I have been exposed to alcoholism with him since my mom divorced him. But he recently was hospitalized due to stuff. I was almost abused by member's of his family.
2006-09-15 05:48:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
last yr he was deadly ill as I stated in my column he was told not to drink and if he did he would die quickly. He told me a millions times when I use to call him daily he's having a non-alcoholic beer when I asked him what kinds he told me bush light. That is his regular alcohol he drinks.
2006-09-16 08:19:31 · update #1
Although it seems bad at this point in your life, try to remember that you only have one dad. My parents were both alcoholics and my childhood was not perfect, but who's is? As you grow older you think of moments that you did enjoy and hold dear. Before you complain about all the things in life that you don't have, think of the things in life that you don't have and don't want. My dad died and i realize now that he was close enough to perfect for me. try to be strong and understand and not do things now that you might like to take back. they are our parents and sometimes we have to be of support. Hang in there.
2006-09-15 10:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a recovering alcoholic , 5 yrs. sober . I'm a Mom , Grandma ,
Wife , and Daughter .
Tough love is the best way to deal with some one who has the same disease as I do .
Tell Dad that if he chooses to drink over spending time with his daughter then so be it .
Then don't cave in , no matter what . This is probably the hardest DISEASE to understand unless you have it !
If my family had taken a stand with me , who knows maybe I would have gotten help sooner . I really don't question this , I'm just greatful that I'm sober now .
No one can quit drinking by themselves , if they are truly an alcoholic . He need to go to AA .
In the meantime I would find the nearest Alanon or Alateen in your area and go get help for yourself . I know that may sound strange , but they will teach you how to deal and how not to enable .
There is one more thing you need to know we are a very strong willed group contrary to popular beleif . He will go down fighting , if the disease has progressed that far . I personally was one of the worst case fighters , I tried to take my own life because I was in so much pain , and couldn't seem to find a way out . I ODed
on rx ,drugs and was reived , then spent 5 days in a coma .
God didn't let me off that easy he saved my life so I could tell my story and help others .
If you need to talk at any time go to my 360 page and then eMail me . Good luck !
2006-09-15 14:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST MY OPINION!!!!!
I think that you should continue to have a relationship with your father... He needs you now, more than you know...
As for the members of his family that almost abused you, what sort of abuse was it??? report it to the police, and totally stay away from them.... (i certainly hope it wasnt sexual... any abuse is bad, but sexual is really bad...) Be careful...
Good Luck
2006-09-15 13:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are a minor, e.g. less than 18 years of age. If true, you need to find a safe place to live and have minimal contact with your father.
Also, you should join Al-Anon so you can get the support that you need.
2006-09-15 12:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u need to encourage him..alcoholism mostly happens b/c depression and he needs people to love and support him even though u get mad tell him how you feel sit down and have a serious talk and if he don't stop or understand then yes leave him alone he is too far along he won't listen to anybody
2006-09-15 12:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by M<3 J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost abused? Is that like almost pregnant?
Did you father abuse you? If not, then you should try to continue to have a relationship with him.
2006-09-15 13:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs you do any thing you can to help him
2006-09-15 12:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by tiny_dick1932 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should you should encourage him to get up?abused meaning sexually?or wat im not understanding you...
2006-09-15 12:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by chew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋