Well, after being single for almost a year and a half, i finally met this new girl through a mutual friend. She is absolutely gorgeous, alot of fun to be around, and great to talk to. Problem is i dont feel good enough for her. I feel like there must be some other reason she is interested... I think she likes me, as after driving to see her one night, she didnt want to wait and came down the next, and she wants me to be with her this saturday... thats a good sign right? i mean i dont think im super ugly or anything, i just wouldnt call myself attractive. She always says im so nice and treat her well, but i just dont think im attractive to her. I know looks arent everything or even supposed to be important, but i just keep thinking about it. Like, she could get so many guys, why would she pick me? I've also never dated a girl that i would really consider extremely beautiful like i would this one... its intimidating. I just imagine all her friends are wondering what she is doing with me.
2006-09-15 06:02:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ya, i understand that. And i know most girls would obviously like a guy thats sincere, and treats them great... but i also dont like feeling as though she is only interested because i am nice.. sounds dumb right? i guess i would like to think that they find me sexy or good looking in some way...
2006-09-15 06:09:59 · update #1
ive been the attractive female that talked to not so attractive dude. he didnt think that i would be interested in him but i was!
maybe she wants something new, like i did, someone to treat her right.
maybe she's tired of the attractive dudes that are full of BS.
2006-09-15 06:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by i ♥ my cat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP! Thats totally unfair to yourself, and to her! Obviously she enjoys spending time with you! Let me tell you, being a woman myself..Saturday is a GREAT sign. We don't want to intimidate you. Many people don't see gorgeous people as not having any problems, that they are better than everyone else etc. etc. etc. But hey guess what, they ARE human too! When in all actuality, being "knock out" is not always enjoyable. Girls hate having guys think "they aren't good enough" just because the girl is very attractive.... you are attractive to her, great personality is awesome, and I bet you are being too hard on yourself... ENJOY this! Don't let your head get too in the way of your heart! if you care for her, you'll want to protect her right?! so be with her, tell her how you feel, and be the guy who makes her happy (I bet you have a great start already!). Please! Best wishes
2006-09-15 06:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by lily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't keep asking or tell her "why did you pick me?" and list all your bad qualities to her and stuff, so that she would passify your doubts. She would only start thinking about them.
2. CONFIDENCE. Girls and guys love self confidence in their partners. EVen if they're butt ugly. Confidence shows security in yourself, hence they'd know you would provide good security to them and their children as well.
3. Attractive girls/guys don't always go after attractive partners. There is always a deeper element which makes a person attractive. You're special in your own way, and she is just a normal girl who sees and likes that in you. Enjoy it !
4. Tell your pals to sod off. You don't live your life for them, and if they get a drop dead gorgeous girl themselves they're definitely not gonna stop and think about what YOU'RE thinking of them. Be proud of yourself and your girl. If they think like what u think they might, they're not only jealous, they're also not your friends.
5. Continue being the same that you are with the girl. Don't be overclingy coz she's gorgeous and you dont want to lose her deal coz that'd only drive her further away. You should stop judging ppl by their looks as well so that you wouldn't be so conscious of being judged yourself.
Good luck.
2006-09-15 06:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The young lady likes you. Think of it this way: Would you second guess one of you friends intentions when they wanted to hang out with you? She wants to get to know you better, that should be a confidence booster right there!
Do you have pride in yourself and what you do/accomplish? Or do you go about your life going, "Ho, hum. I don't like my job/school. Nobody likes me, nobody loves me." When I say pride I don't mean the boisterous type, not the attention seeking type of pride. I mean, pride in knowing that at the end of each day you can go to sleep without serious fears and anxiety still weighing on your mind.
If this young lady truly likes you, then what does it matter what her friends say? Women are influenced by what their girlfriends tell them, no doubt. However, if she influenced by what her friends think of you then she may not be the right one for you. Just as you are looking for inner-confidence and self-esteem, the girl that you eventually hook-up with will have to have a certain level of assuredness about herself.
You attract what you are.
2006-09-15 06:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by Dana T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop second guessing yourself and dont ever say things like this to that girl. The more you tell Her that you are not good enough for her...the more likely she is to start believing it. What you need to do is start something challenging and finish it...not something stupid but something that has gratification for you at the end of the project or activity...that will build confindence.
2006-09-15 06:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Natty137 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitevely, you need to build up some confidence.
For starters quit hiding your realself in Led Zeppellin.
Be yourself, natural, she likes what she sees in your natural way.
Don't think you're less than anybody, you're not.
There is not such thing as ugly, because beauty resides in the eyes of the one who sees.
Try to be a gentelman without the boring part.
Things that are meant to happen, will happen, don't force them. Be patient.
Do not build up false expectations, they come back the hard way.
And remember, nobody is perfect. Our weaknesses reside in our defects, unless we turn them to our advantage.
Good fortune is in your side my friend.
Sit back and enjoy the ride...
2006-09-15 06:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by Carlos 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look if you dont have confidence in yourself no one will ever take u serious have you ever seen those big overweight guys that have all the girls you know what they have it's confidence it dosent matter if your cute or ugly what matters is that you appricitate yourself you have to walk like if your the man dont let anyone put you down you are what you think of yourself hopefully you take my advice
2006-09-15 06:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did your last girlfriend do to you to make you feel like this one can do better?
you have to tell her how you feel. maybe she feels the same and thats something you guys can have in common. and work on.
just remember that we are all made up of the same stuff some you are just as good as anyone else.
2006-09-15 06:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face it, she likes you. You must be a gem in the rough. Go with the flow. You will gain confidence through experience.
2006-09-15 06:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself, everyday 3 great things about yourself and say to yourself that u and her are the pefect match. Also ask the girl what she likes about u.
2006-09-15 06:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by ty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋