hi my boyfriend is kurdish iraqi, he says his a good muslim but done a few things wrong like ....?

Question

have sex b4 marriage, seen pawn b and few more and he says his sorry he did things wrong hen he came to england but he still thinks his a good muslim but is he, what do u muslims think

Answer 1

Well, apparently all us 'Infidels' will burn in hell for the 'Western way' we live our lives - like drinking/watch bad tv/sleeping with many partners blah blah blah........... I can tell you that there are Muslim men who do all of the above and worse and would still pontificate that we are all Infidels and of course, they are not. I have lived in several Muslim countries, have Muslim friends and have known Muslims in the UK. They have smoked/drunk alcohol/slept with many different people but if you questioned their religion - they are 'good Muslims'! I like a lot of the people I've met who happen to be Muslim I don't care whether they adhere to a list of ancient rules written by some old Croc, I just care whether they have a good heart and are kind. That goes for any other religion too. I think many Muslims struggle with the fact they know they don't practise their faith completely. Then how can they call us Infidels?

Answer 2

If he or anyone else has done or are doing such things (sex before marriage, free mixing between sexes, drinking alcohol, watching dirty films, taking drugs etc.etc), which islam forbids, than he is not a good Muslim.
Today you will find that there are alot of Muslims doing these acts likewise same with Christians, Jewish, Hindus etc, etc. Thats him as an individual, we shouldn't judge a particular religion due to their actions. But, look at the teachings of the religion itself. In Islam, If a person does such actions and then repents sincerly, has remorce and intends not to do it ever again and strives hard to live according to its teachings than God is the Most Merciful and Most Forgiving, He will forgive.
If he is out for flesh and a quick release then thats him and people should not judge Islam due to it.

Answer 3

I know from experience (13 years in the Middle East) that there's no such thing as a good Muslim going out with a white woman. Stick to your own kind, there's enough cross breeds in this country without adding to it.

Answer 4

I consider you wholehardedly. we could reform ourselves. develop expertise of deen. Make it a huge deal whilst toddlers are small so as that whilst they are older that's a huge deal. preparation, preparation, preparation. stay Islam so the youngsters have good examples. practice Islam so as that the youngsters understand. And comprehend that possibly all the negativity that has been forged on the Ummah could desire to be possibly Allahs way of putting us able to coach to Him rather of scuffling with each thing else whilst in fact that's He who facilitates it and in straightforward terms He who aspects up it if in straightforward terms all of us turn to Him and stop being disobedient and giving ability to and fearing people who will sometime die like us. action is amazingly substantial however the remarkable action is much extra useful. i've got confidence that we are being punished as Muslims together, and allah has possibly allowed our enemies ability over us, because of this disobedience. you may no longer have confidence he controls the best and undesirable in case you do no longer know this additionally. we could practice Islam as we incredibly have confidence that it is the only thank you to fulfillment. As-Salaamu Alaikum

Answer 5

Kurdish, hmmm sounds dodgy to me, given the fact his people where persecuted by Saddam Hussein, hes obviously not a good Muslim and can hardly regard himself as one if he has had sex before marriage, in their law it is forbidden and punishable by death!
So please don't be so naive as to assume he is interested in you for you, their is a possibility hes more interested in your nationality! After all if he marries a British woman he can remain in the Country..

I doubt somehow he would introduce you to any of his friends and family as it would be an insult to them.
Your a western woman, don't forget that and in their religion and law your regarded as a n 'infidel' which in the loose tern means pig, beneath them etc..

Unless he is willing to change his Religion and adapt to western Culture then forget it, your just setting yourself up for allot of heartache and who's to say this guy hasn't already got a wife and kids back in Iraq!
Please drop him and find a man who won't fill you with lies and keep secrets from you..because believe me honey no woman in their right mind would have this guy unless they where Muslim also or willing to become one...

Would you really consider becoming a slave to his will..after all that's all Muslim women are, and they are treated as second class citizens, do you honestly believe a Muslim man who has been brought up surrounded by Muslim society and the way in which they treat women would all of a sudden treat you with respect!

Maybe to begin with until he got his feet under the table, then I guarantee you, you'll see his true colours!
Get out while you can and find a nice Irish or British lad...one who'll love and respect you for you...

Answer 6

Tell him to go back home, not personal, cant be cos Ive never met him, but this country is already over populated. We cant keep having all these people from other countries too.

Answer 7

"Those (are the true believers) who, when they commit an evil deed, or wrong their souls, remember Allah, and seek forgiveness for their sins - and who but Allah forgives sins? They do not insist upon the sins they have committed, and they know (that Allah is forgiving)." (Qur'an 3:135)

God(Allah), the Almighty, has said: O Son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O Son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O Son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins as great as the earth, and were you then to face Me ascribing no partners to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it.

"Say: 'O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of God: for God forgives all sins (except shirk): for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'" (39:53)


A good Muslim, God alone knows who is in reality a good Muslim, for faith is in heart, and it is not for men to judge the hearts of other men.
God has created man weak, and man often falls into temptation, should man repent sincerely, then he is forgiven.

Answer 8

Yeah, you say "a good muslim". Isn't that an oxymoron? Is that a muslim that doesn't think unbelievers should be killed?

Answer 9

I converted to Islam to marry my muslim husband (mainly to keep his family happy - that's fine by me as I don't believe in any god), and we're not good muslims (we smoke and drink etc) but we are good people. Why should there be a difference? Religion causes so many problems.

Answer 10

spaulding...for goodness sakes...but a dictionary..If you want to insult someone at least get those pesky sound-alike words correct..