I am getting married next month, my fiance and I are hosting the wedding. My parents and I dont really get along especially my father and I am wondering if they will upset my wedding and If I should invite them?
2006-09-15 03:49:31 · 21 answers · asked by Joyann R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, I think the proper thing to do is invite them. You never know if this wedding will help turn things around and help patch up the relationship. You can invite them to the wedding, but just not have them participate in it. A lot of young couples these days forego traditional customs, like having the father walk the bride down the aisle. My husband and I just walked in together - neither set of parents actually participated and we didn't have a bridal party either.
2006-09-15 04:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that sometimes it is hard for people to maintain a good relationship with their parents. Believe me I know. But the bottom line is that your parents will always be your parents and it does not matter how much you feel like killing each other they will be there when your in need. So I believe that you should invite them if you don't you might not enjoy your wedding anyways because go the guilt feeling. So go ahead invite them and try to make things better, I am sure you will feel much better this way. Good Luck!!!!!
2006-09-15 10:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you get along or not, no matter what you do they are and always will be your parents, thanks to them you are able to marry the wonderful man you are marrying today because thanks to them you are here.
I had a similar problem with my Dad, but I don't regret having him being a part of my wedding, he passed away four months ago and even though we hadn't gotten along the fact that he was there in the most important day of my life helped us restore our relationship little by little.
Let your guard down, they won't upset your wedding and you will make them feel that although you don't get along that well they are still a part of your life.
Trust me, you won't regret it.
2006-09-15 11:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by White 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is up to you if you want to invite them.
If you feel there is no relationship between you two and will remain that way after your wedding, then it is up to you on not inviting them.
I am not inviting my bi logical father, my siblings on that side or anything. Not going to even tell them due to personal reasons.
Sometimes you have to do what is best you feel in your heart for yourself. If you feel they have tendency to upset events, maybe best to let them know where you stand and what action you will take if they do, if you invite them. (security etc).
2006-09-15 14:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your day and Your choice. If your father is the loud and disruptive type then you can't be faulted for wanting your day to be perfect, but if you guys just don't talk and differ in opinions then invite them you have dealt with them your entire life a few more hours on that day won't hurt. I would definitely invite them and pray they behave.
2006-09-15 12:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by solgiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite them, the weddings are great opportunity to heel the family relation. Ask your father to give you away, and mother to help you with the ceremony.
2006-09-15 11:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, your parents are adults. And even if they can't be bothered to act like it for one special occasion, they *should* at least be savvy enough to know that *they* are the ones who will look bad if they misbehave - not you!
Normally I'd cite the rule of etiquette that says invitations go to everyone whom you want to have in attendance, and say that possibly exempts you from inviting them. But since it's your parents, I say "invite them so you have the moral high ground later".
2006-09-15 10:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should invite them. They are your parent's... the people that raised you. You will regret it if you don't at least invite them to the wedding. It is their choice on weather or not they will come. Good Luck! Congrats!
2006-09-15 11:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by hullo? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will only have one set of parents in this life. Share with them the enjoyment of your wedding vows. Explain to them that this will be the happiest day of your life and you want them to be a part of it. Forget the past and live for today. It will make for a much nicer tomorrow.
2006-09-15 11:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Karyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless they are violent and there is a serious threat to the safety of others, I would say invite them. Be gracious and thank them for coming and no matter what they say don't respond in anger. Accept that they are who they are and you can't change them. Then go on with your day and remember what it is really all about!
Congratulations and good luck!
2006-09-15 14:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by S V S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋