okay me and my ex were going out for a year in a half and he broke up with me for a month over the summer then came crawling back sayin he loved me with all his heart and couldnt picture himself with another girl so i took him back and we lasted a month and a half then he tells me hes not happy and wants to break up! i cried and told him not to speak to me yet he said he still loved me he jus didnt wanna be with me...then a few weeks later he calls me late one night saying he wanted to talk, he said hes got a big problem hes bad on weed and coke now that hes told me this i worry everyday bout him but now he wont talk to me or look at me or anything and i see him everyday at school and i still worry bout him and love him wit all my heart and i cant get over him i want to help him and be with him but i cant...what do i do?
2006-09-15 03:31:00 · 18 answers · asked by Samantha L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok well first of all his dad is suppose to be getting some help and yes i have tried calling him and texting him and he ignores all of the above. He wont look at me at school or talk to me, it seems like he feels i've done something wrong...its crazy! everytime i see him and yet he ignores me i cant help but to cry, ive gotten to where i cry all the time over him! i knew i loved him the day i met him and its really hard to let go. its like no other guy could possibly take his place and i cant help but compare every guy i meet to him and its like they dont measure up...plus he started snorting coke when we were together and he hid it from me along with the weed and everthing else! i wanna be with him so bad and especially now that we're seniors together and this is only my 2nd year at his school so i really need him more than anything. Im also scared to death that he's gonna mess with the wrong people and get killed or even kill somebody himself...i am horrified
2006-09-15 05:59:36 · update #1
He's just going to keep using you for his gain whenever he needs you. What about when you need him? Will he be there?
You need to let him worry about himself and move on
2006-09-15 03:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably called you becos you've always been there for him. You're a guarantee safe-bet for comfort.
But from his actions, that's all he is treating you as.
He doesn't love you if not he won't be making you so miserable. Right now, his top priority is himself and his problems.
You worrying about him is foolish (but understandable) on your part. Don't keep telling yourself you love him and so you must help him. You're fighting an unnecessary battle.
Pray for him, but save up your love and energies for someone who wants to develop a healthy relationship with you.
I hope you make the right (perhaps momentarily painful) choice and take a backseat. Don't participate in his life anymore. Waste of time.
2006-09-15 03:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult one, your heart is torn into too, you love him but hate his problems, theres a few ways you can go with this problem, you can: drop him completly and never speak to him again,(very drastic)
You Can: get him professional help, there are so many places where he can go if hes got a drug problem,
Or: tell him that he has to sort himself out, if you try and help him and it doesnt work you will get hurt more, if he loves you he will get himself clean for u. Its all down to the choice you make. Its his life but its seems that you cant live without him and he cant live without you.good luck
2006-09-15 03:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by Si_Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In-love is just a brain chemistry thing...you'll get over it. He's not into you and he's into drugs which makes him keep saying the love thing even when he KNOWs its not true.
Stop loving him...be angry, see his ugly points...its a fine line, between love and hate, so you can do it. Cut him off and never see him again....he's an idiot and you are too good for him. Raise your bar a little now that you know what he's really like. Date others...
2006-09-15 03:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Scully 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex who kept wheeling me along like that. If they really want you, they won't keep breaking it off. I think guys who do that are really not happy and just have nothing better to do or can't find better. You need to move on. If he's addicted to crack and weed, then there's nothing you can do to help him. He needs professional help. Tell him to get it.
2006-09-15 03:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is addicted to weed and coke you do need to let him go. You need to break it off with him so he can take care of himself. To get him help.... call a treament center or counselor or something. Just get him help. Then, after he gets help.... if you both desire after he has been clean awhile.... work on a relationship. Good luck to you and to him
2006-09-15 03:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will be fine, quit worrying. I smoked weed and blew lines for 15 years, now I run my own business and make 80,000 a year. As for you, move on there are billions of males in this world, just find another.
2006-09-15 03:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by bjk204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously he told you these things for a reason, it's possible he is leaning to you for help. If you love him and would like to try and help him, tell him you will help him find options on getting help. He has to want to get help or it won't work. Show him support if he is willing to get help but if he isn't, walk away, there is nothing you can do for him or a relationship like that
2006-09-15 03:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, haven't you learn your lessons? i know this not going to sit well but i have to say, your ex is a classic looser. and he has been drain the goodness out from you. don't fall into the pit-hole again. you can do better than this. you don't need all this drama. i'm sure you already full with yours. so, cut the cord, kick him to the curve. deal with the heartache for a while. trust me, you're better off without him. please see things from a third-person-point of view. it will be crystal clear.
2006-09-15 03:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt wanna hlp himself , you cant help him, i wonder if the coke was the one talking when he broke up with you!!
2006-09-15 03:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋