I love my boyfriend so much and I get really scared sometime because I love him too much. I am scared to think about if I ever lost him. I am not sure what I would do. I feel so vulnerable and I hate feeling that way. Is this what loving someone is about?
2006-09-15 03:31:28 · 12 answers · asked by lc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being in love is like walking blind folded with ear plugs across a hundred foot railroad track. Being out of love is like finally being able to take the blind fold off-you will be able to see the other idiots getting crushed but you won't have to hear their constant whining.
2006-09-15 07:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Caduceus89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a certain amount of vulnerability in any relationship, especially to begin with, because of the unknown factor. However the feelings of vulnerability should dissipate as the relationship develops if both people truly love each other and make the other feel safe and secure. If this does not develop, something is amiss. Too many people look for happiness and security through others. First you find peace, security and happiness within yourself, then you find someone who has done likewise. You need to do this. Then you are not co dependent in your relationship. No matter what happens, you then have the strength to stand on your own no matter how painful.
2006-09-15 03:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by oldman 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never felt vulnerable for loving someone.
I've felt that way when I was starting to fall for someone... but I wasn't sure yet.
When you really love and trust someone, the reason that you're vulnerable is because you can't imagine them hurting you.
2006-09-15 03:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not what loving is about but it sometimes is a part of loving, try not to let the feelings get the better of you its important to have a full life outside the relationship it gives you perspective and support and he will love you all the more for it
2006-09-15 03:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sure. I think that's a natural part of being in love. If you don't have that, then you are taking the love for granted, and you should never do that.
2006-09-15 03:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is. I have felt both ways before. I think it depends on whether you feel he loves you more or you love him more. I know one of my loves did love me more than I loved him and I think in the next case I loved him more than he loved me. And yes, in the latter case it can be very miserable. They seem to hold your whole life in their hands, almost feels like he's your jailer. Hmmm. Maybe I'm talking myself out of something here. Thanks.
2006-09-15 03:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should feel that your man at all times loves you just as much as you love him...you need to get your self away from him for a day are two **** take a week and give your self time to think and go do some thing for your self you should love your self just as much as you love him so go shoping
2006-09-15 03:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by Alisha B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love should have the opposite effect. It should make you feel incredibly safe. I suspect you do not feel your deep love being returned from him. Talk to him about it.
2006-09-15 03:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by Tulsa Boy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not a good place to be in.
it sounds to me that you're not so much in love with him, but dependent on him.
best try to gain some confidence and learn that life with and without him is still yours and that you are the one that controls everything about you.
2006-09-15 03:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont cry or think what would ever happen if you lost him but be happy cause you met him .its called love sweetie
2006-09-15 03:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by geebabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋