I've been smoking weed for 10 years. Eight days ago I stopped,and my family is very proud of me,but my fiance keeps asking me to smoke with him.I've asked him why he wants me to continue,and he always answers 'I dunno'.Does anyone have any Ideas?
2006-09-15 05:29:26 · 16 answers · asked by smallish baby budge 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because smoking pot is a social thing; nothing more, nothing less. He just doesn't want to do it alone. But he should be more respectful of the fact that you aren't smoking anymore. It may also just be habit also. I remember hanging out with this chick who didn't smoke, but she would be in the circle and anyone who was next to her would always try to pass it to her just cuz she was there.
Just talk to him about it.
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Sailor chick needs to educate herself on marijuana. It is NOT physically addictive whereas nicotine is more addictive then heroin.
2006-09-15 05:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because then you are not "better" than him. You will not leave him when you realize that you will not be able to spend the rest of your life with someone who does something (in your face and continues to ask you to do it) that you have made a choice to give up.
he knows its only a matter of time before you leave if you continue to be 'on the wagon' and not smoke it with him.
If you are serious about staying off it. You need to tell him goodbye and make a new life for yourself. If at somepoint down the road he decides to quit and your paths cross again then cool..
2006-09-15 12:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have made this big step to quit smoking weed and he keeps asking you he is the one with the problem and quit himself. he may think that by asking you to smoke with him that you will continue to smoke it with him and this may be his way of trying to make sure that you don't leave him. ask him to stop smoking weed and if he doesn't and this bothers you leave him. by you smoking weed with him it makes him feel secure in your relationship. i think he has a few problems.
2006-09-15 12:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because he like to have you there to smoke with him, its something you probably did together, but he should support you quitting.
Maybe find another activity that you can make a ritual. Something you two always do together. My friends BF was the same way.
2006-09-15 12:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's addicted to the weed and he wants a smoking partner. Marijuana is just as addictive as tobacco. Congrats on quitting. If you want to stay clean you should stay away from the stuff completely.
2006-09-15 12:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It takes a lot of intelligence to answer a question of this magnitude so i suggest why not try the group equation theory
2006-09-15 12:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by philanthropic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows that it is not good for him, and he is looking for validation in his bad behavior. If you start back then he does not have to face what he is doing is bad and quit. Addiction is like that.
I smoked cigs for 15 years, glad I quit. Although I still crave them from time to time. Now I reach for my gal pal to satisfy my cravings.
2006-09-15 12:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he doesnt want to feel like the odd one
if you stop then he might feel compelled to stop and he doesnt want to so if he keeps you tokin then he will too!
just tell him no and if he cant except that then tell him to **** off!
im sorry that i havent been in this position so i cant give better advice but....good luck
2006-09-15 12:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sam M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes just use to u smoking and he doesn't really believe that's you'll quit...just tell him NO and how you feel about it (without causing an argument)
2006-09-15 12:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause he doesn't believe that you can quit and like the old saying goes," misery loves company."
2006-09-15 12:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋