Confusing signals, what can i do/should I be worried?

Question

Okay I kind of have the reverse problem of most women.. so he goes.
Been dating a guy for about 2 1/2 months, things are going well in general, we are sexually active, we're exclusive, i spend the night a lot.
So here's the confusing part.
first We don't have sex very often. He's an exuser and diabetic so I know his libido is lower than most men his age (early 20s) but this is low, max twice a week with me spending the night 5 times! Then he won't ever initiate the sex, he may mention it 'sounding good' but won't actually initiate.
second emotionally he's surprisingly open with me, telling me how he feels about most everything related to us, which i'm not used to BUT he will not touch me. A little pat on the bottom or he'll touch my hair I would say usually once everytime i see him.. but that's it. won't initiate a kiss or anything. he never turns me away though, and i try to touch him often.

What's going on?! I'm used to guys being all touchy and he's not.
cont.

im long winded.

I've talked to him about it, and he seems to think that he touches me a lot, and about not initiating things he knows he doesnt but i suppose because i will he thinks its more acceptable than it is.
Sometimes I feel he's lost interest because there's no physical affection and when i say so he just gets a tiny offended and tells me how much he cares.

How can i get him to touch me, should i be worried?

I'm pretty certain he's not gay like I said he's an exuser (mostly meth and heroin)and a diabetic his libido is going to be low, I knew that going into this relationship.
It's mainly the physical affection that gets me

Answer 1

I don't understand. What is the problem?

You know how he is. If that's ok with you, then its ok. If its not, then its not.

If you wish he were different, then forget it. People don't change.

To your question of if you should be worried, the answer is no. There's nothing to worry about here, other than the possibility that you two are just not right for each other.

Answer 2

WELL FIRST OFF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS BRAND NEW FOR ONE AND KINDA SOON 2 1/2 MONTHS..? THAT'S SOON SECOND HAVE YOU EVER CONSIDERED THAT HE MAY BE GOING THROUGH HIS OWN THING THAT MAY NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU..? WHEN MEN ARE STRESSED ABOUT OTHER THINGS LIKE MONEY AND THINGS LIKE THAT THERE SEX DRIVE TENDS TO DROP IT USUALLY HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP THEY JUST HAVE OTHER THINGS ON THERE MIND BELIEVE IT OR NOT FROM TIME TO TIME MEN DO THINK ABOUT THINGS OTHER THAN SEX, TWO HE MAY NOT BE AN AFFECTIONATE PERSON SO HUGGING AND KISSING MAY NOT COME NATURAL TO HIM NO MATTER HOW MUCH HE LIKES YOU IF THAT'S NOT HOW HE EXPRESSES HIS FEELINGS THEN YOU WON'T GET HUGS AND KISSES ALL DAY BECAUSE THAT'S NOT WHO HE IS. YOU ALSO HAVE TO KEEP IN CONSIDERATION BEFORE YOU JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS THAT YOU TWO STILL REALLY DON'T KNOW EACH OTHER 2 MOTHS ISN'T LONG AT ALL. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IRRITATES HIM WHAT DOESN'T, HIS PET PEEVES ETC. SO JUST CHILL AND GIVE MAY MAN A BREAK. US WOMEN TEND TO STRESS AND NAG ABOUT NOTHING WHICH IS A HELL OF A TURN OFF!

Answer 3

I would tell him that you want him to take the initiative more. I was in a similar situation and told my boyfriend that I wanted him to initiate sex because I had been doing so a lot. Now he knows it's important to me. Also maybe the two of you can plan an evening together.

Answer 4

some people are not touchers. He was probably over hugged as a kid so he now shys away from contact. That or his drug use has affected him.

Learn to live without the attention or help him help you.

Answer 5

Maybe he is confused about his sexuality and is struggling to come out of the closet. Good luck.