i have a girlfriend since past 2 years and she is maaaaaadly in love with me and i love her too though not as much as she does. i started seriously thinking about her a year ago but later realized that she needed to improve her looks and all ... she is 19, petite, cute but not hot and has acne thing i dunno when would go away, if at all. she loves me so much that i dont wanna lose her but ... i still feel more attracted towars other girls .. who may or may not love me as much, i dont know. i wish she was more attractive for me so that i won't be looking at other girls at all ... what do i do ???
2006-09-15 03:25:44 · 24 answers · asked by megaman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break up with her gently. If you can't love her for whats inside, then you don't deserve her. She should be with someone who really appreciates her. You have a lot of growing up to do before you can be in a serious relationship again. Learn to love people for whats inside. You don't fall in love with someone with yours eyes, but with your mind. If you want to be happy in life you'll learn to connect with someone intellectually and not just physically. Looks fade.
2006-09-15 03:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful that you have a woman who loves you for you....How are your looks? You some supermodel type?? No one is perfect and you should be pleased that you have found a faithful, loving woman to have at your side. You have been with her a good little while so there must be something that keeps the two of you bonded. Don't do anything you will regret...you may never find another woman as kind and dear as she....or perhaps you might. But think of the things you'll miss about her if you give her up because of looks alone. Have you talked to her about helping her find something to help clear the acne?? Maybe you could do that.....Maybe you two just need some spice to get back to that "new" feeling again the relationship....sometimes our feelings start to diminish, at least we think they do, just because we're stressed, bored or whatever. Try doing some new things with her or some things you did with her in the beginning that you haven't done in awhile....they might re-ignite a spark. Whatever you choose, if you let her go...please don't tell her it's because of her looks, that would be crushing to her....Good luck!
2006-09-15 03:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you look at other girls and think that they are more attractive than your girlfriend, just think about all the good things that made you fall in love with her you know, how good she treats you and how much she loves you and try to get past that. If you can't...which will be a terrible thing then just tell her that there are certain things you just can't get past because you have your own personal issues that you need to deal with and it' s best if you guys take time off. One time I had a really fat boyfriend who I was in love with and there was this other guy that I had had a crush on for about two years. Well me and this guy took a class in school together and he liked me so I told my boyfriend I wanted to break up because I didn't want to cheat on me....well this guy and I we hit it off pretty well but he did have a child with his ex girlfriend so that put a spin on the situation. At the end of the day I just loved my boyfriend too much to leave him even though I was so attracted to the other guy. In the end I think I should have stayed with the other guy cuz my fat ex became an a$$hole and woke up one morning thinking he was sexy because he was wearing button down shirts and got his ear pierced. Either way I found someone new who I like a lot and I care about. I'm not saying this will be your case but she sounds like a really great girl.
2006-09-15 03:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Bank$ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a box of proactive and although you may love her your not attracted to her which means that you are more prone to cheating it's just a matter of time. Just let her down now before she gets hurt more than she will be if you do it now. You know, don't avoid giving her an explanation either let her know that you're not ready and you know that you would never be faithful to her if you were to remain together because you can't commit to her and your feelings are not as strong as they used to be. Do not be shallow enough to tell her she was just the flavor of the week and after you became involved with her in a relationship you started desiring other women because you are just a horn dog, LoL!
2006-09-15 03:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she loves you so much. Why don't you get her to do all the freaking things you always fantasized about. Depending on your girl, she might even be curious about other girls. If you don't have any fantasys, go together to any bookstore. They have a section of books that will give you some ideas to try in private. Teach her what you want her to do in bed. She'll do it as long as you communicate it in a confident, proper way. As far as the acne, treat her to a spa treatment with a facial, buy her some of that stuff they advertise on TV so much. Talk to her about it, be nice!
2006-09-15 03:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.i have noticed that when in a stabile relationship women/girls tend to neglect their looks.making her feel insecure won't help.the acne will go away pretty soon.by the time she's 20 it'll all be gone.try extremely subtle hints like buying her a body lotion to use after the shower, something hot to wear at night, but ellegant and simple.these might wake up her appetite for being vanitous and confident about her looks, so that she will try making herself better for you.get a catalog of cosmetics and browse it with her, say you got it from your mom or sister, if you have one.or just leave it lying around your room when she comes over.she will notice it, believe me.as for you,don't blame yourself for looking at other girls, but don't over do it either.try to reduce the amount of physical interaction with her.it may be that you've gotten so used to her that the attraction decreased.men need diversity and spice to keep them satisfied.if she has a very close friend that you get along with very well you might try talking to her about it, but only if that girl is smart and will not go to your girlfriend and missinterpret what you told her.good luck with that :)
2006-09-15 03:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by vehrim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inspite of looking at other hot girls u can advise ur girlfriend 2 change her appearence and look the way u want her 2.If she really loves u she won't mind ur suggestion of a better appearence.All of us want a good looking & attractive partner;nothing wrong in it.Please be frank with her.U can personally give her some beauty tips;buy her a good magazine that contains makeover tips.There's so much u can do my dear...But i doubt ur love towards her.U don't love her,do u?
2006-09-15 03:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by aditi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is all about finding someone who we cannot be without...a life-long partner. You cannot stay in a relationship, when you know you are still looking....its not fair on either of you. Its wrong to stay in a relationship just because the other loves you so much...you have to be there for yourself....and YOU have one foot out the door. So leave already...but do it kindly.
2006-09-15 03:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will not get any better from here on out.
The best thing to do is end the relationship and try to remain friends. You never know things might be different after 5 years or so.
2006-09-15 03:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go so she can find someone who truly loves her and appreciates her for who she is. It sounds like your just into the whole looks thing. Maybe after you've matured and grown a bit, you'll look back and say, "man, I really had a great girl and I let her slip away."
2006-09-15 03:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by gel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋