I take my son to the playground. I do crafts with him, mush up playdough, sing and dance around the house with him. I often meet with other mothers while our children play. It is a job but a fun one. Does anyone else feel guilty about having fun with our children while our husbands are stuck at work? I just can't shake it and sometimes it holds me back from doing some activities with my son. At least tell me that I'm normal...
2006-09-15 04:39:36 · 7 answers · asked by AlongthePemi 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
huskymom - my question was personal. i do not have to tell working mothers about my day. I do tell my husband about it. I have nothing against them and I wasn't intending to start a debate.
2006-09-15 04:54:36 · update #1
jevic - LOL! He does!
2006-09-15 04:55:03 · update #2
dance - thank you. Since you do not have children I'm assuming you have a great relationship with your mom.
2006-09-15 05:36:01 · update #3
As a man, I would say...absolutely you should NOT FEEL GUILTY!
To put it simply, children are incredibly perceptive. If you are having fun, your kid probably is too. If nothing else, he or she is sensing that you are enjoying this time with them. That is so important and healthy for a child.
You are being a wonderful mother and you enjoy doing it. There is nothing wrong with that. In fact, there is everything RIGHT with that.
And this is nothing against working moms either. Working or not working doesn't dictate what kind of mom you are. Your patience, attitude and love does.
2006-09-15 04:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by BadWX 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mom. But I've heard so much negativity about motherhood. It is so refreshing to see that there are women who enjoy it. It gives me hope. Thanks.
I've heard from friends of mine that this feeling is normal. As an outsider, here's my point of view. (or if you really don't want my point of view, then just ignore the rest of this answer). A happy mom is a good mother. Your children are young for just a short amount of time. You are their world. You are directly influencing who they will become. It's good to spend so much happy time with them. I think they will become secure in their self-image and will be well-adjusted human beings.
A question to ask yourself is this. What has more value? Money or your children? You are doing such an important job and it's great that you are able to stay home with them. If you want to know another reason why being at home is important, just look at all the tender moments they have with you and your husband. No amount of money can buy the sweet times when they say "I love you" or "You're the best mommy in the world". You are there for them when they need you. To them, you are the greatest person in the world. This is the job that you do. I'm sure it's the hardest job in existence. Forget the guilt and be happy that you are able to shape your children's lives.
edit: Yes, I have an absolutely wonderful relationship with my mom. I've also got a husband who treats me like a queen. (okay, maybe not entirely like a queen but he's good to me). I can't have children yet so I'm patiently waiting.
2006-09-15 12:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by ☼Grace☼ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have nothing at all against stay at home moms. I was lucky to be able to stay at home with my daughter till she was 9 months old, and I didn't feel guilty since my husband was at work.
I just hope that you are not against working moms, cause we feel guilty that we can't do that stuff at home with our kids.
I didn't say you were and neither was I. It just seems like there are alot of SAHMS that seem to have an "I am a better mom than you are because I stay at home with my kids and you work all day" attitude and I was just hoping that you were not one of those. I was a SAHM once and am now a working mom, so I have nothing against either. It was a comment, nothing more. Don't take is personal.
2006-09-15 11:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY! I don't think I ever feel guilty! 'Course, I have a lot more children so it's "never a dull moment", but...you are doing one of the most important jobs on the earth, so don't feel guilty. I'm going to guess that you do the majority of the housework and cooking while your husband is away, so you are contributing to the family "economy", too, just in a different way. ENJOY YOUR SON!
2006-09-15 11:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mom o 4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a SAHM is a full time job...you have nothing to feel guilty about!
You are just a creative person who has made your job fun. Nothing wrong with that! Enjoy your son now while you can. They grow up really fast.
2006-09-15 11:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising kids and running a household is just as important as a paycheck. It's a F/T job and if the tables were turned, the working parent could not keep up with home demands. Most of us do a number of jobs!
Childcare
Cleaning
Finances
Nutrition
Just to name a few!
2006-09-15 11:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are working just as much as your husband. You don't think he deals with people that act like they are 2 at work? I work full time, if I stayed home, I wouldn't feel guilty one bit about my husband working.
2006-09-15 11:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by jevic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋