My BF for 6 years wants to get adventerous and try a threesome with a Bi-female, should I? He does not want to have actual intercourse, he just wants to play and have her play with me, he said this would make him hotter for me. Should I? or is this his excuse to see others? Is this something men like? and why? if so what do you guys get out of it, if you're not having sex with the other female? I'm confused. educate me please.
2006-09-15 06:01:00 · 15 answers · asked by tami78731 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would carefully think about it before you consider submitting to your boyfriends request..
Serious Jealousy and fighting can occur if its not what you both really want...Ive seen it happen before..
I think alot of guys have this fantasy...
Have you thought about girls before in that way?
Because if not it will be an extremely uncomfortable situation for you...
If you have, I would suggest to him that you would like to try it solo first beacuase you are embarrased and want to learn what to do first before you bring him in..see what he says about that , lol.
I think that it turns guys on alot even if they are not the ones actually doing it with the other women...
But i should say expect to have him change his mind in the middle of the ordeal....
Guys are too horny and give in to that and next thing you will know he will be asking you if he can do her in front of you..
I wouldn't do it if you are just trying to make him happy...
I kow people get bored and need to try new stuff in realationships..
Maybe you can try watching a porn together and see if its something that turns you on....
Or try some new toys...Get him a "pocket pussy" and bring it to bed one night....
Or you can even try telling him you want a threesome too, but with Another guy..That will scare him into giving up the idea for a while......Good luck,
2006-09-15 06:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, men love threesomes. Two women together turns them on. It's great for porn and fantasies. It's not great in a relationship. If he loves you, there should be no need to bring outsiders into the bedroom. It's not you that will make him "hotter", it's the other girl. Put your foot down and say no. If he has a problem with it, then he's more interested in the other girl than he is you.
2006-09-15 06:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by Rainier 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am not sure if this something all guys want but my boyfriend recently asked me for the same thing. Personally I can't because I just can't stand the thought of him touching another woman. It's entirely up to you. If you have never thought about being with another girl the experience can be very awkward.
On another note two of my best friends were together for 5 years and she decided she was also wanted a girlfriend. Her boyfriend was all happy about but it ended up that she left him to be with the girl and now he's miserable. So that's something for your boyfriend to think about too.
2006-09-15 06:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel uncomfortable, don't do it. A man who loves you for you.. will be totally comfortable with you if you said it's not your thing. Although he'd probly be happy.. If he truly loves you, He'll love you no matter what.. He doesn't want to see other girls.. He's perfectly happy with you, He just think this would spice it up. If he didn't want to be with you, He'd cheat.. He wouldn't ask you to do it as well. Men have some kind of obsession with this kind of behavior, so don't think you're man asking/wanting it is out of the norm. Just go with your heart. If you don't want to do it, don't. I'm sure he won't be mad. : )
2006-09-15 06:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by *Leasha* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to have a threesome with him and some hot guy that you know. Watch his reaction. If he gets pissed then tell him that's the same way you feel about his fantasy.
If you're not into it then don't do it.
2006-09-15 06:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darn, now I gotta answer this seriously..I was having fun, too...ok, tell him no. If you aren't comfortable, this could ruin your relationship. It takes a very secure couple to do something like this. Jealousy can mess things up, or you could get attached to the person you bring into your bedroom. Don't do anything that your heart isn't into completely. Good luck.
2006-09-15 06:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that it will make him hotter for you he just simply wants to see you **** some other woman and trust me he will end up having sex with her while you watch. this is just a plan for him to get to sleep with another girl and not upset you about it b/c in his eyes he will be doing no wrong b/c you will be sleeping with her too. if he is not happy with just you or if you are not happy with just him it is time to cut ties and move on. don't do it b/c this will ruin your relationship.
2006-09-15 06:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual creatures (porn, mags, etc)....it would charge him up to see you with another person and the memories afterwards will fuel your sex life for a while.....if you trust him and feel alright about it, give it a try.
2006-09-15 06:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by dwnaz1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh yes we do like but it could ruin your relation ship if he loves you & respects you he will under stand you are uncumfortable with it, tell him you would like to wach him with another bloke before you even consider it,if he is a true hetrosexual he will forget all about it,
2006-09-15 06:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by quasar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is done with this relationship. Time to break up and move on. Dont 'do it' just cuzhe wants to.
2006-09-15 06:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋