alot of people have been telling me stuff that frankly no girlfreind wants to hear how could i find out the truth without confronting him?
2006-09-15 03:14:44 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't. You can only confront to get the answers
2006-09-15 03:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you'll never know - I dated a woman for four years, we broke it off - and now I find out almost a year later that she was never faithful...You get over it, it hurts, but I guess the only thing I can tell you is that I look back at it now, and think that there is not a real reason why I should be that upset, I never had anything in the first place.
All in due time, nothing stays burried forever - ever.
Actions are who we are, and at the end of the day you decide if your going to be a good person or not.
Good Luck.
2006-09-15 10:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have any hard core evidence you can't. Most men know the cardinal rule is to deny, deny, deny. So you better get out your spy gear and do your own detective work. I'm sure the people that are telling you stuff are probably giving you dates, times and places (if not I wouldn't believe anything). So just happen to go past a couple of the places mentioned incognito and see what you come up with or hire a private investigator if its that serious.
2006-09-15 10:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♪ TrickNice ♪♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People on these message boards can be so mean...anyway to answer your question people can tell you all day long to confront him but come on now..anyone in their right mind will know that the average person in a relationship will deny mostly everything negative because they are scared to lose the one they love...even when they do something like cheating that could jeopardized that anyway... I would say just start doing a little snooping around... you need actual proof for yourself for when and if you ask him and he say "no I didn't do this or that" Just my two cents
2006-09-15 10:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by datgagirl87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny, you're yelling that you want to know the truth from HIM yet you are asking complete strangers on the internet and you are saying you don't want to confront him. I don't think you have the courage to find out the truth so just let it pass, when you do have the courage to ask the truth that you deserve by the way you simply ask "why are people telling me these things, where would they get such ideas, please ease my mind by explaining to me why have to hear these things."
2006-09-15 10:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose to say even if you confronted him he would be honest? If the people who are telling you this are credible, then it is probably true! Don't be in denial and waste time being made the fool. Just ask him, but do not tell him who told you because then he could turn it around on them on why they would lie if he is cheating. Good luck, be a smart empowered woman!
2006-09-15 10:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe everything you hear. You should look at the source first and make a judgment on them before you start confronting your boyfriend. The source could just be jealous of the two of you.
2006-09-15 10:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your point? You either believe the rumors or you don't, if you believe the rumors, then it doesn't matter whether he denies them or not, you won't believe him because you don't trust him. If he tells you the rumors are true, well in your mind you already knew that to be the case. If you don't believe the rumors then what's the point in confronting him? I'd say the problem is your insecurity, not the rumors.
2006-09-15 10:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. People love to spread gossip and lies. A lot also gets lost in translation, the more people talk.
If you really want to know, you'll have no choice but to confront him. When you do, look right in his eyes and you'll know if he's being truthful with you
2006-09-15 10:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real truth can only come from him and if it is something bad, don't expect to hear the truth! It is only gossip until he tells you himself but in my experience, i never did get the truth from him. so, decide for yourself, if the things you have been told, can you live with it if these things are true?
2006-09-15 10:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't fully know the truth. There are many different truths depending on who's telling the story. If you're questioning what you're hearing, then you obviously doubt him, or don't trust him. Relationships are built on trust. Move on to someone who deserves you.
2006-09-15 10:17:28 · answer #11 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋