My boyfirend and I had been dating for 11 months but my parents dont know...and not too many people do because he is muslim (but not religious) he is an amazing guy...i broke up with him about 3 weeks ago because i couldnt continue lying to my parents (and there is no way they would ever let me be with a muslim guy)...but what should i do?...my manager and i are kinda seeing eachother...and he really likes me but i love my ex-bf so much...please help
2006-09-15 04:21:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you cant be true to one person when you are still in love with another, that causes problems.
2006-09-15 04:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by content 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship with your manager is kinda like a rebound relationship. You shouldn't break up with your bf just cause you get scared of the reaction from your parents. Your life does not revolve around them, sooner or later, they will have to accept whichever guy you chooses. Why is he punished just because he's a muslim. He was born a muslim and he had no choice. If you are serious about him, and you are sure that he is the one, you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. Discuss with him what you both can do and whether the relationship can be saved. As for the manager, I don't think its fair that you give him the wrong idea, cause you don't love him. Let him go so that he will not waste his time on you and move on.
2006-09-15 11:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't a practicing muslim then what does it matter. And why do so many people put such a damper on a relationship because they are worried what their parents want. Your parents aren't dating the guy nor have any intentions of spending any time with him. You the one that wants to be with him not them. And for your manager, it seems you have something for him which means you are kind of over your old bf which was quick. I guess test the waters and see what happens. Your old bf probably has forgotton about you any way since you black marked him for his denomination
2006-09-15 11:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, get your sh*t together. If you want to be with this guy then be with him. Your parents can't rule your life forever, if your fooling around with your manager then your an idiot. There's only one way that can go. Make up your mind, try talking to your parents ahead of time, have him come over just as a friend and let your parents meet him and they can see how amazing he is.
2006-09-15 11:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself this: How much do you really love him if it wasn't worth risking it to tell your parents and you are with someone else 3 weeks later? I broke off a four yesr relationship in April and started seeing someone two weeks later, and yes I still love my ex. But the reasons we broke up are still there and it still won't work so why bother? Either tell your parents and start out correctly, or keep being single until you don't have to answer to them anymore.
2006-09-15 11:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Slutlana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your ex, then be with him. It sucks that you have racist parents, but are you going to let them tell you who to love? How would you feel if you gave up a wonderful life and marriage with this amazing guy that you love because of your parents' stupid prejudice? I can understand keeping it secret from them because though honesty is good, they would never let you see him again.
Listen to your heart, but I think you already know what it's saying.
2006-09-15 11:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Brackalicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him I guess go back. I believe your parents know best though. If they think he's not for you then he's not unfortunately. I grew up with racists parents to and it's hard. Also never date a co-worker especially a manger or supervisor. I go by the motto never mix honey with money it tends to get you in a sticky situation. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-09-15 11:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do what everyone tells you all the time you will be unhappy for the rest if your life. You need to follow ur heart because you do love him. Don't let anyone tell you different.
2006-09-15 11:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by dcutegirl06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont lead on your manager if you dont really want to be with him you are going to have to sit down with your parents and tell them theres not much they can do if you like him you like him and at first they might be mad but they will get over it and like him for what he is
2006-09-15 11:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by lost_in_love_still 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents don't have to deal with your feelings. I say if you love him, be with him. Dump the manager.
2006-09-15 11:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ME♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
close that chapter in your life, label it as a growing experience and move on with your manager...or someone else! especially if your family would not be willing to accept him, your too young for this type of drama!
2006-09-15 11:26:42 · answer #11 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋