Me and my boyfriend live in the same apartment complex, but with friends. When our one year lease runs out we will definitely be getting a place together. I'll be in my third year of college.
Note that we are in love and have been for five years, and so marriage is going to happen eventually. Anyone have any advice on when the best time to get married is? Benefits to rushing to the altar or waiting a certain amount of time?
2006-09-15 04:44:24 · 17 answers · asked by Brackalicious 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since you guys are in love and plan on getting married eventually, it seems like the only thing you need to consider right now is finances and school (as unromantic as that sounds). How is marriage going to affect your health insurance, income, taxes, fiancial aid, tuition, rent, etc? Can you afford any changes now? Also, would getting married now affect your college education, or (vice versa) would being in college affect your marriage? Get together with your boyfriend to gather facts and discuss these things, because overlooking them can sometimes make life very difficult (I've had friends who got kicked off their parent's insurance plans when they got married and didn't even realize it). I wish you guys the best!
2006-09-15 05:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
An interesting question and perplexing. I undestand that you are not living together, because that could be considered common law marriage all ready in some states.
So if you are living apart with friends then the matters of the heart are the issue to be directly considered. Are you mature enough as a couple, and able to truly understand the stark reality of marriage and committment. Third year in college, I`m sure you probably are but I had to provoke the question. Are the finances in place and going to be stable enough to handle dual bills etc. Love is an awesome thing but after several years of operating in a dollarless relationship, credit can go sour, fianances consume every move you make, there is no breathing room or ability to enjoy life. Money isnt everything True enough but I`ve found this out,,,, It`s like oxygen!!! try living without it!!!
Communication, security, Love emmotionally not just sexually. Sexually are you able to fulfill each others needs and can handle that for the rest of your lives. Communication, Sex and Money and Power are without a doubt the four leading causes of divorce today. I recommend an inventory and if your checklist is good then as you both agree then seek out Marital Counceling and then step into it together. Keep God first in the relationship, Spouse second, and Job third. You can not go wrong!
hugs Jim
2006-09-15 05:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if it was me, and I knew that I was going to marry this person, I would give myself atleast a year to plan my wedding and save up enough money to make it perfect. You are only going to get married once (theoretically) so make sure that you are happy with your wedding and everything that is involved in it. As long as you are both ready to commit to eachother, then there isn't a specific amount of time you need to wait. You know you love eachother and you have been together a while.
2006-09-15 04:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by reena_ree86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Waiting makes sense because: 1. if you love each other and are sexually active, then there is no hurry. 2. if you are both in school, finishing will keep you in a better financial situation. 3. if this is the right relationship for you both, then time will never tarnish it.
2006-09-15 04:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can answer that but you two. You have to both feel that you are in the right places in your life, and that it is time to get married.
All that really matters is that you love eachother and both know what you want now and in the future.
2006-09-15 04:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait till you have finished college and started your career and go from there. It is so much easier to be settled in so that you will have time to concentrate on your career and marriage
2006-09-15 04:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you've been together for 5 years, it doesn't matter how long you wait. But, May is a beautiful month for a wedding...
2006-09-15 04:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl
all these years and you haent lived together even though you live so close
put off the marrage- move in an see if it works- life is not what you expect sometimes
have fun and good luck
2006-09-15 04:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would say get settled in life, fin a job and work and get a stable income, then you can think about marriage
2006-09-15 04:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your love has lasted this long I'd recommend that you finish up with college first.
2006-09-15 04:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋