I was caught cheating with a boy that I'm really interested in. I know what you think. "Why would you cheat with a boy you don't like?" But the reason is I liked his attention he was giving and not him. My boyfriend and I are back together now and everything is okay. But just recently, someone told him a lie that I was flirting with the same boy. My boyfriend gets mad about it and he goes to his brother for advice instead of me. Is it right for him to consult his brother instead of talking it over with me? He told me everything was cool, but I don't believe him.
2006-09-15 05:34:24 · 21 answers · asked by babyjay_babyjae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everything is NOT cool, even though he may say it is. It makes sense that he would go to a family member about his relationship because he needs an outsiders view who cares about him. There has to be a reason why u cheated...your man wasn't giving you the attention you needed and you need to talk to your man about this. Be an open book now is the best time....be honest and upfront about what you need from him and then determine if you are willing to stick it out. It might happen again if another guy comes along with the same song...so be careful in your decisions don't do anything you wouldn't want done to you.
2006-09-15 05:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by akiastatz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU made him lose trust in you! It's YOUR fault and you can't expect him to trust you 100% until you prove you're trustworthy again. It takes time. Take a LONG LOOK at yourself and stop being so selfish. You seem very young. You made your bed, now you have to sleep in it. Some people LEAVE a relationship when their mate cheats. You should be glad he's still there. It's all on you now. You have WORK to do. Like I said...You have to PROVE you're trustworthy since you made the mistake. That's why he doesn't ask your advice. HELLO???????
2006-09-15 12:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by skoosh_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did cheat on him. Believe me, comming from a guy who got cheated on, he may say it is cool but he doesn't trust you anymore. There is nothing you can really do to make it the way it was, sorry but you did bring this on yourself.
2006-09-15 12:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by exodus64_1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should everything be cool. Wake up YOU CHEATED! You're lucky he even took you back. Why should he go to you for advice? I mean you've been so honest with him right? (sarcasm)
He shouldn't be cool with the fact you cheated on him.
He should've left you
I woulda kicked you to the curb.
2006-09-15 12:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's okay for him to go to his brother. sometimes you just need to talk to someone who is outside the situation to get a clear perspective. and it's probably hard for him to come to you because you did cheat so what's going to make him believe you might not be flirting with that guy?
2006-09-15 12:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You showed him that he you cannot be trusted. Guys lie so he will not tell you that he is still upset with you. But we know this for sure, he loves you. Other wise he wouldn't have been asking anyone for advice. Just hang in there and show him that he can trust you wholly again.
2006-09-15 12:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Osun Iya Mi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he go to you for advice about you? You already proved that you can't be trusted, what do you expect from him? The only thing that will heal this is time- you have to be completely honest with him FROM NOW ON and it will eventually rebuild the trust that you killed.
2006-09-15 12:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by wupierto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong wit that, the problem he's having concerns u so he wants an outside opinion and what better person 2 go 2 than his brother.
2006-09-15 12:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep! Your a cheater....your lack integrity. Sorry honi, that's the truth. Your going to have to earn his trust back. Good luck! Next time your enjoying the attention of another man......rememeber the price of your integrity it will cost you.
2006-09-15 12:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by wendy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes,, he can do anything, go anywhere for advise,,, you are at fault and not him.. so you cannot question his everymove..
If I was your boyfriend,, I will leave you altogether,,,
If you can cheat on him now,,, you can also cheat on him in the future..
2006-09-15 12:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋