Bully Problems !!?

Question

My 9 yr old is in a new school and 4 girls are bulliing her durring recces.How do i approach the principle about without losing my temper.Apparently my child says the teachers at recces are to busy talking to notice her being shoved around or there not doing anything about it when she tells on these girls.

Answer 1

I'm sorry this is happening to your daughter and you. We experienced something very similar last year. My daughter and another girl shared a mutual friend. Toward the end of the year, my daughter started coming home with marks on her. Appearently, the other girl was hitting her on the bus. Enough to leave welps. I finally told my daughter that it's ok to hit back to protect herself. I also told the girl with plenty of other kids around, that I wasn't going to allow her to be hit any more. So, that night, it got bad and ended in a fight. I went to school the next day to find a solution to this problem. The principal was very carefree about the whole thing. Now the whole school year, I'd told my daughter to be nice and respect the girl. She did....even the mutual friend said she did. Then the teacher put them next to each other in class. I told her this would be a problem and she said they have to learn. That's when things got bad on the bus. I said I wanted them seperated in class and that was done. A few days went by and my daughter came home upset. This girl that had been hitting her, threatened to kill her. I went back to school and said something had to be done. I was extremely calm, just worried for my daughter. He said he'd seperate them on the bus. I said that the other girl shouldn't even be riding the bus. She lives on another route, but was only riding because of the mutal friend. The principal refused to take her off the bus or make her ride her own. Then on top of it, I asked the counselor to talk to my daughter to make sure she was dealing with the threat. She always talks to me, but I thought I should be certain. The counselor had the nerve to call the other girl into my daughters session to discuss it. My daughter said both times, she sat there and said nothing while this other girl badmouthed me the whole time. She said that her mom told her things about me. I didn't even know the mom really. The counselor didn't say or do anything to stop this behavior. It was horrible. I ended up driving my daughter to and from school the last 2 weeks. Nothing was done to this child at all. We asked what would happen when school started this year and the principal only said that the 3 girls would have to stay seperated. That's all. He included all 3 girls because he figured the mutual friend was in the middle. When that's all they did and after the behavior at the counseling sessions, we put our daughter in private school this year. It's been the best thing we could've ever done. They have a zero tolerance policy. They're also so much further ahead than public schools here. We all love it and our daughter is thriving.

I really don't have any advice for you, unfortunately. Talk to the teacher and the principal. Instill it into them that your daughter is hurt and upset. If nothing is done, go to the school board. This can't be allowed to happen. Just don't get upset or go in with an attitude. Make sure they know how severe it is. If you feel like you're getting noplace, maybe check into other school alternatives. Maybe private or just transferring her within the school district. Just don't allow it to continue. You're daughter is hurting and suffering each day this happens. She deserves better and it's up to the school to control it.

Good luck!!

Answer 2

The first person to go to is the teacher, then if this doesn't get anywhere thengo to the principal but don't get angry. It is most likly he/she has no idea it is going on and once known will do everything possible to stop it. If for some reason this doesn't work look at changing schools but if this is not possible the next step would be to go to the education board. Your child has a right to be safe at school and bullying has life long consequences (not good ones)Has your daughter got friends that can support her at school and stick by her, if so tell her to stay with them. Bullies prefer a child on their own rather than a group ( most times)Do all you can to keep your child safe

Answer 3

Here is what I would do. I would go to the school during recess and tell no one including my daughter what i was up to. Hide behind a wall or tree and observe all the kids on the playground. Don't intervene if something should happen just observe and take note. Then go straight to the principles office and explain to them what you had saw and how you came about observing this behaviour. If he/she says they will seperate the girls, that is not good enough. Tell him/her if they don't follow through on suspension then you will call the superintendant about this. Most schools have zero-tolerance with all the school shootings and violence in our school systems that you will not stand around and have this done to your daughter. Get other parents involved and see if you can track down the parents of these girls and speak to them directly. If you want you can file assault charges with the local police dept. and they can get the names and addresses of the parents of the children doing this and they will go speak to the parents. Good luck and remember fight tooth and nail for your child's safety!

Answer 4

You should absolutely go to the Principal now, before the fighting intensifies. Remember that at this point the Principal does not now what is going on and that losing your temper will not help your daughter. Try to stay as calm as possible and let him know exactly what is going on. he should be very concerned about what is going on and do something right away, including speaking to the teachers on recess duty.
You might want to enroll your daughter in a Tae Kwon Do class, she will be taught self defense. Most Tae Kwon Do teachers will teach the kids when it is appropriate to use their skills, make sure that your teacher is one that only abdicates using them when threatened. If your daughter learns these skills chances are she will never have to use them.
I wish you luck with your daughter, keep reassuring her that things will get better as she grows up.

Blessed Be

Answer 5

Take your daughter to a junk yard and ask the person if she can destroy some stuff in it. Once she has finished she will be calm this excersice will let her release her anger start going to thai chi lessons or even to a spa every now and then once you think she is calm tell her she has to stand up for herself. Im eleven and i have been bullied tell her the best way is to stand up and say.
" Listen Here I have had enough. What is ur problem with me. If you do have a problem with me why bother with me."
Once she has done that tell her that bullies are insecure idiots who r jealous and remind her to ignore them.




Tell your daughter i said good luck and dont worry

Answer 6

This is how I would handle it:

1. Make a meeting with the teachers and the principal and discuss it. If they dont' do anything about it,

2. You go up to the school with your daughter and have her point out the girls. I would yell at them and say they BETTER not harass your daughter again, or else.

Kids always get scared when another adult comes in the mix.

Answer 7

Teach her self-defense so she can beat the s*** out of the 4 girls. lol, no really, you and your daughter need to have a talk with the principal and tell him/her that your daughter is being bullied at recess and ask her if she can identify the four girls. Tell the principal to have the teachers look after her during recess. Or have the principal follow her from far away and look out after her at recess.

Answer 8

Approach the principle and ask about their bully policies then explain your daughters situation - if nothing seems to happen again approach the principle and advise that if nothing is done about it you will take it to the education board - if all else fails move her to another school as you dont want her hating school so much she refuses to go or starts wagging

Answer 9

You must report the bullying to the principal. Most schools have a zero-tolerance policy for this behavior and the girls may be suspended from school. Let the principal know that you expect him or her to take immediate action or you will report the next incident to the police.

Answer 10

YOU HAVE TO BE VERY CALM FOR YOUR KIDS SAKE.

GO TO THE KIDS....
LOOK, YOU LITLLE BASTARDS, IF YOU EVEN SO MUCH AS LOOK IN THE DEIRECTION OF LOOKING AT MY LITTLE GIRL THE WRONG I WILL BE ALL OVER YOU IN 2 SECONDS.

GO TO THE TEACHERS...
BIT**, MY CHILD HAS ONE MORE TIME TO COME HOME UPSET, AND I PROMISE YOU WILL DEFINATELY FEEL ME. I DON'T GIVE A DAMN WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO, BUT YOU BETTER CONTROL THESE LITTLE IMPS ON THIS PLAYGROUND, OR I'M GONNA PUT YOUR FACE IN THE SAND.

THEN THE PRINCIPAL...
i just don't understand.. why my baby??
i would appreciate if you could possibly talk to the parents.. it's gotta be coming from home..
i teach my child that violence is not the way.

WHEN HE TURNS AROUND...FLIP HIM OFF!!!!!!!!!!! LOL