2006-09-15 04:30:38 · 29 answers · asked by Beth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no it means that he needs to work on his control. desensitize the region. sorry for you, tough luck.
2006-09-15 04:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by SST 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It just means he hasn't had the education and he lacks the experience that very few people have. It's not ENTIRELY his fault. We live in a society where we like and shun sex at the same time (blame it on politics and religion all you want, it's us really to blame).
But back to my point, you and your man have a unique opportunity to explore this together and learn something new. NO ONE is ready made to be experts at anything. You have to learn things TOGETHER and take advantage to perhaps, learn something new. Get books and tapes on lovemaking and experiment and learn what the each other likes.
Together for starters, learn to trust each other and respect each others feelings. This is a moment where both have to be open and that can be difficult at first. Second, agree that this is a time of privacy and intense intimacy. An atmosphere should be created in order for both to feel secure in learning something new. if you propose this to him, he may feel a little uneasy. That is understandable in his position (especially if a woman initiates the idea), but a sit down with him telling him that this is a great benefit and a healthy thing, both mentally and physically.
Don't throw in the towel just yet. he may be too embarrassed to tell you his lack of experience and what's behind it. Let him know that this shouldn't be a dark secret or embarrassing, but that this is something that's fun and enjoyable.
This way, you guys will have the best of both worlds.
Go for it and have fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-15 11:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a lot of things, do you intimidate him? Does he feel pressured to perform? I usually have that problem when I meet a girl for the first time, because I am pressured to perform. But after that its OK. Your guy just might be too occupied in pleasing you, so he gets too nervous. Or it could be Premature Ejaculation, a real medical condition. He should see a Dr. if it persists. In the meantime, make sure you are very understanding, assure him that it is OK and you are willing to work with him to correct the problem. Do not insult or get mad at him, if you do it will only get worse. Once he is comfortable it will get better. Read books on techniques to improve his stamina. Most of the time it is in his mind. If all else fails, see a Dr.
2006-09-15 11:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to spend 15 minutes on female exploration and foreplay before thrusting four times. LOL that should satisfy everyone.
2006-09-15 11:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I imagine that you have such a hot body that he is already worked up before he even gets started and so it goes quick. Maybe some practice with foreplay and he will get to last longer. You might have to guide him through it which will take alot of practice which isn't really a bad thing lol
2006-09-15 11:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yikes-I would definately start to train him or something-or make sure he gets you off first and then let him do his thing-this usually works-at least it did for me with one of my bf's-only his was out of pure selfishness-so I made him go last-now with my current boyfriend, I am the first girl he has had sex w/out a condom with, and we are both clean and I am on birth control-so I am training him to last longer-----SuzyBelle
2006-09-15 11:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it means he is a 3 pump chump! Advice for you.. no foreplay, slow him down, and tell him to think about an old lady on a horse! It works for me and i can go for 45min at least!!
If it doesn't work.. dump him LOL
2006-09-15 11:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by stewiegrif27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LMAO....I'm sorry hun for laughing, but that is really sad. Maybe if he pleasures himself before you guys get down he will last longer. Maybe he is selfish and likes it that way...who knows. But if it doesn't change soon, I would find a new bf.
2006-09-15 11:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by deepadot 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no it means u probably need to supplement yur activities with yur man-----email me at pirate_dog2006@yahoo.com and i will send u some pictures of me that u may like---then maybe we cood talk----do u masterbate?? if so do it real slow and increase the anticipation--know ur body--maybe that will help u with yur bf.
2006-09-15 11:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by eddie a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks.. been there done that! I would get him a big on how to please women or try some new techniques and make sure he gets you off before him.. Needless to say I am no longer with him for that reason.. well one of the reasons!!
2006-09-15 11:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make him spend some 'personal time' with himself about 45 mins. before you get with him. Clean the pipes.
2006-09-15 11:33:17 · answer #11 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋