...Love and need him as an integral part of your life. Still sexually attracted to him. You love to be held by this person. This person can turn your worst day into a happy one. He broke-up with you about 7 months ago; he was looking for something he thought he was missing, only to realize what he wanted, he had all the time. An unconditional love.He's gone from your life for a few months. In this time, she texts him 8 or 9 different times because she needs, I'll call it consoling. You get back. She happens to call as your heading to suprise her. She's drunk and wants to be picked from a party she doesn't want to be at. You take her home and the whole night there's a lot of hugging, and terms of endearment are flyin' all over. A little intimacy. But more emotional through the conversation than anything. In the morning. There's still cuddling and carressing. You e-mail her and pour your heart out. Only to have her call you and tell you that there is no more us? But that night you said??
2006-09-15 05:06:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm kind-of confused by your story - is it you that he broke up with?
2006-09-15 05:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be a vindictive little B__ch and she has you where she wants you or she just made a wrong choice and regrets it now. Women can be as cool as men when it comes to paying back the same treatment. You hurt her, she hurt you. She's got you all worked up and maybe she no longer wants you, but wanted you to taste some of your own medicine. She was drunk too. Maybe when she sobered up she realized the mistake she made. Loneliness is a bad counselor and combined with alcohol makes us do things that we later regret. Could be that even if it feels good, she's too hurt and does not want to get hurt again. Remember you left her, to seek greener pastures, sow your wild oats, and you did not care how she felt. It is not easy to pick up where you left off, there is mistrust to deal with. Can she trust you again to stick by her and not run off the first minute you decide life is better on the other side? Nobody can live on an emotional merry-go-round. She has feelings too. Do not be so self-centered and think only about your side of the situation. Give it time, try to win her again if she's worth it, and make sure you're honest with her this time.
2006-09-15 12:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sylvia P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH! Well, you knew she was drunk the night you picked her up, so you took the chance of her telling you some bull crap. She shouldn't have expected you to do that. You should not have done it , either. Just get over her. It seems like she doesn't know what she wants. And she only wants you when she needs something. There may be more to the story, only you know that, but if you're telling the truth, you need to just let her go, buddy. Sorry!
2006-09-15 12:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs some time to think. Give her about 3 days. She WILL realize you are her one and only true love that will take care of her. She probably is just mad at what happened a long time ago, but when she realizes what is happening, she will want to be with u forever. Practically guranteed, because almost the same thing happened to me and i just needed to figure it all out. good luck.
2006-09-15 12:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, the first rule of dating or relationships is that you don't accept anything said, while the person saying it is drunk.
If you left her and she still wants you back, that's one thing. She needed you then. Now that you want her again, she decided to move on. Sounds like pay back to me.
There IS nothing like a woman scorned!
The nasty biatch comes roaring to life to make you pay for the pains that you caused.
2006-09-15 12:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by tangie1247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps she is a very confused girl. But remember that "he** have no fury like a woman scorned." Maybe you hurt her very bad when you dumped her. She got over it, but when you wanted to come back she saw the oppurtunity to mess with your head and hurt you like you hurt her before. In that case she was just getting even.
2006-09-15 12:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by summer love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were a good security blanket. Evidently she has found a new one. Sounds like she liked you great while you were unavailable, but has rethought her position. If you break up with someone in the future, finalize it. You can be polite, but end it. I am so sorry.
2006-09-15 12:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there are still feelings there, of course. And being drunk, those feelings were not as tightly controlled by normal inhibitions.
2006-09-15 12:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Souris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not getting it. You're with a guy who thinks you good for him except he can't let go of the fantesy of his 'perfect' girl who keeps messing with his head?
I'm more lost after reading it again. 2 points.
my head hurts.
2006-09-15 12:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't rely on something someone says when they're drunk and she may still love you but realize that's not always enough to make a relationship.
2006-09-15 12:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋