...especially when I pleasure him orally (despite the fact i like giving it t him)
How do I overcome this feeling of guilt and start enjoying our love life?
2006-09-15 06:06:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well this is a mental block here. question for you! what religious backgrounds do you have? which do you consider yourself. even if youre unsure religiously were you brought up in a religious home? if you answer yes or have an answer most likely its from your religious stand point. Majority of religious affiliations speak against PreMarital Sex...possibly this is your problem
2006-09-15 06:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by TheMaverick.The Artist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you were taught not to enjoy sex and haven't learned that sex is a natural part of our being. YOU WERE TAUGHT TO FEEL GUILTY. Maybe it's religion, your parents, or because your parents didn't get the right kind of education to teach how to love yourself and learn how to pleasure yourself.
You should never feel guilty about the things that help enrich your physicall and mental health.
Don't let other people shame you, thus controling how you live. The life you live is your own and you MUST enjoy making love to your mate with no problems. Otherwise, what influences you from the outside, are going to mess your relationship up.
If there's something in your past that happened to you, that has shamed you, then you need to see some counceling (avoid taking drugs to fix the problem). Be sure to let your mate know your problem and have him help you or learn together how to resolve the problem.
Good luck and HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-15 06:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I sort of used to feel the same way. My boyfriend and I have amazing, wild, and sometimes freaky sex but afterwards I always felt dirty about it. Especailly when we did things in places like the car or somewhere we could be caught. My problem was when he finished he would just sort of pass out and not cuddle or anything. I don't know if you ahve the same issue. Anyway I talk to him about it and he makes sure to at least hold me for a little while after and now I am totally okay. Did you tell your boyfriend about how you are feeling?
2006-09-15 06:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately thats a question you are going to ask yourself. Were you raised to think of sex as "dirty"? That might be hard to overcome but if you love him and he feels the same about you there is nothing to be ashamed about. Maybe you might want to take a bit of break from it if it bothers you that much. It might be too much too soon.
2006-09-15 06:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Smithy14 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why would you feel guilt, maybe he needs to pleasure you orally so you can be in clound 9 too. Don't feel guilty feel good.
2006-09-15 06:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by rmc95687@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you have another boyfriend? Is that why you feel guilty? Do you not love him?
If you love him.. You'd get excited to see him get pleasure out of you..
2006-09-15 06:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you were taught that sex is wrong, dirty or maybe that sex before marriage is a sin. You might want to seek some help, talk to a therapist about sexuality issues.
2006-09-15 06:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself some questios do you love him ... do you enjoy sex with him... or are you just using him for something....
Think about it only you know the answers yahoo can not help you with this one......
and if you are not really into him like that then leave him alone dont lead him on to get his feelings hurt
2006-09-15 06:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you feel guilty and dirty? have you done something since your relationship started with him that you should not have ? r u attracted to him or do you just like sex ( oral and intercourse ). i would recommend going to see a counselor
2006-09-15 06:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you haven't told him about your herpes yet. Probably that's why you feel so guilty, especially since your brother gave it to you.
2006-09-15 06:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋