everyone seems to think its a big deal, but i just want to get it out of the way and forget about it. will i regret it later if its not "special"?
2006-09-15 05:09:35 · 32 answers · asked by lyla_lollipop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
regret comes after when she realized she has given it to a loser and she can never take it back. it's not something you should do to fit in your peers. don't be blinded by what you think is love, while the truth is, the guy just wants to get in your pants.
if you give it to some you think is deserving and special, even after breaking up, you will never regret it... so when you look back, it wouldn't be an awful memory.
2006-09-15 05:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by поцелуй 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I Know How You Feel I'm 21 And I Am Still A Virgin Because I Have Not Met The Right Man Yet So I Have Not Had Sex I Would Love My First Time To Be Special With Someone Who Loves and Respects Me But Sometimes I Do Think In This Day And Age Will That Ever Happen And One Of My Friends Mum's Said To Me Once Just Have Sex And Enjoy It When You Can With Who You Can Because You Will Never Find Mr Right As No Man Will Ever Be Good Enough For Any Girl!
2006-09-15 06:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the virginity that's a big deal, it's the sex that's a big deal! You can regret every sexual encounter that you have if you are not ready for it. On the other hand, if you take the time to get to know your partner....Wait until you are both ready and mature enough to deal with each experience. You need to realise the potential bad things that could happen (unplanned pregnancy, STD's, relationship breakdown).
I lost my virginity when I was 17, to a person who I trusted. We both respected each other, cared for each other and had patience with one another. Nothing was rushed, we discussed it properly beforehand and made sure it was the right thing to do. I look back on that time and I smile. I have to admit, it was kind of special and a lot of fun! We went out for a while afterwards until I left for university, but even now, I still see him in my home town and we talk to each other.
My advice is not to rush into ANYTHING. Don't listen to your 'friends' who tell you to go for it and don't feel pressurized by your partner. If he pushes you, then he's certainly not worth it. If you are 100% prepared emotionally and mentally and have talked it through, you shouldn't regret a thing. However, don't treat it as something to do in order 'to get it out the way'. It's a sacred, personal, private thing for you and your partner.
I also believe that how you lose your virginity lays a basis for the rest of your sexual experiences. If you have an enjoyable, non regretable, safe time, you will treat and expect to be treated with respect every single time.
Be confident and strong in your own body. Wait for the perfect time and the perfect partner, don't feel any pressure (especially if you are under the legal age!), and play it safe. Those old wives tales about virgins not getting pregnant......don't believe them!
2006-09-15 05:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by roxpox99 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think losing your virginity is a big deal, maybe not at the time, but when you look back on it when you're older. I lost mine to my boyfriend in the lounge on a rug in front of the fire, but he kept his boxer shorts and socks on in case my parents came home, not pretty!! I lost mine at 13 and like you, felt it was something I wanted to get over and done with. I'm now 30 and can look back at it and think how glad I am I lost it to someone special. So basically, I'm just trying to say, lose it to someone you really care about and make sure you use protection.
2006-09-15 05:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Oldfruit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will and it is a BIG DEAL. It is a isgift you can ob\nly give to one man. My husband was so happy thet i want onlky so far with my other b/f but i saved my virginity for him. Guys say it does not matter but a lot of guys will think it is really nice if their wife (or in my case fiance) save it for them. And i think later on down the road whan you meet that "special" guy you will regret that you cannot give him that gift.
2006-09-15 05:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by l_iwoman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a shame if you feel it is a burden that you need to offload. Consider it in the same way as you would consider any other new experience. Do you feel a pressure to 'get it out of the way, and forget about' a parachute jump? No. So why feel that way about the first time you have sex?
2006-09-15 05:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't regret losing mine, but I did it with someone I loved.
I think you will regret it later if it's not with someone you genuinely like. Don't give in to peer pressure if that's why you want to lose your virginity, just do what you feel is best for you.
2006-09-15 05:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by li li 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u are best waiting till the right guy comes along, i lost mine just to get it out the way although when i think back i think i would have rather waited.
Its personal opinion i think!
2006-09-15 05:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by dancing darlings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will later when it becomes a big deal after kissing all the frogs and your prince comes along.
2006-09-15 05:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are under age or if it is with the wrong person. It is special because that person's name is going to be etched in your memory forever, you want it to be a good memory not a bad one. Good Luck with your search.
2006-09-15 05:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by Masterwho? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋