My bf broke up with me a month ago(we are long distance). Then I bought a ticket and went to see him for a week. We got back together. About 10 days after I came back, we broke up again. It was kind of mutual. It's like as long as we are together, things will be fine, at least for a while. And if we work on it carefully when we are apart, things might still work. After all, we've been long distance for 9 months.
Now I kind of want him back. And when his friend Mike asked him does he wanna get back together with me, he said not sure but he's thinking about it. So Mike, who is also my friend, told me that he thinks that my bf was more leaning towards getting back with me. So now I kind of want to do what I did last time, go up there to see him for a week b/c it definitely worked last time. It's just I have to make a quick decision b/c tickets now are already pretty expensive($230), if I wait more, it could be like $50 more. So what's your opinion, should I buy the tickets?
2006-09-15 05:16:34 · 11 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him come to you. Why are you the one who always has to fork over the money. Unless it is harder for him to have time off from work etc., then he should reimburse you if you go to him.
Sidebar: As a gentleman he should offer to pay you, or send the money before you have to ask for the money. Fair is fair!
2006-09-15 05:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. I was in a similar situation, but my plane tickets cost over $900 round trip (flying from England to Alabama) Granted, we were a lot farther apart distance wise, and we decided it would be easier if we broke up and stayed friends, and for us that was a great decision. I am now happily married and he is getting married next spring.
The only way to know for sure if it is worth it is to actually buy the tickets and go see him. The best way of all would be to not tell him and surprise him. Have Mike pick you up at the airport and take you to see him. With a surprise like that, if he is really happy to see you then it was worth it. If he doesn't look all that enthusiastic, and almost disappointed or even angry, then it wasn't worth it.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-15 12:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Genny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you buy the ticket, your playing his game. Whats wrong with him buying a ticket and coming to you.
HE is playing games with you. Stay away and stop chasing after him. Your not ever going to have a good realtionship this way.
If he cant tell you outright without going through a friend that shows me there is problems.
I am sure you can find a great guy right where you are if you really try. forget this one.
2006-09-15 12:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you should, you have chased him once, let him work out how he feels and if he comes to you having decided that he wants to get back together with you then you guys can work it out. But if you keep chasing off to fix things, you are always going to be the fixer, and believe you me you don't want to be that.
I know its going to be hard to do, but just give it a bit of time, and I have to feel for Mike your mutual friend - poor guy is getting both ears chewed!
2006-09-15 12:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehehe, I must ask you, are you studying economy? :)
When you think about love, you should think about LOVE and you are nnot allowed to think about anything else.
You need to sit with your self and see if this guy worth the extra 50 dollars or not. If yes, then he is the right guy. If he does not worth it, then he does not worth the rest 230 dollars.
I know I haven't given you a clear answer and NO ONE can except you.
So, let me ask you: Do you want to buy that ticket or not?
2006-09-15 13:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy the tickets, you have no other way of knowing what will happen if you dont. buying them for him, is like buying them for yourself. even if you buy them, and he comes, you shouldnt expect too much from him. i'm sure he will be grateful in his way, in fact, it takes a certain amount of grace to receive a gift like that, especially for a man.
its so hard to know the outcome when you are apart. i say go ahead, get it out of your system.
all the best.
2006-09-15 12:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by maAternal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships seldom work. If he is not even sure if he wants to continue the relationship, you shouldn't waste your time and money. Give it up and find someone new.
2006-09-15 12:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he genuinely wants to be with you, he'll come to you. you shouldn't always have to be the one to chase him. if ya'll do get back together you'll have to wonder if it's only because he feels guilty knowing you spent the time and money to come see him and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. make him come to you!!
2006-09-15 12:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY. WHY HE BUY A TICKET AND COME TO SEE YOU. THINK ABOUT IT
2006-09-15 12:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by mipieta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-09-15 12:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋