Me and my ex broke up and it was his choice. He got a new gf and since being with her he has slept with me and started txtin and callin me again. He told me last night that his gf has been lyin to him and goin clubbin ad=nd sayin she goin to see her friend emily but has actually been goin to see her ex bf simon. He is really hurt by this but told me he wants it to end. Do you think there is a slight chance of us gettin back together, especially since i have been there for him and because of it it has really shown a sensitive side and feels that he can confide in me. And especially since he has been callin and txtin me more and more. Do you think he has realised he has made the wrong mistake for lettin me go. He even siad last night he'll call me later to talk
2006-09-15 05:22:10 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would kick him to the curb. He broke up with you! Don't take him back. He cheated on this girl w/ you and that is wrong.... AND you let him. Don't be his shoulder to lean on or his booty call. Find you a real man. There are some out there, they are just hard to find.
2006-09-15 05:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it looks like he is cheating on his new girlfriend with you. You can expect the same treatment if you become his girlfriend. I wonder if he ever cheated on you before?
I would say it is pretty clear that you could get back together since he seems to have loose morals. But is it the kind of relationship you want? It sounds like you are desperate and don't respect yourself very much to allow the type of behavior you describe.
You also say his girlfriend is lying to him. Is he telling her he is sleeping with you and texting you? If not than he is as guilty as she is. You have to hold men (and I use that word loosely in this case) to a higher standard. You have to care enough about yourself and respect yourself enough to tell him you are worth more than to be shared.
Go for a guy who will honor and respect you. All he is looking for right now is a good time, and he will take whatever you will freely give him. (And from as many other women as he can too.) He is looking for the free milk, and there seems to be plenty at the store.
2006-09-15 12:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m sure he is great guy. But I believe you can do so much better. Your heart should never ever have to be hurt again. And as sad as it is to say, That Zebra probably aint gonna change his stripes ,,,, for you or anyone else. If he did ones he will do it again. So babe its completely up to you, risk a life of ups and downs and pain or clear the slate, put him in the wind with the unstable other and make something of your self. You are after all created to be so much more and to be a blessing to others. You`ll never be able to reach that with an anchor of ensecurity around that gorgeous neck.
Good Luck and God Bless you from this day forward.
Jim
2006-09-15 12:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get mad at me. There is a possibility you may get back together, just be careful with your own feelings, because you don't want to get yourself hurt again. Weigh the good and the bad here, will he leave you again for another girl? If so, be supportive, forgive him and move on. It sounds like he wasn't all that to start with, no offense. Could he be making this up so he can get back with you? You have to look at all sides of the story here to protect yourself and your feelings. Good luck.
2006-09-15 12:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by catgoturtongue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah there's a chance that he'll want to get back with you. I'm in a kind of similar situation, and you really need to take a step back and think about the situation from an outside point of view. He broke up with you and moved on. If he loved you and realized what he lost, he wouldn't have continued to sleep with you while dating the other girl. He would have broken up with her and tried to get back with you.
He broke up with you the first time. Do you feel comfortable with that fact? Because it's something that drives me crazy. I know that he did it once, whats to stop him from doing it again if a similar situation comes up? Can you trust him anymore?
2006-09-15 12:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by reena_ree86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont really have a relationship with this guy except maybe a sexual one.
He can talk about his other lover to you and youre okay with it.
This is how married men/women get lovers on the side. It's a damaging thing.
By taking him back 'while' he's in another relationship was giving him the 'okay' and telling you about his doubts about her gives him the okay in his mind for cheating on her with you. He'll probably always cheat on you, little doubt.
Anyway you look at it, it's not going to go anywhere but chasing tail. But, if you want a minimal at best relationship and you are satisfied with it..go for it.
2006-09-15 12:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me he is trying to have his cake and eat it too! who's to say that if you and him get back together that he wont go off and sleep with the girl he is with right now? Sounds like he is very indecisive and doesn't know what he wants, so he keeps bouncing around. I wouldnt take him back just yet, I would let time decide if it is right for you two to get together. you dont want to be a rebound. and if you do get back together, you should take it slow. I understand you two have been sleeping together, but keep in mind he's probally sleeping with the girl he's with right now too. He's a genuine player sad to say. I've been there and all that happens in the end, is that you get hurt
2006-09-15 12:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by ~Ang~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it sound like a mess. I think that if he does end up going back to you hes going to do the same thing to you again. Some guys just never understand. If i was you i would forget about him because it sounds like he doesnt know what he wants. Take some time to think about everything. And give him time to.
2006-09-15 12:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be friends with him, but if he dumped you once for a new gf, then he will do it again and again. If he really truly wants you back, he will go above and beyond to get you. Make him work for it and make sure you really want someone like him back as a bf.
2006-09-15 12:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by shelleyw912 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fear you lack any self respect and dignity. You should have been the one to break it up when you discovered he had another gf. You are his second choice. Don't settle for that.
Dump him and never see him again. If you let him back then he will know that he can to ANYTHING and you will always forgive him.
This relationship is broken. Move on.
2006-09-15 12:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋