The last couple of weeks my son has skipped school or classes. Walked out of class because two girls were fighting, one was a friend. Not sure if his friends are doing the same thing. Just all of a sudden he has no desire to go to school.
We have been seeing a therapist over 2 years. The last visit to the psychiatrist, my son told him he didn't want to take medicine anymore that it didn't work for his ADHD. So, we don't see him anymore.
Called the school this morning, still waiting for the assistant principal to call back, called the counsler left message, and called this new social worker they have, she was with parents.
He was an A and B student who use to care. It will be awhile before the first report card comes out.
Any help would be greatly appreciated??
2006-09-15 04:46:00 · 12 answers · asked by Dottie 6 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Need help to choose!
I have two people to choose and can't. zeakster01 and words_smith_4u both have emailed me with more information that is here. Both have told me their stories of dealing with the same situation. I want to give both 10 points and can't.
I'll need to put this is voting.
2006-09-16 09:17:37 · update #1
I personally have been in your very situation. I had a now 21 year old, and 18 year old that did not focus because of ADHD. Share with your son what happened to them...My 21 year old blew off the second semester of his senior year, and still hasnt finshed school, and my 18 year old has finally come to the realization that his medicine does help him focus, if taken on a regiment and as perscribed....1) a non high school graduate earns 65% less money in his lifetime then a high school grad. 2) If he thinks he will be able to find work other then minimum wage jobs , in this economy he is sadly mistaken. One of my sons has yet to find a job. And the 21 year old has finally realized you have to have credentials to even get a wiff of an interview, due to the fact the competion is so keen. Neither qualify for any kind of training programs due to the fact they have no dipolma and most times unless you have an advocate working for or with you, you wont find much. I understand that school is hard, and the grind sometimes seem like its not worth it. However, he will find that if he doesnt apply himself now, when schooling is free, that he will end up paying a steeper price for quitting then if he stays in school and gains life skills. THis is what employers are looking for. Not quitters....Its not a front loaded proposition, its a rear ended one, ask him to seek help from a counselor to find some kind of apprentice program to learn a trade if he feels thats what he wants....At his age it will be worth walking out with some kind of job training that he will have to spend thousands of dollars for in two short years....Its completely a bottom line issue...It took a bad experience in the private sector for my sons to realize its a very competitive world now, and you have to realize the old saying of "you get out of life, what you put into it....is a real life issue..." Hopefully one persons experience will help you and your son out...My advice is to get with the program, sit down with people that are in place to help you(ie the social workers, and career counslers) to find out what would fit for him...be involved but if he just quits, he will regret this in the coming years, and will find out, he did nothing for his future but waste something he cant make up....Time.
2006-09-15 05:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by zeakster01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is he picked on? I think the first thing you should do is fix the reason that he is picked on... and don't think that someone shouldn't have to change to impress other people...well, then they can go on not having any friends... it's unfortunate, but it's the way the world works. So, your first step is figure out why he gets picked on and reverse it. Then, if he's going to be home - put his butt to work, he should do the dishes, laundry, any chores around the house you want him to... that will convince him to get out more... make sure he doesn't have time to play video games or watch TV... at home it should be - homework, dinner, chores, bed... if he needs entertainment, he should go out to seek it... --- I don't want you to make him think he's being punished, sorry! I just think it's important that he's being productive. Sitting home alone doing nothing is not productive, that's all... I'd like to echo the job thing! Especially if he can get a job where he doesn't work with many of the same kids from school. And I think all single mothers who try should be given the Mom of the year award!!
2016-03-17 21:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a hard thing...
Most kids KNOW that there is NO LIFE without a high school education.
You can live, AND get a job without a college degree, but with high school, it is damned near TOUGH.
Maybe, you can get him transferred into another school.
Or, maybe you can home school him for the last few years?
Maybe he can graduate early?
And, there are government programs you may want to try. One being the Job Corps Program. He can finish his high school education there (or get his GED) and learn a trade or two. Also, he might get into college from there. What's best, is it is FREE. ((Actually, he would get a stipend for being there, and medical, dental, and clothing allowance...))
Yeah, I went there, though it was AFTER I graduated high school...
I am betting, home schooling would probably work better...
2006-09-15 04:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by ICG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The teen years are so hard....obviously there is more going on maybe some emotions he is even unaware of. I have previously been successful in bribes for kids to stay in school...remind him of the things he can accomplish and get. Have him think of a sports care etc......that he would really like one day. All can be made with some schooling and hard work....the more schooling the less hard the work! Maybe a quick trip by the showroom ...so he has a visualization of his goal. Good Schooling=Good Job=things you want in life IE....all the big boy toys he could imagine!
2006-09-15 04:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by toogoodtobebad2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense or anuthing but if he is YOUR 16 year old, you should MAKE him stay in school. IT really isnt a matter of whether he wants or not because if it was no 16yr old would be in school! You should try talking to him (not through a therapist) what is wrong or what he is expecting out of life. Also tell him that he has to finish at least highschool and then maybe he can do whatever he wants after but to at least have a highschool diploma.
2006-09-15 04:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by _ooopsie daisy_ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My heart goes out to you, I just experienced the same thing with my 16yr old daughter. She is a senior. We went to her H.S counselor & told her she needed to come up with something or else my daughter was going to quit. ( she hated the kids ) We have arranged it so she comes to school earlier in the morning before all of the other kids & she is out of school at noon. You need to find out what his issue is. Why now does he hate it. Does he fit in? Kids are cruel so try to be understanding.
2006-09-15 04:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and talk to him, like a friend. try to understand him and explain the importance of education. he doesnt need a therapist or medacine, ADHD is just the most rediculous thing i have ever heard. spend more time with him, and talk to him everyday, do not yell or get after him b/c that will not help. tell him how much you love him and how much it would mean to you for him to stay in school. ask him to do it for you if not himself
2006-09-15 04:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by mr. clean 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Offer Incentives.
My parents would have busted my tail, and for me that worked. Not all kids are the same. So you have to figure out what will work for your child. Maybe adult high school would be best for him or homeschool.
2006-09-15 04:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by pottersclay70 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want school - then work is the answer. Let him know what kind of job he would get (without education). It won't be glamorous!
2006-09-15 05:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by words_smith_4u 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to visit a homeless shelter--the down-and-out look on people's faces might get to him.
2006-09-15 06:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by Brigid O' Somebody 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋