Me and my girlfriend have been on and off for 4 years and recently just moved in together. We are now on our 4th month and I miss hanging with my friends and going to party's. I love her and don't want to hurt her so I have been "taking the bullet" and have been staying in the relationship. Besides "tell her how you feel" what should I do about this situation.
2006-09-15 06:22:05 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're like the 'WhatshouldIdoretard'.
Put on the dress or move out!
2006-09-15 06:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by TKO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your friends, go to parties, and whatever else you miss doing. But obviously if you've only been together in the house or apt. for 4 months and you cant stand it already, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship. Why drag her onto thinking that you love her just as much as she loves you when you really dont love her that much. I would want a guy to be honest with me about it, I wouldnt want to be dragged into thinking something else. Its basically lieing and it hurts more sometimes. Either stay with her and go with your friends and to parties once in a while or something, or just leave her and go back to friends and parties.
2006-09-15 06:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've often heard it said you never "know" someone until you live with them. I believe that to be VERY true!! I know you didn't want to really hear "tell her how you feel", so I won't say it that way.
The key to any happy relationship is communication....open & honest communication. You and your girlfriend need to sit down and have a talk about how you can stay together while still enjoying time away with your friends too. One option is to set aside maybe1 night a week (or every other week) as "friends" night, where you spend time out with your friends and she spends time out with hers.
If you are truly committed to the relationship, invite her to parties with you. If you are not committed to her and have no real desire to spend the rest of your life with her as your life's mate, then its time to break the ties and move on in a different direction.
2006-09-15 06:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by geniec67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are biting the bullet...I'd say you moved in for a reason..why not start including her in some of the things you enjoy..(could be fun) you both have to have together time and apart time...this is the part of the relationship where it takes two to make it work...Rome was not built in a day..
2006-09-15 06:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ken and Wendy M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you still do what you enjoy? Just because you live with your GF doesn't mean "bye bye whatever social life i had". As long as you don't cheat, what's wrong with hanging out with your friends and going to parties???? If you dedicate your entire life to your girl you are missing out on your entire life. Everyone needs their own space. Everyone needs to have fun and let loose.
Yeah, tell her what you've told us......communication is so important. Sit with her and explain that you haven't been doing what you really want to be doing adn you're not feeling that great. She should be willing to hear you out and understand what your saying.
2006-09-15 06:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should still be able to go out with friends and to parties..and so should she...there is nothing wrong with having seperate lives and that is the only way a relationship can ever work....the trick is to love that person enough and respect them enough that you don't go to a party, get to drunk and end up in bed with someone else
2006-09-15 06:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by violet1656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 let her realize u cant b at home all day wit her sum times she Would want 2 go shopping wit her friends
its not fun breathing down her neck all the time u ain't got space u will get bored of each other and there is no point moving in 2gether when your not married Cos when ur married u will know u hav 2 deal wit it cos she is ur wife and u have 2 understand each other and its move xciting and u know u wanna b wit her 4 the rest of ur life
2006-09-15 06:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by debz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of times when we get into relationships we just revolve ourselves around the other persons life and they become our world. it is always important to keep your own identity and have your own group of friends. I think going out on your own sometimes is good for your relationship just as long as it doens't become a habit and you act responsable. If she can't understand that, than its obvious is going to cause a drift in your relationship. I hope both of you can work it out and meet each other's needs. is all about patience and compromising. best of luck
2006-09-15 06:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by A_Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you sorta made your bed and now you have to lie in it. I don't know what arrangements you have about the money needed to live together, but you could start slacking off on your end of the deal enough to where she might suggest separate lodgings. You could do other little irritating things around the house, you don't need me to tell you what, you know what they are.
2006-09-15 06:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a balance if you can. But some girls don't really like guys "hanging out with the boys" so don't be suprised if she doesn't take it well. If you really do love her and value the relationship, sacrifices may be necessary, you know?
2006-09-15 06:41:56 · answer #10 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop "taking the bullet"!!! You don't deserve it! Does she "take the bullet" too? if not you need to put your foot down and tell her how you feel and if she doesn't understand then you need to stop being blind (no offense) and say goodbye no matter how much you would hate to lose her.
2006-09-15 06:25:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋