What are your thoughts on criticism and fault-finding?

Question

What is your opinion about magnifying the faults of others?

Answer 1

If it is offered from a place of genuine sincerity and compassion, constructive criticism can be a gift.

However, if someone's goal is merely to magnify the faults of others, it is means the person doing the pointing is in need of more personal evolution. They need to be less concerned with the faults of others and more focused on correcting their own.

Answer 2

My opinion is that I'm Ironically criticized for doing exactly that. I'm a very detail oriented person that does not take criticism well but can certainly dish it out. It causes serious difficulties in my marriage but some how i manage to clean up the mess I make. I think my brain has certain expectations of things and when reality does not meet those expectations, I judge or report on those incongruities. My new mantra is "no expectations". It has helped. It's actually all my Dad's fault, right?

Answer 3

There is nothing in criticism and fault-finding that is positive. Of course we all recognize things that are out of order with others. That being said, I've been taught that we need to take a closer look at ourselves and OUR reaction towards them. What are we doing that may actually be worsening that situation? Helping can very easily turn to judging and criticizing. Part of helping is realizing that we are not perfect either.

I try, but I haven't perfected this. I guess, like everyone else, I'm a work in progress!

Answer 4

It depends on your motives as well as the nature of the faults in others you are pointing out. Also, do you have the consent of these people you are judging to make your critique? Under the right circumstances can be a very noble and helpful thing to do; but most of the time it would probably be annoying and divisive.

Answer 5

there are two different ways the first is to demean and humiliate telling the person they are dumb, stupid and will never ever amount to anything. this obviously is not helpful and causes resentment. the second is constructive and actually helps the person being criticized. this manner is something like really disagree with you however if you would look at this problem another way and change this and that it might help you. there are two ways you can call a person a
**** ---- ****. the first is " bill, you stupid jerk, don't you know any better. **** ***** it you will never amount to anything. you should never have been born you ****. " or " Bill, you old **** ----- **** it is so good to see you. lets go get a cup of coffee and talk over old times. "

Answer 6

I'm all for it. I don't even know you, and already I want to criticize you and display your faults. Indeed, I would like to magnify your faults and perhaps even write a song that excoriates and denounces your faults and your wife's faults and your dog's faults and your friends' faults ad nauseam. Why do you ask?

Incidentally, I would begin by referencing your absurd question.

Answer 7

As soon as a thought of judgement against another enters your mind - there is only one person you are not loving and that is yourself.

ANY judgement or criticism of another never ever defines them or who they are - all it does is define the person make the criticism as one who 'needs to judge'.

The gift in this seems to be that as and when these thoughts enter your head, you have the opportunity to forgive this in yourself. So the next time 'someone' else seems to exhibit this thing that was once labelled a 'fault', no longer even gets your attention.

Unconditional love is the love of the whole, not just the parts that are 'good'. Surely the realisation here is that there is only 'one' of us here making our way to god realisation (spirit, higher self, life etc).

:-)

Answer 8

You are a mirror to others, they are a mirror to you.
If you criticize, the other person's "self" is damaged. You view yourself as you are mirrored. Someone appreciates your comment or sees your good heart, and your inner self is strengthened. Other people have the same needs. If that person has no "good" in your eye, find something anyway, or simply go on. There is no need to be judgmental, critical, or negative. Be positive or neutral.
I found my dad super critical. I was never "good" enough...I am suffering still.... I found some people who are positive, supportive and encouraging, but especially non-judgmental and accepting, and I have found that I am worthy of love and am capable of loving. This has impacted my life immensely. All people deserve this experience. It bring healing, peace and inner bliss.

Answer 9

Unless they are just really annoying, finding fault in others is a way to make the fault finder feel better about themselves.

Answer 10

Criticism everywhere in our life, I would expect a constructive criticism which may improve our life style. Fault finding is our in born quality... one should know ... how and where to express it.