How the Hell do you hate your mother?

Question

I've heard this said before. "I Hate My mother". I didn't think they were serious but they were. People hate their mothers with a passion. If you know somebody who has said this or you are one, please help me understand: How the hell do you hate you mother?

Answer 1

Perhaps they don't 'hate' their mother - but hate certain things about them. My mother is mentally unstable (bi-polar/depressive/obsessive-compuslive disorder), and I don't routinely speak to her because you never know how she will react, depending upon her mood. I accept the fact that she is who she is, and I can't change her. She is my mother, and I will always love her - but I would really HATE to become LIKE MY MOTHER.

Answer 2

Some people don't realize what having a child means. It's sad but some mothers hate their children. They see them as burdens and feel like they miss out a lot in life because of their kids. I have a friend who hates her mom, she's 22 now, and has disliked her mom since she was a child. Literally, we watched a home movie from when she was 4, when her mom came near her should would run and scream. Her grandparents confirmed since she was tiny she never wanted to leave when they had babysat her, she always hated her mother. In this particular situation I feel that it was the mothers actions that helped fuel everything. Her mom is very negative and starts fights over nothing. If you have a different opinion from her she yells and screams until you agree fully with her, even if it's over something as little as wheat or white bread.
I feel so sad for her, I love my mother and can't imagine my life with out her. My friend wants her mother out of her life.

Answer 3

I for one do not hate my mother but I was lucky because I was raised in a home that was filled with love, support and anything that you could ask for in a family. But there are so many moms out there that should of never became a mother in the beginning. Some are on drugs, alcoholics, abusive behaviors, etc.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 4

For the most part those that say "I hate my mother" are the ones that have a mom that is actually doing her job. On the other hand I also see kids (usually girls) of $lut moms (drunk, having a different slim ball man in her bed every week, pregnant 4X by 4 men, never married) who are so dedicated to their mom that I could throw up. Not all parents are wonderful, most parents after a divorce are not wonderful any more. Just because someone happened to give you birth is not cause to think they are wonderful. If your mom chose to mate with a skum ball man why should you like her? She made your life that much more difficult. Once you are an adult you have every right to choose the people you want in your life, I myself choose not to clutter my life with a bunch of A holes that will drag me down in their garbage.

Answer 5

Now first and fore most my mother is my favorite girl, but when people say that , there is nothing written saying that you have to like you mother, some people really have rotten mothers, i read just yesterday about a little boy in pennsylvania whose mother had been sent to prison because all of his teeth had rotted and she never took him to a dentist. They say that kid is going to always have pain and his mouth wont be fixed for years, so if he grew up to say he didn't care for his mother i would understand, also the mothers who kill their kids or other crazy ****, being mom doesn't always mean she will be good to you, and no one has the right to abuse you.

Answer 6

I don't hate my mother but I'm not proud of some things she has done. I also have some friends who probably hate their mothers. Some people shouldn't have kids and if you end up being the child of a mum who puts you in danger, doesn't feed you, neglects you etc... then I guess you would have good reasons to hate your mum. Sorry but we don't all come from good families.

Answer 7

You're obviously 1) not a teenager and 2) not a girl.

Around 16 most teenage girls start duking it out with their mothers. They have more freedom, they think their moms are holding them back, etc. After college the urge to hate usually subsides.

Take my own relationship with my mom: we started to have fights at 16. She was not the best mom, but she tried her hardest. Between 16 and 22 we fought ALL THE TIME. After getting married and have a kid, we're okay now. We had to spend some time getting to know who we each were before we could get a better relationship.

Answer 8

If a person's mother was abusive or extremely controlling. I don't hate my mother but I do have a lot of anger towards my father. He abused me and my brothers in many ways including slaming my brother's head against cement so hard that it fractured his skull. If my mother had done that, I'd hate her or at least be angry enough to say that I hate her.

Answer 9

Oh certain, we may be able to bypass to hell. We placed ourselves there, because it style of feels you've finished. you sense guilt about the way you behaved, and also you want to assert sorry for what you stated, and also you want to take the consequences for that habit. in spite of the undeniable fact that, this is not all that unusual. in reality, this is something maximum childrens bypass by, and when we outgrow it, we sense undesirable -- sometimes for decades, till we are saying sorry for it. mom will probable snort, and it will be over with. So get going. say sorry, provide mom a hug and get on with existence.

Answer 10

I have issues with my mother. I have not spoken to her in 6 yrs is it now. There were hard feelings and well things happened. I say i hated her but i don't think i actually hate her just angry at her.