Me and my BF were together for almost 1 1/2 yr. I have to break up with him because I been hurting a lot because he hangs out more and give more priority with his other girl friends. I thought that dispalying such behavior is telling me that there in no more reason to continue our relationship. He ignores me whenever I sign on AIM, and don't even leave me comments on myspace but he talk to his girlfriends. I just felt so left out. So, to get over all these heartaches I broke up with him. I did everything to keep our relationship but I'm just so tired of gettign hurt. Now, even tho' i broke up with him, i still want us to be friends. I think he was hurt too because he didn't expect that I was going to do it. I tried to IM him, he said he's not ready to talk to me yet. What do you think are the chances that we could still be friends. How long will it take for him to recover. It was painful to me too when i did it, but I have to do it so I won't get hurt anymore.
2006-09-15 05:45:26 · 12 answers · asked by Ajie F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no point in waiting around for him to talk to you because you already know that you can't accept what he is. I dont know the whole story just by your paragraph you want or need something serious and he wasn't willing to do what needed to be done to keep you happy. You deserve to be happy. You are going to find somebody better than him, and then he will be sorry and leaving you all kinds of messages and comments while he probably disregards his other girls. You don't really want a guy like that do you? Trust me, the right one will come along...they always do, don't let him pass you up!
2006-09-15 05:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by akiastatz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, it depends to the guy but usually it's not countable on how many days/weeks/months/years it will take for him to move on....but if that guy, is really serious about you and you break up with him..maybe he will not cry, but face the consequence..he may not be the same guy u used to know before...he may change, and the worst part of it...u maybe the reason behind y...but dont worry..it depends on what kind of guy is in the situation..there are friends who will comfort him....invite him to a gimick...or drink until they are tipsy..so he may forget the pain at least 1 night or more..
dont worry...guys can move on....
2006-09-15 05:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by jO-An 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other girlfriends? What you weren't the only one? Guys are dogs they act like they care because they don't want anyone else to have you but then they don't appreciate what they have..So he probably is over it already he's just acting like a turd. Good luck though. I know how it feels to be in your shoes..
2006-09-15 05:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, i am in hurry, thats why I am writing youin short!
You are deeply hurt. There is no doubt. the person who ditches always have an advantage.
in my case, the recovery period was 6 months. But still I remember her.
be strong , my good wishes are with you.
2006-09-15 05:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sabyasachi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what u r going through .u and him trying to be friends is not a good idea now u are still in to much pain.there is no set time to recover over a break up and now u need to heal and think about your recovery
2006-09-15 05:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by lady-t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, he was comfortable with you being there..and you allowed him to treat you the way he did.. it shouldn't have gotten to the point of where it ended up at. You need to not even be his friend... he knows you still care for him, and he will use that.. and hold you to him, with guilt, promises, whatever.. WALK AWAY.
2006-09-15 05:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for you, but perhaps you should move on and get your life sorted out. you cant affect his thoughts or actions, and if he still wants to remain friends it is up to him to make that move. all u can do is make that offer or take the first steps, then let it move along. u cant be held repsonsible for others actions, so dont take the repsonsibility/stress for things u cant change
2006-09-15 05:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess depending on how strongly he felt/feels about you, that will tell how long it takes him to get over it-I hear you on not wanting to be hurt anymore-i think that i need to send an ultimatum to my finace!
2006-09-15 05:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, it might take a week or even a month to a couple of months .. if he still has feelings for u he will eventually come back
2006-09-15 05:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody is different so just tell him that you'll give him space and when he's ready you would like to start a friendship with him
2006-09-15 05:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋