Hi, Ive been together with my girlfriend for about three months now, recently Ive noticed that Im loosing interest in her because she is incredibly predictable, and hardly around because of her job, how can we refresh ourselves and bring back times like our first few weeks, or is this just something that Im going through, at times I feel like we arent right for each other, but I havent got the heart to tell her, it would tear her apart. What can I do?
2006-09-15 06:10:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone goes through ups and downs in a relationship... But the question is, are the ups greater than the downs.
I would personally rather know if my boyfriend thought or was having thoughts that we weren't right for each other. Finding out later wont make it any easier.
2006-09-15 06:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question needs to be asked. Why the H*ll are you her if you think that little of her. You should try telling her how you really feel and be prepared for a "rocket", of course she may feel the same in which case you are both wasting your time. On the other hand being together 24/7 can bring its own problems. I do know what i am talking about as my girlfriend lives 260 odd miles from me, though we do keep in regular touch online by messenger and email, by texts daily and by regular phone calls. We dont meet physically more than 2 or 3 times a year at the moment, but when we do we both make the most of every moment together.
If you have any real feelings for her you and her you will both persevere, if not cut loose and move on. At the end of the day you and her are the only people who can make that decision. I wish you both good luck and hope that whatever you decide on, you both find that which you are looking for.
2006-09-15 13:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by freddiem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation and look at it this way: the time we do spend together, we still seem sincerely interested in each other. I can see it in her eyes and I hope she can see it in mine. Relationships take work. It's easy to get discouraged, but remember that there was a reason you two hit it off to begin with. Keep at it, but don't press too hard when you do get time together.
2006-09-15 14:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal, its called life! Only the first few weeks can be considered the honeymoon time, after that wears off you start looking at each other and wondering if you really want to be with each other for the foreseeable future.
2006-09-15 13:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't turn back the time. i tried this many times, and don't work. may be this is the beginning of the end. just don't let the time to hurt u both more.
2006-09-15 13:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Predictable??? That's "being responsible" Why do you have so much free time to ask strangers how to shake up your love life??
2006-09-15 13:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by dawnee_babe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with her and communicate with her. it may just be you and not your relationship with her at all. communication is the key to making a relationship work. don't be embarassed to do this b/c if you can't do it now you will never be able to do this without counseling and no relationship will ever work for you.
2006-09-15 13:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont string her along it will hurt you both more. you must tell her how you feel. the best thing to do babe is be honest with yourself and her. it will defo soften the blow, and you both can move on.
2006-09-15 13:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by hunny jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i fyou're not feeling your girlfriend in that way then its better to tell her now than wait till she falls more for you... itll hurt her more later. its better if you talk to her about it and tell her that things arent like they were before. tell her the truth.
2006-09-15 13:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't help her job so try not to hold that against her. I think that you should do something to try to spark things, you do something unpredicitable and see if she follows.. joke around with her that always makes me feel more intune with my honey.
good luck.
Try talking to her.
2006-09-15 13:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by attila 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋