Why do most men like thinner women?

Question

I have lived most of my life with a thick build, (5'3" 165 pounds),which being hereditary, has hindered my dating for years. Most men prefere women that are rail thin and it makes me sick that looks are more important than anything else. Guys, stop being so shallow and narrow minded! Someday you are going to look in the mirror and see your fat ugly belly and gray hair, then wonder why women won't give you the time of day anymore!!!

Answer 1

for the same reason
most women like rich men

Answer 2

Ok I don't care HOW THICK YOU ARE, 165 pounds at 5'3" is not a healthy weight. Men are naturally attracted to women who look healthy. I wake up at 4:45 in the morning, run up a hill six times, stairs twice, and do shuttle runs. On the days I don't do that, I do weights, or run the 28 flights of stairs at my work 4 and 1/2 times. I also eat a very healthy - low sugar, high protein, and only good carbs. I'll be dam.ned if you'd weigh 165 if you did what i'm doing. However, I do think that men are hypocrites - some men don't take care of themselve - they are older, balding, completely out of shape with big bellies hanging over their pants, and they still think they are entitled to date some hot, young, thin girl. NO no no. Basically I think if living a healthy lifestyle isn't your thing, then don't expect someone who DOES live a healthy lifestyle to want to date you - and that goes for both women and men.

I also don't think men prefer women who are rail thin all the time. A lot of men seem to be drawn to girls with tiny tiny waists, and big butts. This is something I'll never have because I'm built like a gymnast. However, I think that being healthy is the most important thing, and if you can do that, plenty of men will look your way. I may not have a J. Lo body, but because I'm fit, men seem to be attracted to me - if for nothing else, than for the fact that they respect my hard work and determination in the gym.

Answer 3

All men have a type, some being thin women. All though at younger ages, men do tend to be shallow, it is usually directly linked to how they want to be perceived by others. Our culture makes it seem like thin is the way to be. The majority of the women in hollywood and on television are thin, but also good looking. Men see this as a model for what they want and some women see this as a guideline to how they need to look. As men age and see that they aren't as handsome as they used to be, they begin to lose their narrow minded, shallow ways and begin looking for personality traits, rather than looks. This also is true with women, but at older ages. If a man doesnt want you for what you are then you probably dont think alike. And thats definately not someone you want to spend most of your time with or even become attached to. Just remember that there is someone out there for everyone and its nothing wrong with waiting.

Answer 4

don't think of that as a hindrance rather enhance your best feature. it's always how you carry yourself, too. always smile because negative outlook can repel people. if you don't like how you look, change is always present. love yourself first because you can't get from other people what you don't give to yourself. not all guys are shallow. some guys who base on looks are not that serious and sadly, they are still immature. they are still playing the field, collecting girls. the younger ones look for girls that look like from the magazines, hot, sexy, skinny sometimes almost anorexic looking, etc. the older they get, preference changes, they realize better that beauty is more than the physical aspect. guys mature late, when they're older, some get better actually. well, i'm a girl and you might think this answer is void but i admit that when i was younger, i want athletic guys (i'm not even an athlete myself), but now that i'm 25, that's not on top of the list already. there are more important things to consider (which also makes it hard for me to find someone i want to be with). same goes with guys i'm sure. some analogy here --- you always wear the beautiful pair of shoes and go out but at the end of the day, you still look for your comfortable slippers when you get home. men love to be with beautiful women but what matter the most is they look for women who they can connect and be comfortable with. if they truly love someone, they embrace every flaw they see. go out brag to their friends. gain or lose weight, if someone really loves you, you're always beautiful in his eyes and don't want to change anything about you. but hey, we need to take care of ourselves too, ok? if not, no one else will. the more attractive you feel, the more attractive people will find you. skinny ones? i don't think so. men rather be with someone healthy :)

Answer 5

Don't worry about a thing girlie, the world has lost its marbles. There are lots of men out there who would never look at a bag of bones. I have a brother, who only dates plump women, and they are really nice women. Don't lose weight because you think u will get a man if u do. I'm slim, and fighting to gain weight. U could be slim and also be a serial killer, they wouldn't notice, cause all they look at is the physical. That is definitely not love. There are lots of people out there for u, be patient.

Answer 6

Most guys like women who are in good shape, thin is not necessary but good all round body IS.

Reasons, many and varied from the shallow stuff you complain about to the evolutionary stuff, we are vetting for future mothers of our children and obvious excluders like overweight with probable health problems come into play.

Whom we are attracted to is not something you can force into us, it will never happen, so the only thing you can change is yourself.
I'm sorry but weight is not hereditary it is dietary plus lack of exercise.

Answer 7

Soooo. I'm 5' 2" and 180 Lbs although I don't look it completely...but I am "thick" as they call it and I have noticed what you're talking about...but there are those guys who like thick girls just as there are some who like skinny girls.... maybe it's not your frame but the energy you sending out....if it's negative...you'll get negative results....you should be happy about the way you look..God made you that way. I get hit on at least twice a day....

Answer 8

haha that is pretty funny. I am thinking that they like skinny women because they do not want their friends to make fun of them when he introduces her to them. They want a skinny person to show off all of her curves. I do agree with your statement that once a guy does get fat and ugly, women will not be interested in them, and they will finally see what they have done all of their life to women that are a little heavier

Answer 9

Probably the same reason that women (especially women your height) want to be with super tall guys (> 6'). I have dealt with wome who will not give me the time of day simply becuase I am not over a foot taller than them. I am short but I am still taller than the average woman. My guess is you would never be attracted to a guy who is under 5'9". So please stop with the self loathing and male bashing. Women are just as looks oriented as men.

Answer 10

Sadly even fat bald old guys can get cute women, especially if the guys have money. You can lose weight if you really want to. Sign up at a health spa or gym, get a bike, and cut out snacks, sweets, and junk food. You will feel better and look better.

Answer 11

Hang in there... not all men are shallow... men would rather a woman flatter there ego and make them feel special versus a thin rail that is cold.