I know personal ones are nice but can be lengthy (especially if you don't want to know ahead of time what the other person wrote)
I know traditional is easier (but can be somewhat of a snooze fest because we have ALL heard them before!)
2006-09-15 03:48:25 · 12 answers · asked by ~2Sxy4u!~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, we've all heard them before, but that is because they stand the test of time. When you promise to love, honor, cherish, etc. you are doing the same thing your parents, grandparents, great-grandparents have done. The tradition helps link the past to the present. It's not necessary to be original in all aspects of a wedding. Maybe you could save the personal stuff for a toast at the reception. Best wishes!
2006-09-15 04:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good wedding officiant will be able to accomodate these requests. Just tell him you want traditional-type vows, but you don't want it to be longer than 5 or 10 minutes. I did this, and the justice of the peace did very short vows (traditional but not religious) - he read the vows and we just said "I do" - not repeating the whole damn thing again which could forever (like "I, take you, to be my lawfully wedded husband...blah blah blah.) We took a sip of wine from the same glass as a symbolic thing. Then he ended it by reading just a short little poem about love, marriage. The whole thing took about 10 to 15 minutes.
2006-09-15 04:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always change traditional vows a little if you don't want them to be the exact same vows everyone has, they are quicker than the personal ones and they are fool proof too, ( I know this sounds cold...I know I know) because if you are sentimental like me, and try to create and say you own vows you will cry and cry and cry and mess your makeup up and the wedding video...
I chose traditional vows and changed them a bit, my husband was glad about it.
2006-09-15 04:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by White 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am ordained and i only do wedding,so all the folks that i have married wanted short and sweet...i think writing YOUR VOWS are so much better and you can have who ever is doing the wedding to read them if you are unsure if u can do it or not. i got married April of this year and we said our vows to one another on the beach as the waves were coming in.for one thing once the licenses are signed u are married weather u go thur the actual ceremony or not.and i have wrote vows for other people so u might find some one who could write yours...good luck
2006-09-15 05:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Small and intimate could be super for me.i'm engaged on the 2nd and we are thinking some lodge that over looks the forth bridges( I stay in Fife,Scotland) or a backyard wedding ceremony at Falkland palace.we are able to be having a humanist wedding ceremony as we are no longer religious and that's going to be very Scottish too.
2016-12-12 08:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by shoaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why rush? This is your wedding after all, and you're only supposed to do this once. Intimate means personal-- if you are worried about time constraints, then make a deal between the two of you that it will be XX minutes long. You want it to be romantic and memorable-- not quick and convenient.
2006-09-15 03:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by sheplansweddings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use a traditional vow but personalise it.
We are using a traditional Quaker vow, and then after writing our own vows.
2006-09-15 03:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married my husband wanted us to write our own and at first I wasn't sure about it, but then during the ceremony when he read me what he wrote it was beautiful! We had a friend become a minister to marry us also. Very unconventional, but so much more personal!
2006-09-15 16:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you answered your own question. If it's an intimate ceremony your going for: write your own. It's totally possible to keep them short. My friend wrote her own and had everyone in the church bawling!!
2006-09-15 05:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the justice of the peace. Weddings are a pain! Go to city hall and save money!
2006-09-15 03:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by The Masked Marauder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋