him alone and get with the new guy .. trust me u DO NOT want to get hurt again .. unless ur ex proves to u that hes worthy of never cheating and gains and works rlly hard to get ur trust back
2006-09-15 13:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are allowed to date more than one person as long as they both know it and you don't do anything "Exclusive" with either one. What's wrong with testing the waters a little? It's not like you have to choose your life partner, is it?
2006-09-15 13:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give your neighbor a chance - see how it works out with him emotionaly and physically - then youll be able to tell whos better him or your bf
2006-09-15 13:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋