How can a long distance relationship work?

Question

And how can you let him feel that you care a lot, though distance hinders? How can I make him happy? What boys usually wanna hear from her girl?

We see each other after every two months

Answer 1

1) Making it work
If you do want to be together, there is a lot you can do to make it work. Top of the list is that agony aunt favourite - communication. The less you see each other, the more you need to hear each other.
So schedule regular telephone calls and stay in touch with emails, texts and letters. When you do make contact, don't just stick to love talk, but keep each other informed on the day-to-day aspects of your lives. This way you each stay aware of how the other is thinking, feeling and developing.
If one of you develops a new interest or hobby, the other should make an effort to be involved. It's not passion that ends long distance love, but usually plain loss of common interests.

2) Building trust
Because you're not there to keep an eye on each other, it's also important to build trust. Be extra demonstrative of your feelings. Send cards, flowers, presents. Say 'I love you' often, to make up for the fact that you can't show affection face-to-face.
Make extra efforts to be reliable, to do what you say you are going to do. If you each know that you are trustworthy in little things, you'll be able to trust in big things - like fidelity.

3) What about sex?
One big issue of living apart is missing out on lovemaking. Try having phone sex together. You can also practise teasing each other through the day with erotic text messages and, that evening, huskily describing what you'd like to do to each other.
Be careful, though. Don't let expectations build too high as sex may fall flat when you see each other. If the face-to-face lovemaking feels second best, put extra effort into meeting each other's lovemaking needs.
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Answer 2

I have been in a long distance relationship for a while now. My soon to be husband is in the Navy in Japan. The first and most important thing is trust and a very close secound comes comunication because you don't have physicall not that you should base a realtionship off that but it is easy to forget how much you love someone when you dont see them and talk to them and do fun stuff. Next I would say plan things like watch the same movie and talk about it. And play internet games together ( yahoo messanger is good for that ) also sending things in the snail mail is always nice it shows the other person you were thinking of them. I always send candy and letters and cards all kinds of cute stuff to let him know I am thinking of him. Make sure you both talk about what is going on where you are, it makes you feel like you are more involved with that persons life. And Try not to fight about stupid things, it is just a waste of time. I hope this helps you. It can work you just have to have a strong relationship and dont give up. If something is good it is worth working for. And nothing good is ever easy.

Answer 3

I am in a long distance relationship and have been for almost 2 years.

It can work. It all depends on how mature the people are and how much you want the relationship to work.

First, there has to be great and constant communication. You have to keep each other informed about your lives. You must make time to listen to that person. Write emails, phone calls, texts, letters, pictures. Change things up to keep it interesting.

Plan visits when ever you can. Since you cannot hold eachother all the time or have a lot of physical contact, there must be things done to replace that. If time and effort is not put into this type of relationship it wont work.

Also, if you are serious, you have to start planning how and when you will move near eachother. If you have no plans for the future, it will seem worthless and like you are stuck standing still.

It sucks when a person you love is far away. But it can work. Its not impossible.

Answer 4

This is my 2nd long distance relationship. The 1st lasted 10 years, and we only separated because of religious reasons, not because there was anyone else. Trust me, they work, it just takes time. You don't have to ever exert yourself because you are away from each other. My bf and I are 1/2 way around the world from each other, but we communicate everyday, by texting, phone calls etc, and we never missed a beat. The thing is, everyone has to know what they really want. Distance could never and will never hinder love. To me, it makes me want my baby more. Just be plain and always say whats on your heart to him. Be open and be genuine. I for one know that absence really does make the heart grow fonder.

Answer 5

I have been involved with a long distance relationship and it did work out. It depends on the two people in the relationship .. are you willing to put the time, effort or patience.

Its hard work but if you are both willing to put 100% effort into it then go for it. Things that helped us was talking online daily, web cam, Yahoo IM, email and communicating as much as possible.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 6

I am in a long distance relationship. What I try to do is we try to call each other and communicate as often as possible. During the day, I text him inspirational quotes or messages on his phone while he is at work. We call each other just to say good morning. It is difficult to make him happy sometimes because I am not there. We make constant plans for visitng each other and to spend time together.

Answer 7

It works when both partners have been in a long distance relationship before, which means that both know how to keep each other happy bcuz they've had the experience before.

You can make him happy just making him feel that your right there beside him, holding him. kissin him and just supporting his dreams. Say the right things bcuz you're not there to show him. Let him know you care and the relationship will definitely work.

Just be yourself!

Answer 8

Generally long distance relationships don't work.Mind u this is d general viewpoint.The best way to hav a long distance relationship work is 2 hav faith in each other.If u want 2 please him sexually,indulge in phone sex.U don't hav 2 do special things 2 make him feel dat u care;it is something 2 b felt,not said.I can say all dis cos i'm in the same situation.

Answer 9

I've been there.

You must be sure to start with someone who already loves you very much, and you know when you are seeing each other again.
In that limited time, you will servive, if you both trust each other, and make good contact to each other.
Just have a very very good sex before leaving. Show that you are the only girl who could make him feel so happy and fulfilled!!
He must call you his dream girl!

Answer 10

Long distance relationships can make for some great vacations. But there are an awful lot of lonely nights in between.