This is REALLY long, but I would really really, greatly appreciate an honest answer, thanks!?

Question

This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said

well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.

But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,

Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?

And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.

But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?

Answer 1

Didn't you post this about a month ago? You still havent' bagged that chick>?

Answer 2

First of all you seem like such a sweet guy.
Ok, My first impression was that she seems to be a little afraid of getting close to you, perhaps because of her home schooling she lacks certain social skills.
And I think that she is telling her friends that she doesn't want to hurt you because she most likely doesn't want her friends to think she is afraid of dating. (peer pressure sucks)

So if I were you I would just back off for a little while, give her some time to think, and approach her again in a week or 2.
If she is still giving you the same story then I would just be friends with her, and she may change her mind when she is a little less afraid.
Hope it all goes well for you

Answer 3

dude you are just going to have to get over it. she told she didnt want to be more than friends. if she has changed her mind then she needs to be the one to come out and say she wants a more serious relationship. it sucks to be in this position but there isnt much you can do. continue being her friend but dont expect anything.

Answer 4

I truely believe that if someone likes you romantically they would never tell you they were not interested.

It sounds like she genuinly enjoys your company as a friend but isn't attracted to you romantically.

Good luck.