This is REALLY long, but I would really really, greatly appreciate an honest answer, thanks!?

Question

This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said

well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.

But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,

Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?

And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.

But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?

Answer 1

Didn't you ask this the other day?
You have to let it go dude. Don't date your friends. I guess you didn't like my answer the last time you asked this.

Find someone else, she's not worth your trouble

Answer 2

From what you've said, it seems to me that she is really scared about getting in a relationship with you. Personally, I think that she does like you, but that she is not ready for a relationship yet. I think what she means when she says letting you down easy is that it is more about her than you. I don't think that she wants you to wait around for her, so she tells her friends she doesn't want to hurt you.

My advice to you, if you really think you love her, is to let this be for now. She knows how you feel and if she wants to be with you-if she can handle it-she will come to you. If she never does, then you know that this was not meant to be right now. Also, understand that some people are afraid of a good thing. She might really like you and want to be with you, but is afraid that if she lost you that it would devastate her too much. You can't guarantee her that you are going to be with her forever, so she doesn't know what to do.

Keep the door open for her if you want, but know that she might not come through it and continue to live your life.

Answer 3

I sounds like you really like her. I am a girl and I am more honest with my mom because I know she won't reject me, than my friends because I know that they are constently judging me. I think you are right that she is scared. I am twenty-seven now but can still remeber my first kiss and how terrified I was. She probably likes you but is scared to try and mess up. First boyfriend put a lot of pressure on someone. If I were you, because you seem to care for her so much. And she seems like a nice girl (how was your day, ect.), I would just hang around her and wait till she is ready, and then when she is you will be there.

Answer 4

Friends are a usually better than anything more. If you have a great friednship than leave what is good alone. If you two really like each other it will come in time. It would be a bad thing to lose a great friendship to trying to make something work out that isnt ready to happen.

Answer 5

As stated in your "question" you are only 15. You have your whole life ahead of you. Take it from someone who knows....take your time. Enjoy your life. This is not the only fish in the sea. It is very possible that you and her may lose contact for a while and find your way back to each other. If it is meant to be then it will happen. If not, then you will find someone else who will make you happier than you have ever been in your life. Take your time. Don't rush it.

Answer 6

Well I've been in a situation like this before with my ex boyfriend, he and I were best friends since we were like 12 and I had other boyfriends and he had other girlfriends. Even though I was dating other people, I would just die inside because I wanted to be with him but I didn't know how to tell him. Just stick with it...even though I know it's hard, you know continue to hang out with her, and just see where things go. I know that it's hard because you want to be her boyfriend but maybe since she's never had a boyfriend she's a little skeptical. I will wish you luck and hope that everything works out for you.

Answer 7

LAY OFF, IF SHE LIKE YOU SHE'LL COME AROUND IF NOT THEN SHE WON'T THERE'S NOTHING MORE IRRITATING THEN A PESTY DUDE, DATE OTHER GIRLS AS CRAZY As it sounds when you guys reject us it makes us want you even more. you sweating her too tough relax and let it be. and stop consulting everybody else about her feelings for you. that makes you seem extra pesty. be cool man lay back in the cut and let her come to you if she likes you she will if not you still have your friendship, but at the rate your going broadcasting your feelings to anyone who will listen and taking a people poll from her friends and family is totally Boo! and that's not a good thing be cool. Women hate men who seem pressed it's a total turn off!

Answer 8

Kid, you don't love her. You are infatuated with her. As tough as this may sound, you will be infatuated with scores of girls over the next decade. And as intense as your feelings might be for her, it is not love.

Keep this in mind: Billions and billions of people have felt similar feelings for another. Your feelings for this girl are not unique. If she doesn't reciprocate your feelings, move on. It will hurt like nothing else, but in time you will heal and have feelings (probably even more intense) for another girl. Move on.

But you're only 15. I'd say you should focus on your studies instead. Honestly.

Answer 9

bloody hell, you're kids who are starting to learn that life isn't as straight forward as the movies, video games, and songs make it all out to be.

enjoy the friendship, be a good bloke and don't push her into anything she doesn't want, and you'll be a better man for it.

in other words, relax dude and go kick a football, play your violin, or whatever you do...

Answer 10

well her telling he rmom that she likes you .. does that mean as a friend ? how old is she if you are only 15 ? if i were you i would just accept what she said that she just wants to be friends .. if it is meant to be anything more it will be .. but be patient with her .. don't try to rush he rinto anything or you may lose her as a friend :)