I've tried to talk with him and i act'd like i was leaving him!nothing work's,he just tell's me he's playin with me.he call's me bad names and tell me bad thing's about me and every one else tell's i'm hot and every thing else.we have three kid's and i'm 21,why don't i feel like a family?
2006-09-15 03:55:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
He is testing you and thats not right, if he knows it bothers you and he still does it, then kick his *** to the curb. you deserve better and he's just being plain 'ol ride twards you.
2006-09-15 04:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he sounds like an ungreatful one to me! You cannot MAKE him respect you, but you can DUMP him. Life is to short for you to go through this. He doesn't respect you because he's always did this and gotten away with it, it's gone this far so he'll never change. Your to "soft" for him. You should start feeling better about yourself!! He wants you to feel that you "need him", you don't need him!! Be proud of those children, they are your family, he's a jerk! I don't know you and I can see that you deserve so much better. Bet your family isn't to "hep" on him either . He's not only bringing you down to his level, he's teaching your babies to be disrespectful to they're mates once they become young adults!!! This is called "Abuse". They''re are agencies in this world that will help you until you can get onto your own feet, use them-that's what they're there for, women that gets into these kinds of relationships. I feel very bad for you, but from the bottom of my heart-- he's gotta go. You gave him 3 children at a very young age, if that hasn't changed him into a real man, nothing will. Get rid of the problem, regain some self-esteem, and move forward. You sound like a sweet person and there are guys out there that would love to have you I'm sure! Some guys do this to women, notice I said "guys" and not "Men"? There's a difference between the two, he's no man!! what he needs is a gal that just doesn't care, you care to much and he's using it to his advantages!! Dump him!! It's the only way to improve your life and your precious childrens! Good luck and take care.
2006-09-15 04:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I speak from experience when I say leave him. I stayed for 28 years and he's still being difficult with the divorce settlement. I wish I'd left a lot earlier. I'm a lot older and doubt I'll remarry. You at least have a chance to find someone else and have that family feeling you crave. True he's just playing with you, but he's playing with your emotions and that's abuse. Unless he gets professional help, it'll only get worse over time. You only have one lifetime. Don't you want to feel like you got the most out of it that you can? You have a right to be treated with decency!
2006-09-15 04:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Oh Wise One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order for Boyfriend to respect you, you have to respect you! IF you do not feel like a family chances are you are not! Be strong and of good courage: if you have to seriously leave him for your own self esteem do it and do not look back! Your children will respect you and you will find a new sense of strength and self respect! Don't allow others to validate your own beauty...You validate yourself everyday when you look in the mirror tell yourself "I'm Hot, I can do better" You will have a strength and such a esteem until you won't have to stand with someone that does not respect you! B/c "playing" with bad names eventually turn into verbal abuse you don't want that!
2006-09-15 05:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by random_thought 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he dont respect you now, then hes not going respect you later. he sounds like an @$$ but you keep letting him get away with his behavior so hes not going to stop unless you put and end to it which means leaving or killing him and you dont want to ruin your life over some b/s.try to find strength to let go and live a better life. i have a child and i have been there so im not just talking ish. since you have acted like you're leaving and he doesnt seem fazed, leave for a couple days or more and see how he acts. im not telling you to stay with him but since you have kids you gotta do whats best for yourself and your kids. you dont want them growing up seeing/thinking that this is how women are supposed to be treated. they will remember the fights and might be aggressive too. so find somewhere safe to go and leave.
2006-09-15 05:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You called him your boyfriend and not your husband? That means you are not legally married to him despite the fact that you have 3 kids for him, yes, that is why he is treating you shabilly. Well I think it serves you right. No man will ever respect a lady dat cheapen herself as you did. You just allowed yourself to be turned to a baby factory. Anyway, try to gather yourself together by improving yourself in your career, education. Focus on how to be somebody instead of manufacturing babies.If he knows you are serious with your life, he will respect you.
2006-09-15 04:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by ladyvickolay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'd probably respect you more if you shut down the baby factory and close them legs. What man would respect a woman who just "gives it up"?
If he won't respect you, go find someone else, leave his butt. But don't make the same mistake with the next one. Keep that kitty in the closet, make the sucker work for it and he will respect you.
2006-09-15 04:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys only respect intelligent women who speak well. You have become a baby factory to him....more then likely you had kids when he wasnt ready..now your going right into being a single mom..i hope this is what you wanted your life to be. Good job! Should have went to college...gotten an education..maybe you would realize that having kids doesnt keep a man.
2006-09-15 04:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I THINK YOU SHOULD LEAVE HIM. RESPECT HAS TO BE THERE IT'S PART OF LOVE, AND HE'S NOT BEING VERY CONSIDERATE OF HAVING A FAMILY THAT NEEDS HIM. DON'T FEEL BAD FOR YOURSELF OR YOUR KIDS, HE'S THE ONE THAT YOU SHOULD FEEL SORRY FOR BECAUSE HE DOESN'T KNOW WHAT HE'S GONNA MISS. HE'LL REGRET IT LATER... U CAN DO IT ON UR OWN, HECK U ALREADY ARE..
THIS IS FOR U, U GOTTA LOVE YOURSELF IN ORDER TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE. U SHOULD KNOW WHAT YOUR WORTH AND WHAT YOU WANT AND IS BEST FOR U..
DO THE RIGHT THING, IF HE DOESN'T APPRECIATE YOU FIND SOMEONE WHO DOES...
2006-09-15 11:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get him to respect u just leave his as$ i went thro with that crap for 3 and half years with my ex he didn't have respect for me at all treated me like sh*it started beating on me and wen i tried to leave him he'd say i'll change i love u i don't want to leave u i promise i'll change i respect u i won't hurt u anymore i'll do anything to be with u, he changed for a about a week and went bak to the way he had always been so i left him if ur man don't respect u he will never respect u so u deseve heaps better be with someone who loves u and treats u the way u should be treated
2006-09-15 04:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did he always act like this, before you had three kids with him?? Sadly if he doesn't respect you now, he probably never will. I say, find a better man! But remember to allow himt o be in his children's lives.
2006-09-15 04:20:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋