I'm honestly not starting a man-rant, but genuinely - i'm lost! You men in your mid 20's - early 30's - what's going on? If you're looking for someone what do you want from us? humour, friendship, intelligence, space, loyalty, being weak?
Please enlighten me! (And probably loads of other confused girls on here!)
Thank u : )
2006-09-15 04:16:57 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on the guy of course, in this age group us guys are aware we may be close to sowing the last of our wild oats, so to speak and dreading the comittment thing.
For me if I found a girl who is confident enough to be herself, funny, doesn't take herself too seriously,talkative (I'd kill myself with awkward silences, you either click or you don't) clever (I'm not programmed to deal with bimbo chicks,no matter the package) and open enough to explore her own sexuality then I'd be happy!!
2006-09-15 04:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are silly if you think that complete answer can be answered in this forum. Relationships are give and take.
Personally - I've always believed in the 3 C's.
Communication
Commitment
Compromise
If you can seriously come to an understanding on those 3 things - you can make anything work. Good sex definitely plays a part of it. That can be handled through communicating! (The first C) wink!
2006-09-15 04:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex without a woman wanting a baby out of the deal... at least in my case. I know it sounds like I'm being a smart-alec, but all the fun without all the drama would be a good thing. It allows me to let my guard down, & I'm more likely to be willing to commit if a woman measures up to my commitment standard. Being that I'm a successful, single bachelor in my early 30s, I have no children, & at least at this point in my life, want none. I would like to be able to find a woman who is also successful & ambitious, & would like to enjoy just being with me without planning things out years ahead. If I'm going to commit, I want someone who will be my best friend, has an insatiable sex drive, loves to travel, & isn't so worried about a freaking "biological clock" that she wants to push things faster than I'm willing for them to go. If I never have kids, who cares? So, a sense of humor, intelligence, friendship, & loyalty are all important to me, & everyone needs space occasionally, even if they have been married for 50 years. Weakness isn't a turn-on to me, as I prefer a woman who wants to make more of herself than a baby dispenser. Quite frankly, I've spent a good deal of my life looking at what I could offer a woman, but now I'm being fair to myself. I know I'm a good catch, so now I want to know what she can offer me, & if she's worth the compromises every lasting relationship will require.
2006-09-15 04:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
generalising about what men want is already half way to the wrong answer just as is it would be if i started any sentence with "every women is..."
not only is generalising wrong, but wanting to put so much effort into giving a man what he wants is probably unlikely to get you much respect. after all, most men worth having don't want someone who's so worried about pleasing men that she's prepared to change what makes her happy in order to please him.
establish who you are, what you really want and are happy doing and not doing in a relationship and then see if you can find the man who likes that too. if you spend your time trying to be someone men like, it is gonna make you seem pretty desperate, however well you think you hide it.
2006-09-15 04:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Boring 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You women are just as mystical to us. Enlighten ME!
I like strong women who can keep me motivated - I'm naturally inclined to be lazy and procrastinate, so I need someone to keep me on track! I also need someone who can leave me alone when I need to be left alone, because sometimes I just need to withdraw from the world.
Someone who doesn't necessarily have a lot in common with me, just as long as we fundamentally get on very well. I like intelligence, so I can talk with her on my level. I don't mind if she's smarter than me - it gives me something to aspire to.
She's got to share my sense of humour too.
Despite all that, I'm easily pleased, honestly.
2006-09-15 04:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by reddragon105 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm not a man, but the best thing you can do is be yourself.. Don't go out of your way to impress a man by being someone you're not.. Men can easily pick that up, and it's a turn off... Be yourself, and you will meet a man that will like you for you...
2006-09-15 04:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well im 32 and all i want is a real women to be her self and knows what she wants out of life someone witha good heart that will love me for me for i will love her for her but see there is no real women around that will give a man like me a chance because all the stupid men broke there hearts and treated them like trash so they gave up on looking for mr right so i gave up as well now days no one wants you for you. you got to have something car money e.t.c. cant even find a friend for the same reson so i hope i gave you the right answer but i will leave by saying all men are not a like you got boys and you have men peace
2006-09-15 04:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
there are no set parameters, thats why it is so difficult. We just fancy various types of girl on a whim.
Basically we are looking for compatability. I've lost count of the times i have fancied someone only to find that when i do speak to her i'm turned off immediately!!! Likewise others that dont even catch my eye suddenly become interesting when I get to know them.
2006-09-15 04:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off they are looking for someone that they can have fun with and enjoy being with. Intelligence helps alot and a personality and good looks. But don't go out looking for someone and what they want. Go looking for what you want and then narrow things down till you find exactly what your looking for
2006-09-15 04:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex! Someone I can depend on (likes to have sex). Someone that I can trust (that likes to have sex often). Someone that I know will be faithful (sex with me only!). A playful dirty girl (likes freaky circus sex) but can keep all that undercover when necessary. Someone that can be feminine yet knows how to be one of the boys (can talk about sex or make crude sexual jokes without getting all upset). Someone who can compromise (is open to trying new things sexually). Someone that tries to understand me (realizes I like sex and doesn't act like it's a chore) and is happy when I'm happy. Someone that doesn't play childish immature head games (cuts off sex because she's angry) and expects me to read her mind. Of course there is give and take with all of this so it's not as one sided as it seems.
2006-09-15 04:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋