OK I have this friend that is in prison and he has been asking me to marry him and trying to get me to kiss him. I was with him about a year before he got locked up but he has been there for 6 years and I feel I need to get to know him first. He says he respects that and that he doesnt expect me to live like he is not having sex and that it doesnt bother him that I live with my daughters father. I do love her dad but not the way I think I should we have been together for 3 years and got engaged before we knew we was going to have a baby she will be 2 in feb and were still not married he cheated on me when we were together for 3 months and I dont think he would ever do it again but I have waited so long for him to marry me that I have just given up on the whole idea and I just feel like I dont want to be with him anymore but it still bothers me that someone would want a relationship with me knowing that I still live with him. I just dont think it would be fair to either of them.
2006-09-15 05:53:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love my daughters father but I hate to have sex with him I just do it to shut him up. I know that people are going to say that I shouldnt talk to him becasue hes in prison. I already know that thats why I told him I wanted to wait till he got out so I could get to know him first. I just dont know what I should do because I know I dont want to be with my daughters father I like this guy and I think that if we did get together its good that he doesnt get out for a year so I can have some time on my own first. I know that he has bene in there a long time and people are gonna say he just wants some *** but most guys are like that. I realy dont think he is like that becasue before he got in there we was gonna do it but I made him stop because I was a virgin and it hurt he stopped and was a total gentalman about it and when I go visit him he asks if he cna kiss me and doesnt just do it. I like him but I feel bad because I live here even if he says it dont bother him I know it has to
2006-09-15 06:00:53 · update #1
He is in prison because he was adopted and when he turned 18 his adopted parrents threw him out anyway it was february and cold out and he had no where to go and he had some friends that were renting a house and they told him that if he helpd them break into this house they would let him stay there. I dont know why he didnt go to a shelter but I do know he is not a bad guy. Just because he is in prison. He was just trying to survive and made a realy dumb desition. I do know him we were together in highschool we just havent seen eachother in a while. And I do think of my kids and I would never put them with someone that I thought was going to hurt them ever. This guy is not a bad guy and yes I do still have feeling for him from back then but I think we hould wait till he gets out and get to know each other better before we are together. I cant believe some people want to jump to conclutions and judge me like im a bad mother and he is a bad guy.
2006-09-15 06:10:00 · update #2
1 .first of all you don not know this guy in prison , and you want to be with him . you are so not thinking about your daughter well being .. why is he in there ????????? 2. I have been with my husband 17 teen years , we started dating when i was 15teen . I am 33 now , and we have only been married 5 years . just cause he does not marry you does not mean he does not love you . some men are afraid . and there is nothing you can do to make him feel better . i think if you are not happy with him , then leave , but I don't think you should put your little girl with some one that has been in prison , I know my ex is in prison , that place makes a person change , some times for the good and some times for the bad .. you need to think about her not you !!!!!!!
2006-09-15 06:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please note we do not know WHY he is in prison. I have a friend that is engaged to a man who was sent to jail....basically he was in the wrong place at the wrong time and was convicted basically becaues he's guilty by association. Not a bad guy at all--they are perfect for eachother,,and still are after so many years of him being in jail. she sees him as much as she can...they write and call eachother lots. its really a sweet and faithful relationship.
now i would honestly seek the relationship you already have ..see if you truly still love him and speak to him about marriage again. you cant do anything else until that is taken care of anyway
2006-09-15 12:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by TheMaverick.The Artist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of buller-steers? What makes you so sure he's not getting any inside? Don't marry him. Why limit your chances now when you can look him up after he's out?
2006-09-15 12:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Sue j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
inprison nto a good i dea id make sure hes clean b 4 any commitments
2006-09-15 12:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by braves2rule 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uuuhhhh.........hard 1 but if the 1 who cheated on u wants to have a relation with u he might do it again...u nevr kno
2006-09-15 12:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by inuyasha_weirdo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from the guy in jail
2006-09-15 12:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by tiny_dick1932 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the comment above. Don't do it.
2006-09-15 12:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you crazy? dont even think about it...
2006-09-15 12:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by JUST_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEAAAAAAAAAASE MARRY ME!!!
2006-09-15 13:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by Perry N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋