ok..here's the problem..I'm 17 and my mom is so overprotective about my clothings. How can I make her understand that there's nothing wrong with what I want to wear and everyone else wear them?
2006-09-15 05:37:27 · 17 answers · asked by krishnokoli 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's impossible with the amount of information you've given to determine whether she's being over protective or just has more knowledge of what men think when they see females dressed in certain ways. If you're dressing provocatively then she's not being over protective. She's just less naive than you. Listen to your mom. When you're out on your own in a few years you'll understand why she's right.
2006-09-15 05:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Melius 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't understand this until you are a bit older, but your mom is trying to protect you from all of the perverts that will check you out if you are scantily clad. She also doesn't want people to get the wrong impression of you based on what you might be wearing. I recently saw two high school girls standing on the side of the road for their Honor Society fundraiser car wash wearing bikini tops and short shorts. While I'm sure they thought they looked cute, what they didn't realize is that every man from probably 10 to 100 that drove by was staring at them. Just remember that you may be trying to attract the attention of someone special and meanwhile you are also attracting the attention of plenty of people that you might rather not even look at you. Also, just because everyone else is wearing the same stuff doesn't mean that you should. Maybe you should start a new trend.....teenage girls that dress with some class!
2006-09-15 12:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by vickyc76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that would depend on where the reality actually is. Is your mom really overprotective or is she concerned about the message you may be sending. Are you wearing apropriate clothes, or dressing like the corner streetwalker?? You will either have to compromise, or wait until you can afford your own place to wear what you like. After all....her house, her rules. Doesn't always matter who is right/wrong.
2006-09-15 12:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by wendy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telling you like I told mine. There is a time and place for everything. Dress appropriate for every time and place. Short shorts are great around the house just hanging out but not in a public place.
Dare to be different! Be your own person and have enough respect for yourself and family to not embarrass everyone with your dressing or attitude.
Every one has different opinions on whats appropriate and whats not so I guess you will have to ask yourself what you are trying to say about yourself with your clothes. Short shorts half shirt in the mall says I think I am sexy and I want you to think so too when you look at me.. Or here its guys come get it.
T shirt and jeans says casual relaxed confident in just being me.
See where this is going?
2006-09-16 10:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by sheryl e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its the saying of all time.. If everyone else jumps off a bridge will you jump too?
Your mom is just trying to do whats best for you. She's trying to get you to understand what I tell my friends daughters all the time.
You cant show it off to guys, tease them with it , flaunt it to them without expecting to to try and take what you've been offereing.
Its like teasing a child with candy, after a few moments he or she will usually just grab it away from you, caused you have been teasing the kids with it.
She just wants you to dress mature, not like you a hooker on the street, whats so wrong with that.
Besides when it comes to guys, they might date and have sex with a woman whose been around the block.. but believe me they dont want a lasting relationship with a girl whose had sex or been rumoured to have had sex with every guy that they know.
Whether your reputation is true or not believe me people judge all of us by what we wear, who we are friends with what we do and how they feel about what we do and who we are seen with even if we arent friends with those people.
2006-09-15 12:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That whole everyone else is doing thing doesn't work on moms. You really dont have any say in this until you are 18 years old and she can't tell you what to do anymore.
2006-09-15 12:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by Natty137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well young lady
i don;t know how you dress but i could guess.if you dress like a whore, people think that.just because everyone else dresses like that does not mean you have too. be different. i know a young man that wore baggy pants that hung off his butt.everyone else was doing that. i told him the get a pair of levi's(tight fit) and a nice shirt and he would get the girls. he did.
2006-09-15 12:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please understand this.
What you wear is a direct advertisement of how you wish to be interacted with.
If you wear reveling clothing you are wanting sexual attention. Period. If you flaunt it you are asking for men (or women) to view you in a sexual way and that you are receptive to advances.
Please also understand that men in general want you to dress and revel as much as you want. Please show us. If you go in public with it on you are showing in public. Your mother is trying to help you. She want you to be safe, she wants you to reserve that look for your partner.
But please, expose what you want. WE men will look and think about the types of things we would want to do with a person that dressed/advertised that way.
2006-09-15 12:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey look...everyone else is pointing a gun at their head...better hurry ...a wouldn't wanna miss that.
Just be glad ya got a mom that cares enough to pi55 ya off.
2006-09-15 12:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by eastern_mountain_outdoors 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sit her down and talk to her - tell her other people are wearing worst clothes than you -assuming you are dressing decent
2006-09-15 12:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by gabby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋